Chinese since ancient times, the description of marriage is not love, but love, because love becomes grace in the depths, you give me a share, I return you another, you come and go, Frothy, live a lifetime. --Jia Pingwo
When the 90-year-old Song Yulin sat in a wheelchair and looked at the posthumous photo of her husband Chen Yonggui, she could still recall the love story of the two in that simple village.
The stubborn Song Yulin could no longer speak, but he firmly held the flower basket and did not give it to his son.
The son understood the meaning of his mother Song Yulin, so he pushed his mother's wheelchair slowly to the statue of his father.
Song Yulin struggled to straighten up and slowly placed the flower basket in front of Chen Yonggui's posthumous photo with the support of his son, which made everyone present have sore eyes.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="5" >01 The two met, and fate dictated</h1>
The love story of Song Yulin and Chen Yonggui is widely known, but Song Yulin is not actually Chen Yonggui's first wife.
Chen Yonggui's first wife was named Li Huni, and the Dazhai area of Shanxi where Chen Yonggui was located at that time was a famous poor village in Shanxi.
Chen Yonggui was recognized by the people in the village because of his hard work and honesty, and everyone had a good impression of Chen Yonggui a few years ago, and Chen Yonggui was able to become a party member only with the support of the village secretary at that time, and Chen Yonggui tried his best to make the village rich every day in order to live up to the hopes of the village.
At this time, chen Yonggui said wave after wave of media, Chen Yonggui met his first wife Li Huni under the introduction of the matchmaker.
In 1942, the two got married, and after marriage, Li Huni also showed a hard-working and capable side, taking good care of the whole family.
Unfortunately, Li Huni unfortunately died of illness, and Chen Yonggui blamed his wife's departure on himself, always feeling that he did not care about his family and caused his wife to work too hard to die.
However, Chen Yonggui, who has no one to take care of, always can't take care of himself because of work reasons, and the people in the same village look at Chen Yonggui day by day and are tired and haggard, in fact, everyone wants to introduce another partner to Chen Yonggui, but Chen Yonggui has always refused everyone's kindness on the grounds that he did not come out of the pain of his dead wife.
At this moment, a big sister from a neighboring village found Chen Yonggui's colleague and told her that she had a suitable candidate, and this person was Song Yulin.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="11" >02 Living together, a match made in heaven</h1>
One day Chen Yonggui was called to the conference room by everyone to hold a meeting, Chen Yonggui still thought it was about the development of the village, who understood that after going, Chen Yonggui was actually "educated" by the big guys in turn, and finally there was no way to get Chen Yonggui to agree to the "continuation of the string".
Chen Yonggui, who thought that he could slow down this matter first, did not expect that the big guys had already secretly taken Song Yulin to the conference room, and the two met for the first time in full view of everyone.
Both Song Yulin and Chen Yonggui are rabbits, but Song Yulin is a whole round younger than Chen Yonggui.
Because before coming, the matchmaker had already told Song Yulin that the other party was Chen Yonggui, and Chen Yonggui was notoriously capable in several surrounding villages at that time.
Song Yulin also decided to come over Chen Yonggui's heavy love for his ex-wife and his responsibility to the village.
After the two met, their feelings were slowly heating up, but this time Chen Yonggui seemed very hesitant.
Because of the previous experience of losing his beloved wife, Chen Yonggui has always blamed the fault on himself, because he has only cared about the work in the village for a long time, and he has paid too little attention to family affairs, while the care for his wife can be said to be almost nothing.
Moreover, Chen Yonggui also liked this thick and honest girl very much, but he was worried that his work would delay Song Yulin, so he did not give an answer for a long time.
Chen Yonggui, who had been thinking about it repeatedly, decided to have a "showdown" with Song Yulin, and when Chen Yonggui told Song Yulin about his affairs and concerns.
On the contrary, he was supported by Song Yulin, "You don't have to worry about things at home, the elderly and children have me to take care of, you just need to complete the work entrusted to you by the party."
This is Song Yulin's answer to Chen Yonggui, and in that simple era, such an answer is undoubtedly a different way of confessing.
Song Yulin, who looked at Chen Yonggui at first glance, was not willing to cut off this fate, but was willing to dedicate his life to grasp it, Chen Yonggui was also very touched after getting such an answer, Song Yulin was not afraid, then what else was he afraid of.
In 1967, under the blessing of everyone, the two held hands together, and the life after marriage slowly improved, and Chen Yonggui, who took care of Food and Clothing with Song Yulin, soon returned to the state of full of morale every day to work.
Only this time, Chen Yonggui no longer paid attention to his family as before, and Chen Yonggui, who ate a long and wise meal, gradually learned to balance the life between work and family.
He tried to take time out to spend time with his family and help with some housework, and every time Song Yulin would stop him and let him rest.
Chen Yonggui did not say, but he knew in his heart that Song Yulin was keeping his original promise, and the two of them silently paid for each other and invariably touched each other.
Song Yulin sometimes feels sad that Chen Yonggui is so tired every day, and his body is easy to collapse, so he always gives the best to Chen Yonggui in his diet.
And Chen Yonggui always silently clipped some into Song Yulin's bowl, every evening, after Chen Yonggui returned, the time for the family to eat together was the happiest and warmest moment of the day for Chen Yonggui.
