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Today's children are the treasures of the family for their parents, and parents devote their lives to giving their children the best within their own capabilities.
"Give the best to the child" seems to have become the colloquialism of many parents, and even sacrifice their own expenses as the basis, so is this seemingly good practice for the child really good for the child?
The child's clothes cost thousands of dollars, but the mother is simply dressed
When I was on the subway the other day, my mother heard two mothers discussing buying clothes for their children.
A mother said: I buy clothes for my children to ensure the quality, some time ago to buy a new down jacket, a piece of 1,000 yuan smaller, cotton shoes are also 4, 500, but the child's clothes must be worn well.
I looked at this mother, dressed very casually, her hair was messy, plain face to the sky, very lack of spirit, such a simple mother, but to buy such expensive clothes for her children to dress, such a contrast gap is really strong.
In life, I don't know how many parents are like this, leaving all the good things to their children, but they can only save money and use themselves, and all the money saved is spent on their children. Even self-implied: for the sake of the child's good, adults are wronged a little, and no one can be wronged by the child.
You and your child's clothes, who is more expensive?
For the matter of buying clothes for children, presumably ten thousand parents will have ten thousand thoughts in their hearts, often according to the specific situation.
But no matter what everyone thinks, a mother who is extremely poor to herself, even if she does everything in her power to give her child the best material life, it is still difficult to fill her child's heart.
In the relationship between children and adults, there is no difference between higher and lower, and for material matters, there is no need to engage in "specialization".
"Children's things are more expensive than adults" I believe this situation has occurred in many families, but in our family, the standard of implementation is "children's things can not be more expensive than adults."
In the process of taking the baby, although the bud mother will also be planted by various good things, after careful consideration, she will not blindly buy those expensive items back, but on the premise of price, choose a safe and durable one.
In this regard, the practice of the bud mother was once said to be "indifferent" by friends around her, but the bud mother knew best in her heart: giving the best to the child is not conducive to the child's future development in many cases.
A mother who "supports herself poorly" will never be able to raise an excellent child
Every parent wants to give the best to their children, but because their own economic level is not enough, they cut back on their own clothes and food to meet their children's daily needs.
Some people say that this is the great love of parents for their children, and some people say that this is pampering and laissez-faire, in fact, parents are buying something for their children, how much money they spend, outsiders have no right and judgment and blame, but many facts have proved that parents are overly "rich" for their children, and will only raise "giant babies".
A child of a friend of the bud mother's family, originally the couple took out all their savings for the child to study abroad, but the child was "mixed" abroad for two years, and even did not get a graduation certificate, and also spent hundreds of thousands of savings in the family. After returning home, I sat in front of the computer all day playing games, and even eating had to be brought to my parents.
Such a child is undoubtedly a "giant baby", but the cultivation of such a giant baby is the child's parents, friends are always reluctant to eat and wear on weekdays, buy a dress to think about for a long time, but buying something for the child is very heroic, eyelids do not blink.
Such a mother who is "poor" to herself will always develop a child who is good to herself?
Bud Care Mom wants to say:
In fact, to buy clothes for children, the price is never a hard condition, children's clothes only need to be safe and comfortable, after all, with age, children's clothes update speed is also very frequent, many clothes have not even been worn a few times on the small.
Moreover, for parents, the best thing should be left to themselves and their parents, as for children, if they want good things, they must rely on their own efforts
Today's topic: Who is more expensive for you and your child's clothes?