Children are the most precious property in the family, and from the time they fall to the ground, the parents' hearts are almost always in a state of tension, afraid that the child will be affected by any accident.
Compared with other family members, the mother's heart seems to be more sensitive and the attention to the child will be more.
However, some time ago, the news outbreak of a boy sleeping on the roof of the car also made many people think deeply.
The boy who slept on the roof of the car was named Xiaotian, and he had already spent the night outside many times, and the overnight place he chose each time was very close to his mother's house.
Either lie on a park bench or choose to lie on the roof of a nearby car.
As can also be seen in the photo: the boy's clothing is very thin.
When the incident was posted online, all netizens also expressed their heartache for the boy. Accusation: Such a mother is irresponsible and should have her custody revoked.
The neighbors around him looked at the little boy pitifully and would buy him some food.
Even so, Xiao Tian, who ran away from home many times, did not completely leave his mother's sight.
After understanding, I learned that Xiaotian did not want to go home to live because she lived with her mother, and it was separated by a large box in the middle.
What Made Xiao Tian unacceptable was not that the room was too small, but this box.
Completely separating his heart from his mother,But also crushing the affection between him and his mother.
Many netizens have supported and let Xiaotian go to the welfare home. However, Xiaotian said: When you go to the welfare home, you must also take your mother.
People who know what happened are deeply touched by Xiaotian's dependence on his mother and his feelings.
Although his mother was cold, in Xiaotian's heart, he was still his most important person.
Yesterday's tragic encounter sounded the alarm bell for all parents, and in the process of children's growth, the person who hurts children the most is often not an insignificant person, but it is likely to be the parents themselves.
[Parents tend to hurt their children the most]
1. Ignore the child's efforts
The reason why parents are the people who hurt their children the most is entirely because many parents have a "self-righteous" attitude.
In the depths of their hearts, they have always believed that children can be better and should achieve more dazzling results, but the achievements of children today cannot satisfy them.
It is precisely because of this recognition that they are completely ignoring the dedication of their children.
Although the child is exhausted, they still see unsatisfactory results.
When faced with such eyes, most children's hearts must be very desperate, and the internal damage will far exceed other things.
2. Outlet for cathartic pressure
Many parents are very grumpy, especially in the face of unsatisfactory work situations, back home, often use the child as a punching bag.
Especially when the child is naughty or constantly annoys the parents' behavior, this emotion will continue to increase.
It is because of the various behaviors of parents that the child's heart is hurt by non-negligible.
If you want your child to have a healthy and happy childhood, parents may wish to take the following ways to face their children.
【How parents should treat their children】
1. Be an example of their behavior
Today, although many parents are in a position of power, their behavior is full of strong pessimism and negativity.
In daily life, I always complain: this is not satisfactory, that is not smooth.
This kind of emotion and behavior will have a negative impact on the child, and there is no positive guiding effect on the child's growth.
Children with a healthy and good attitude, parents return home, still have to remain optimistic, in behavior and spirit, to become an example for them to learn and imitate.
2. Try to understand your child's thoughts
Nowadays, many parents are arbitrary, even if the child has any ideas, parents always think: immature, pediatrics, not worth mentioning.
As everyone knows, these ideas are extremely important to children, so parents may wish to try to understand their children's suggestions.
In a way, it can make children get more encouragement, let them develop their own way of thinking, and also let them have a more positive and optimistic style of acting.
【The editor has something to say】
Hugo said: He who holds fast to the truth is great.
Even if every adult is saddled with strong pressure, as a parent, you also have a sense of responsibility that cannot be ignored, and every word and deed will have a huge impact on children.
Therefore, in the process of cultivating and educating children, parents must pay attention to their own words and deeds.
In the eyes of many children, as long as they are good enough to make their parents proud, the love of their parents will be stronger, and on the contrary, their parents will be indifferent.
On the contrary, the love of the child is naked and unconditional.
If parents can recognize this, they will be able to find a more harmonious way to get along with their children.
Today's topic: How do you think parents should get along with their children so that they can have a healthy psychology? Feel free to share your thoughts below.