Zhengzhou Traditional Chinese Medical Hall: How to deal with children's disappointment
1. Emotional agitation type
If the child's reaction to disappointment is to cry out loud or fall to the ground, and the emotional response is strong, then the parent must first let him know what can be changed and what cannot be changed; second, let him know that unreasonable trouble will not bring the results he wants. However, it should be noted that at this time, parents must not affect themselves because the child's mood is not good, and then put pressure on the child. You can tell your child that you know his sense of loss very well and reassure him that "it doesn't matter if you feel lost, in this case, I will also be lost." Let the child know that disappointment is normal, and then discuss with him an effective way to solve the problem. Or have your child participate in various activities until they find something they like.
2. The solitary angry type
In the face of disappointment, such children usually do not cry or shout, but brew anger on the side. At this time, parents should help their children get rid of bad emotions, and they can prompt their children: "Let's do something else." Do you have any good ideas? "Doing so can convince children that they can find a solution to the problem and have the ability to improve the bad situation."
Give your child a choice, like "We can't play in the park right now, so let's play with your favorite toys at home, okay?" Or you can ask, "Is it okay to go back next Sunday?" You can also have your child help you with dinner preparations. While doing so will make you more hectic, it will help regulate your child's emotions and recover from pessimism with a positive mindset.
3. Turn to the forgetting type
Although this kind of child does not take disappointing things seriously, when they know that they cannot go to the park, they will immediately ask another person to play. But parents still need to help their children master more ways to resist setbacks. Create a circle of interpersonal interaction for your child so that you can turn to them for help when they are lost. There are not only parents in this circle, but also other relatives and children in the family.