Why could Xing Xiuyan, who came from a humble background, marry Xue Tadpole? Cao Xueqin: Xue Baochao's credit is the greatest
Xing Xiuyan is the niece of Lady Xing, the eldest wife of Rongguo Province, and in the forty-ninth dream of the Red Chamber, she followed her parents and other relatives of the Jia family to form a group to come to Jia Province to join her relatives, and Xing Xiuyan was also the most inconspicuous of the four girls who came to join her.
The most dazzling of the four girls was Xue Baoqin. Jia Mu saw that Xue Baoqin was particularly fond of it, and not only had to take care of her diet and living herself, but also forced Lady Wang to recognize Xue Baoqin as her daughter. In addition to Xue Baoqin, Jia Mu was also good to Li Feng's two younger sisters, but ignored Xing Xiuyan. Probably taking care of Lady Xing's face and being polite among relatives, Jia Mu asked Lady Xing to stay with her niece for a few days.
Jia Mu then said to Lady Xing, "Your niece doesn't have to go home, so she will stay in the garden for a few days and then go again." "Lady Xing's brother-in-law's family in zhongyuan is difficult, and this Shangjing, the original battle was Lady Xing buying a house with them, helping them to entangle, listening to this, are you not willing." Lady Xing then handed Xiuyan over to Sister Feng. Sister Feng calculated that there were many sisters in the garden, and her temperament was different, and it was inconvenient to set up another place, mo Ruo sent it to Yingchun, if Xing Xiuyan had some involuntary things in the future, even if Lady Xing knew about it, she had nothing to do with herself. From then on, if the date of Xing Xiuyan's family to live does not count, if she lives in daguan garden for one month, Sister Feng will also send a copy of Xiuyan according to the spring moon. Sister Feng'er cold-eyed Xiu Xiuyan was a human being, and unlike Lady Xing and her parents, she was an extremely gentle and painful person. Therefore, Sister Feng pitied her family's poor life and hurt her more than other sisters, and Lady Xing was not very theoretical.
In fact, it is not difficult to see from the narrative of this paragraph that Xing Xiuyan and his parents did not come to Jia Province to visit relatives and friends, but to turn to their aunt Lady Xing, hoping that Lady Xing would help them.
Regarding Xing Xiuyan's family lineage, although there is not much written in the book, it can be seen that the Xing family has long been defeated, and the life of the Xing Xiuyan family is very difficult. Before Miao Yu came to the capital, Xing Xiuyan's family rented a house in the Miao Yu Family Temple. After Miao Yu came to the capital, the residence of Xing Xiuyan's family became a problem.
Xing Xiuyan can be described as a person with a humble origin, and it is precisely because the family's livelihood has become a problem that Xing Xianyan followed her parents to the Rongguo Mansion to defect to her aunt Lady Xing. I didn't think that Lady Xing was a person with thin feelings, and she was only polite in front of her relatives, not really helping them, nor was she really upset about Xing Xiuyan, but Wang Xifeng and BaoChao were more distressed about Xing Xiuyan than others. The strange thing was that Aunt Xue actually took a fancy to Xing Xiuyan and wanted to give Xue Tadpole a kiss.
Why could Xing Xiuyan, who came from a humble background, marry Xue Tadpole? Cao Xueqin: Xue Baochao's credit is the greatest.
First, Xue Baochao liked Xing Xiuyan's elegance and stability.
When Bao Chao saw her, he saw that his family was poor, and the second was that other people's parents were old and virtuous people, and her parents were drunk and drunk, and they were normal in their daughters; Lady Xing was just a face feeling, not really heartache and love; and Xiuyan was a person of grace, Yingchun was a dead person with anger, even she herself had not yet taken care of her completely, how could she take care of her! Where there is a common necessity in the boudoir, or there is a lack of money, there is no one to take care of, and she does not open her mouth with anyone. Bao Chao secretly received help from everyone, and did not dare to know with Lady Xing, and he was afraid of gossiping too much.
It is not difficult to see from this that before Aunt Xue and Xing Xiuyan were betrothed, Baochao liked Xing Xiuyan very much. Bao Chao's evaluation of Xing Xianyan is that he is elegant and stable. It is not so much that Aunt Xue chose Xing Xiuyan, but rather that Xue Baochao chose Xing Xiuyan first.
Xing Xianyan is a talented and intelligent girl with a stable personality, although she is poor and cold in the family road, she is poor and not inferior, low-key in work, soft in personality, elegant and heavy, and deeply liked by BaoChao.