Song Yulin was worried that the trivial matters at home would affect Chen Yonggui's work, and he was also afraid of giving Chen Yonggui a burden, always silently undertaking it by himself, and several times chen Yonggui heard about it from others after the matter was solved.
So every time Chen Yonggui would tell Song Yulin that there was something to tell him to let him solve.
But every time Song Yulin would agree to come down but still bear it alone, Chen Yonggui felt that he had a great debt to this family and to Song Yulin, and Chen Yonggui, who had not yet had time to make up, was about to be transferred.
Chen Yonggui has a new job, which is the party's trust in him and a test for him.
"Since ancient times, loyalty and filial piety cannot be complete", Chen Yonggui truly experienced the meaning of this sentence.
When Chen Yonggui learned of this news, Chen Yonggui was not happy, but instead hesitated on the way home.
Because he didn't know how to tell Song Yulin, and Song Yulin also heard the news from the neighbors, Song Yulin did not cry in order to keep her husband, but still carefully prepared the meal and waited for Chen Yonggui to return home, and the two of them ate silently.
After Song Yulin finished packing, he directly began to sort out the clothes that Chen Yonggui wanted to take away, and Chen Yonggui didn't know how to open his mouth when he saw this scene.
"When you go to Beijing to work well, there is me at home, you must pay attention to your body" is just a few simple words, but it includes Chen Yonggui's hard work for everyone over the years, song Yulin's years of management for the small family, and the firm and loving feelings of the two people in that era.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="22" >03 Live a life without regrets and live in peace</h1>
Chen Yonggui went to Beijing with the people's expectations of him, and Song Yulin guarded his family in Shanxi, and although this love was not vigorous, it still opened the most brilliant fireworks.
Although her husband's salary has increased, Song Yulin, who knows that her husband will definitely help the poor, does not plan to ask her husband for money, but quietly does a job as a nurseryman to support the family.
These years the husband is not at home, Song Yulin is almost a person to pull the family's children up, the family of large and small things she are personally involved, as a mother as a wife as a woman, Song Yulin these years are not easy is not clear in three words.
And the hard days have finally ushered in a turnaround.
In 1975, Chen Yonggui finally brought all his family to Beijing, hoping for the stars and the moon to finally look forward to the husband and wife to meet, after many years of seeing each other are old people who have experienced half a lifetime of storms, although they did not say it in their mouths, but their hearts were happy.
And Song Yulin entered the role of Dazhai Village the next day, before Chen Yonggui has always been responsible for eating and living by special people, although they are arranged together in an orderly manner, but Chen Yonggui always feels uncomfortable.
This time Song Yulin's arrival made him feel that the feeling he had felt was back again, Song Yulin took a large son to Beijing, and every time the child went out, he would be called aside by Song Yulin for careful advice.
"When you go outside, you are not allowed to take other people's things, pay attention to your own appearance, and don't embarrass your father," the second son, Chen Mingliang, would be told by his mother every time before going out.
"Because of the identity of the father, my mother is still very strict with us, and she never lets us ask our father for any difficulties, but find a way to solve it ourselves."
The arrival of his wife made Chen Yonggui's heart open up again, and seeing that the children had grown up strong under the care of their mothers, they were relieved and felt guilty about their wives, because it was impossible for this family to have the current results without Song Yulin.
But Song Yulin did not feel anything, she still had to do what to do every day, get up to prepare a meal for Chen Yonggui, prepare the clothes he would wear the next day in advance, and explain when Chen Yonggui should take medicine, which is something that Song Yulin must carry every day.
The two will also take advantage of Chen Yonggui's rest to go for a walk in a park in Beijing, a life that is a luxury for them.
I thought that the happy days could go on like this, but a sudden accident occurred, and in 1986, her husband Chen Yonggui unfortunately passed away.
The two have been insisting on living together again, but this luxurious time is only a short decade, Song Yulin once again showed the strength of a woman, her husband left her is the head of the family, everyone can have an emotional breakdown but she can't, still take care of her husband's affairs, take care of the children at home.
And the husband has been working hard for the people of the village to live a good life before he was born, and now that her husband is gone, although Song Yulin is not a person with culture and knowledge, she knows what her husband has not accomplished, and she must work hard to help her husband complete it, so that his husband can walk safely.
Although Song Yulin has been working all her life, she has no regrets at all, she is always alone behind her back silently supporting her husband, although she is not a party member, she has the responsibility and consciousness of a party member.
On April 6, 2018, Song Yulin died at the age of 92 at his home in Dazhai Village, Dazhai Town, Xiyang, Shanxi.
Chen Yonggui and his wife are not heroes who fell from the sky, just mortals who stepped forward, and the two of them have spent their lives doing one thing: "You take care of everyone, I take care of the small family."
Some people say that vigorous love will not be forgotten, but for Chen Yonggui and his wife, you understand my persistence, and I understand your difficulty.
Although there is no way to say these words in person again, I think that both Chen Yonggui and Song Yulin can understand them from the eyes of the other party.
Song Yulin is proud of her husband, which is why Song Yulin has been silently controlling the family, because this is her husband's dream, so she unconditionally supports, Song Yulin sits in a wheelchair and slowly approaches the statue of her husband, slowly lowering the flower basket with her trembling hand.
"They miss their good party members, and I miss my husband only."