The people who are still deeply in love are worth redeeming
The divorce rate in modern society is getting higher and higher, and many female friends are skeptical of feelings, believing that there are no permanent feelings in the world.
In fact, the relationship development of each relationship will go through 5 stages. In these 5 stages, it will bring you different feelings.
Today I share it with you, so that you can understand why feelings go from life to death?
Romantic period
Looking back on when you first got together, was it full of passion?
Because the initial stages of any relationship are full of imagination, you both don't know each other yet, and there are many expectations and fantasies of your own appearance of your other half, and you also project your image of the perfect partner onto each other.
In romantic times, you are often full of passion and love.
But when the romance fades, you become more and more familiar with each other, and gradually see each other's nature, your romantic period is over.
Period of power struggle
When the shortcomings of the other half are constantly displayed in front of you, so that all your expectations of him are shattered, you will think of controlling the other party and making him conform to the perfect image of his mind, rather than accepting his true appearance.
So the contradictions between each other escalated. Each of them wants to change each other to meet their own needs, and then there will be mutual complaints and accusations.
In back-and-forth conflicts, they compete with each other for control of their relationship.
Many people's relationships break down at this stage, so there are so many people in the world who have lost love. Only by seeing each other's differences, respecting and accepting each other, can we move on to the next stage.
Consolidation period
As you begin to enter the integration period, slowly stop arguing about right and wrong, no longer try to blame each other, but understand each other with curiosity and sincerity.
Share and talk to each other, at this time your intimate relationship really begins, and when both parties can achieve some degree of integration, they will move on to the next stage.
Commitment period
Partners who can enter the commitment period, they are willing to communicate their thoughts and feelings, understand each other deeply, and at the same time be able to devote themselves to their own and shared lives.
Also because you can fully understand yourself and each other, you can be prepared to make a complete commitment, promise that each other has free choices, and be willing to share a commitment, plan the expectations and decisions of both sides together, and put them into action.
At this time, it is no longer one party asking for the other, but a mutual agreement that they are willing to have real expectations of each other, unlike the romantic period that is the expectation of their own fantasies.
Co-creation period
The final stage of the relationship is the co-creation period.
At this time, not only can you understand your own characteristics, dreams and limits, but also continue to understand each other and support each other's ideals. Two people can work together, in harmony, which is also the best state of relationship.
In the process, both parties will re-enter the first stage of exciting romance because they continue to understand and explore each other, just like meeting new friends.
The development of each emotional relationship is roughly inseparable from these five stages, if each other is willing to be more patient and kind, continuous communication and sharing, it is possible to accept and be closer, hand in hand through each stage, into a circular process, continuous in-depth progress.
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