Wen | is sincere
It is no exaggeration to say that at least half of the good memories of college life come from dormitories.
Because you never know how many shocking passages your "sand sculpture" roommates will make in these four years.
It should be said that in this small circle that is either "dad" or "baby", it carries the last simplicity and joy of the student era.
And the most nostalgic college memories of many graduates are also the endless bedtime talks and endless room friendships.
Under the influence of this atmosphere, even if they are introverted and shy before entering the school, sooner or later they will be out of the "social cow X syndrome".
However, the harmonious dorm atmosphere is the same, and the broken roommate relationships are also different.
In the dormitory building of Heilongjiang University of Science and Technology, there is a "special" classmate who is resisting collective life "for four years".
According to a classmate of the University of Black Science and Technology, in their dormitory building, there is a brother who has been very resistant to collective life since he entered the school.
He never lived in a dormitory, but worked in the hallway, not only did he not deal with "theoretical roommates", but he also had no intersection with other classmates.
Judging from the photos, the brother's "accommodation conditions" are really not very good, the corridor itself is relatively dimly lit, and it is also covered by hanging clothes.
And his daily necessities are only a pair of slippers, a pillow, a set of futons, a few clothes, and a few books.
The window sill is a "bookcase" and the window rim is a desk.
It feels like the corridor is so "empty" that no one is there, and it's "crowded" like you.
To tell the truth, such a life really seems to be "unable to live" in the standard sense.
Because in this condition, there are only two postures for reading: standing in front of the window sill, or sitting on the floor.
If you study in these two postures for four years, let alone people, snakes can give the whole cervical spondylosis.
Moreover, in Harbin this season, the temperature is low that can be "felt with the heart".
The temperature of minus 20 degrees Celsius at every turn makes the old-fashioned radiators in the dormitory building look a bit like a cup of water.
I checked the accommodation conditions of Heilongjiang University of Science and Technology, and it should be said that although the building is a little old, it should all be there.
So this boy does not live in the dormitory, it will not be a hardware problem, but a human reason.
What makes him so resistant to collective life?
Judging from the information learned, the boy's personality is very introverted.
It's not surprising, after all, that people who aren't introverts aren't so resistant to socializing.
But from his "handy diary", it can be found that although he is not good at socializing, he does not lack the emotions he should have.
For example, he would call his elders and talk about his life with a small number of friends.
On the one hand, this shows that he is not "not eating human fireworks", but a warm person; on the other hand, it also shows that he does not lack the ability to socialize, but cannot overcome psychological obstacles.
And what is even more gratifying is that in his communication with friends, he also dares to face up to his social weaknesses, and records, waiting for improvement.
So in general, the boy's problem can only be regarded as excessive introversion, not "autism".
Then since it is only a psychological obstacle, there must be a solution to the problem.
When you first enter the university, many students may feel uncomfortable, after all, many people have not experienced living in school, and they rarely have the experience of long-term collective life.
Note, however, that the "discomfort" mentioned here is the discomfort of "not adapting", not the discomfort of "not adapting".
Because young people are together, there is no strict sense of unsuitability.
For example, the difference in living habits, some people are used to sleeping at the point, and some people are "crazy at night".
But the dormitory is not a living space for two people, but an area for at least four people, so this area, although private, also has public attributes.
Therefore, the final living habits of everyone will gradually become unified under the premise that everyone can accept it.
This is true in living habits, and it is also true in other aspects, and in this run-in process, everyone has a common goal to pursue together.
Of course, this goal can be to go to school or to get graded, but in any case, it will constantly enhance the feelings between roommates, rather than making everyone more distant.
If so, why be afraid of socializing and resisting roommates.
Probably because my college roommates were too harmonious, I have been surprised by the long-term contradictions in the college dormitories for many years.
Of course, if you are really a little back, you will indeed encounter individual "inappropriate" roommates.
But when encountering a problem, the right way is always to solve the problem, not to avoid the problem.
You may say that you are indeed lacking in social skills, but don't forget that being able to become a college student means that the hurdle of the college entrance examination can no longer stop you.
Since such a high threshold can't stop you, can a social network be difficult for you?
No, it won't!