Bao Chao and Xing Xiuyan can be said to have similar interests and pity each other. Because he liked Xing Xiuyan's personality and how to behave in the world, Baochao said a lot of good things about Xing Xianyan in front of his mother, Aunt Xue, plus Aunt Xue's own impression of Xing Xianyan was also good, and after listening to Baochao's words, he intended to propose to his son Xue Pan.
Because Aunt Xue saw that Xing Xiuyan was born elegant and stable, and the family was poor, she was a daughter of a jingjing skirt. He said that he was married to Xue Pan. Because Xue Pansu was accustomed to stopping extravagance, he was afraid of spoiling other people's daughters. Just when he was hesitating, he suddenly remembered that Xue Tadpole was not married, and seeing that the two of them were exactly a couple born to be sister Feng.
Later, considering that Xue Pan's personality was not suitable, of course, there was a more important reason, that is, the door was right. Although the Xue family was an imperial merchant with a low social status, their family lineage was very good, which was incomparable to the Xing family at present.
Aunt Xue felt that Xue Tadpole was suitable, first, after Xue Tadpole's father died, her mother was seriously ill in bed, this party had fallen, and her livelihood needed Aunt Xue's help, and it was particularly suitable to match Xing Xiuyan. So Aunt Xue consulted with Wang Xifeng to propose a kiss for Xue Tao, and with the help of Wang Xifeng, Jia Mu should be Baoshan, and Lady Xing had to agree to this family affair.
After Xing Xiuyan and Xue Xiuyan were intimate, Xue Baochao did not shy away from suspicion, and also helped Xing Xiuyan as before, such as redeeming the pawn ticket for Xing Xiuyan.
It can be seen that it is precisely with the help of Xue Baochao that Xing Xiuyan has the honor of marrying Xue Tao and becoming the big winner in the dream of the Red Chamber.
Second, Xing Xiuyan's own efforts are also very important.
Tadpole and Xiu, both of whom had met each other on the way before, were also satisfied with each other's hearts.
Unlike men and women who had never met before they were engaged in ancient times, Xing Xiuyan and Xue Tadal had met on their way to Jia Province, and they both had a good feeling for each other.
The marriage of men and women in ancient times was not like today's free love and union, and ancient marriage was the word of the matchmaker who needed the fate of the parents. Even if Xing Xiuyan thought Xue Tadpole was good, she couldn't confess like a boy like a girl today, and Xue Tadpole was the same, they all buried this kind of liking deep in their hearts.
It is reasonable to say that if this is inferred, Xing Xiuyan and Xue Tadpole will no longer have any intersection, let alone become husband and wife. But it is not difficult for the talented Xing Xianyan to change all this. She herself is deeply impressed by Miaoyu's pointing, and she can also be regarded as a high person among ordinary people, and her emotional intelligence is very high.
Xing Xiuyan knows the importance of personal connections, her original family can not bring her any help, Xing Xianyan can only rely on her own efforts. After coming to Jia Province, Xing Xiuyan felt that Xue Baochao was dignified and calm, and was a big sister worthy of trust, so she took the initiative to associate with Baochao. In the process of communication, Bao Chao also likes Xing Xiuyan's personality and the way of dealing with people, the two people not only have similar temperaments, but also have similar interests, and their relationship becomes better and better with the deepening of exchanges.
Xue Baochao's favorite person, Aunt Xue naturally liked it, and with the help of Baochao, Xing Xiuyan successfully became intimate with Xue Tao. In fact, Xue Baochao's choice of Xing Xiuyan was also a multifaceted consideration. Although the Xue family was an imperial merchant, it had begun to show signs of decline, and BaoChao believed that the Xue family's daughter-in-law could not only pay attention to the status of the other party's family, but also pay attention to the virtuousness and family management ability of the girl.
Obviously, Xing Xiuyan was very much in line with Baochao's requirements for the Xue family's daughter-in-law. With Xue Baochao's identity and status in the Xue family, under her reminder, it is understandable that Aunt Xue chose Xing Xiuyan. The strange thing is Lady Xing's attitude, some reluctance, if it is not Jia Mu hard to do Baoshan, the foundation of the Xue family is not bad, want to come to Lady Xing is not worthy of the Xue family from the imperial business. Compared with Lady Xing's reluctant consent, Xing Xiuyan's parents were very satisfied with this family affair, and Xing Xiuyan herself was also relatively satisfied.
It was only at this time that the Xue family had already shown signs of decay, and in the next forty times, xing Xianyan, who married into the Xue family, lived a life not of great wealth and nobility, but of the life of a dress cloth.
I am Xiao Meng, telling you the story of "Dream of the Red Chamber".
Reference works: Cao Xueqin, Fat Yanzhai commentary on "Dream of the Red Chamber" Fat Collection