"Love never lets you find someone who is 100% compatible with you, but find someone who is as willing to invest in love as you, and then slowly grind it out." 」
It's just a pity that many people don't understand the reasoning, and good love needs to be run-in.
Wang Geng, many people know him only because he is Lu Xiaoman's ex-husband, a career with unlimited scenery, and in marriage, he is a promising young man who has failed completely.
Who is Lu Xiaoman? The only daughter of the Lu family, a famous social flower in Beijing at that time, she was good at painting, she had received guidance from famous teachers, her ancient literary skills were deep, her literary attainments were excellent, she was extremely talented in language, proficient in French and English. In this way, Lu Xiaoman, who combined wealth, beauty and talent, completely changed Wang Geng's life.
First, the family is downcast, diligent and self-motivated
Wang Geng was born in a family of officials and eunuchs, but his family was in decline, he was diligent and enterprising from an early age, and after graduating from Tsinghua University, he was sent to the United States, graduating from the famous West Point Military Academy in the United States with a grade of 12.
He is very traditional, rigorous, upright, kind, as an elite cultivated by the United States Military Academy at West Point, he is self-disciplined to the point of almost harshness, at what time to do things, as accurate as robots, his efforts are recognized. Such a potential stock as him has been appreciated by many powerful people, and it is also the best candidate for riding the dragon.
At that time, Lu Xiaoman, the only daughter of the Lu family, who was rich and powerful, was the best among the famous ladies, and was named by the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to participate in the activities of receiving foreign guests.
Wang Geng and Lu Xiaoman came together under the mediation of their families. Such a combination envies how many others. At that time, Lu Xiaoman was the dream wife of many men, and the Lu family valued Wang Geng's knowledge and character, and even more valued Wang Geng's splendid future.
Wang Geng's wedding with Lu Xiaoman was luxurious and luxurious. There were hundreds of guests who arrived, and the bridesmaids were all Chinese and foreign celebrities in the group, and the bridesmaid dresses were all customized by the Lu family.
The cost of the wedding was paid by the Lu family, and although Wang Geng was an officer at that time, he was actually a poor boy. Such a combination is a combination of official and business, fame and profit.
For 19-year-old Lu Xiaoman, he only obeyed the orders of his parents and married Wang Geng. Later, she said that it was only a few years before she realized that such a combination was wrong, and she did not love Wang Geng.
Lu Xiaoman's ideal marriage is to find a suitable person, but he has never thought of making some changes for marriage and for each other. What Lu Xiaoman couldn't understand, Wang Geng naturally understood. His career path is not only related to himself, but also related to the second elder of the Lu family's ardent expectations of himself. He did not dare to relax for a moment, working hard when he went to work, and still working when he left work, so he neglected Lu Xiaoman. Listening to plays, dancing, playing, she is a person who can't stay idle, and she needs someone to accompany her.
Wang Geng came up with a compromise method and let his friend Xu Zhimo play with Lu Xiaoman. Back and forth, Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo got closer and closer. Wang Geng, who heard the sound of the wind, returned home and took a gun to the landing Xiaoman to ask her, and Lu Xiaoman shed tears. Wang Geng's heart softened, and he chose to forgive. However, the story of Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo is not over.
Looking at the yellowed photos left by Lu Xiaoman, it is difficult to accurately capture the beauty of Lu Xiaoman, her facial features are not very exquisite, but she has been crowned with such a high evaluation, I think more importantly from her talent and charm.
Lu Xiaoman is a rich flower walking in the world. She is clever and cunning, so she can see human nature. She is sensual and willful, and she is always handy with what she wants.
Lu Xiaoman's parents objected, and could not be with Xu Zhimo as they wished, so they were emaciated and seriously ill, and in the case of their lives being in danger, their parents had to compromise and acquiesced to the relationship with Xu Zhimo. And Wang Geng also knew that the person who kept Lu Xiaoman could not keep her heart, and gracefully took the initiative to withdraw from this emotional dispute.
It should be known that at that time, Wang Geng had already become the chief of staff of the General Headquarters of the Five Provinces Coalition Army, and he did not give Xu Zhimo a bullet for the hatred of taking his wife, but was generous and tolerant, truly interpreting that love is letting go.
Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo finally came together, but they also paid a heavy price, and the relatives of the two families no longer helped them financially. Lu Xiaoman, who spends a lot of money, spends 500 or 600 oceans per month, which is equivalent to 20,000 to 30,000 now.
Xu Zhimo's income at that time was not low, as a famous professor, his income was second only to Lu Xun, but it was still not enough for Lu Xiaoman to spend. He taught three school courses, even sold real estate, sometimes wore patched clothes to class, financial constraints made him often quarrel with Lu Xiaoman, and later to save money, take a cheap plane, only to have the day when he fell from the sky.
Third, he deeply loved Lu Xiaoman and never married
After Xu Zhimo left, Lu Xiaoman's heart also followed. When Wang Geng came to his side again and asked to reunite with her, Lu Xiaoman refused.
Wang Geng for Lu Xiaoman, that is true love. Remembering that in those years, in order to clear the relationship with Wang Geng, Lu Xiaoman did not hesitate to beat the child in his belly, and it was still rare to beat the fetus at that time. Therefore, Lu Xiaoman caused a lot of pain.
Later, there was a way for Weng Rui to massage it, and at the instigation of the ill-intentioned Weng Ruiwu, he smoked opium. With frequent physical contact, Lu Xiaoman and Weng Ruiwu surpassed the relationship of ordinary friends.
At this time, Lu Xiaoman was no longer the Lu Xiaoman he used to be. She endured the insult of killing Xu Zhimo and fell into a drug addiction, and she could not do without Weng Ruiwu's tuina treatment.
Wang Geng accepted Lu Xiaoman again. One is that Wang Geng is a good person, the second is that he really loved Lu Xiaoman, and the third is out of pity, he can't see the woman he loves so depressed, and there may be a reason for Xu Zhimo's righteousness to his friend, taking care of his widow.
After being rejected by Lu Xiaoman, Wang Geng never married, and although many people introduced him, he refused one by one. He died childless and childless in a foreign land of Rome.
If he hadn't met Lu Xiaoman, what would his life have been like? Such young talents, kind, loyal and rigorous, no matter what era they fall into, will be the object of admiration of many famous ladies. Why did I get to Lu Xiaoman's place, I couldn't get into her eyes.
He is sincere about Lu Xiaoman, but what about Lu Xiaoman? In marriage, he took his money and squandered it, but behind his back, he followed Xu Zhimo in a close relationship. When he was tragically framed and imprisoned, Lu Xiaoman left him without hesitation. When Lu Xiaoman remarried, he sent half his life savings and his blessings. Why did Wang Geng pay everything to Lu Xiaoman, and even if Lu Xiaoman was depressed and desolate, he was still unwilling to return to Wang Geng's side?
proud. Lu Xiaoman is the only daughter of the Lu family who has been pampered by thousands of people since childhood, and she is also a talented and progressive young woman, she has ideas and independent thinking ability, at this time, the high level of intellectuals makes her unable to pull down her face and turn back to Wang Geng.
Not loved. Lu Xiaoman has lived for love all her life, and she has said:
"In fact, I don't envy wealth or glory, I just need a happy family, a partner like a heart, who knows that even this request can't be obtained."
More need Weng Ruiwu. Weng Ruiwu, who was also mixed up in the Wind Moon Place, knew him better and knew how to pinch her. The pain in the body needs Weng Ruiwu's tuina treatment.
Although, Wang Geng did not get Lu Xiaoman in the end. In a sense, Lu Xiaoman and Wang Geng are the same people, they love purely, once they identify one person, it is all, it is a lifetime.
Judging from Lu Xiaoman's several relationships later, Wang Geng should be the most suitable for her, whether from the economy or the tolerance of her, it can give Lu Xiaoman the greatest guarantee. It's just that Lu Xiaoman received a Western-style education, and there was resistance to the arranged marriage of his parents, coupled with Wang Geng's intoxication in his career and the lack of companionship for Lu Xiaoman, which made Lu Xiaoman feel that this marriage was not as good as his heart.
"A good marriage must be mutually compromised, I am willing to give in for you, and you are willing to tolerate it for me."
If Lu Xiaoman can make some compromises and changes for love, then she may be able to understand Wang Geng's efforts and support his cause instead. Maybe she can restrain herself a little financially, and Xu Zhimo doesn't need to be tired of labor. Maybe she didn't need to live the second half of her rebellious and miserable life.