Strindberg once said a very philosophical quote: "The most beautiful and the most painful is love, and the noblest and lowest is marriage and family."
It is very beautiful when it is first exposed to love, but over time, when both parties are immersed in the beauty of love, its painful side will also appear.
Marriage is an inevitable product of the development of love to a certain stage, but marriage is by no means synonymous with love, on the one hand, love is only the feelings cultivated by two people for a long time, but this aspect will not be the whole aspect of marriage, in fact, marriage is more of a day-by-day life, is the reality of chai rice oil and salt.
"Love Before Midnight" is the third part of the "Love in the Trilogy", compared with the beauty and longing of love mainly described in the first two parts, this one reduces the description of the beauty of love, but more of the reality of marriage, the trivialities of life to the audience, so that we have a more realistic understanding of marriage.
In the movie we can see several plots, in Jesse's heart, he especially hopes that Selena can go to the United States with himself, he has been trying to change Selena's mind, but Selena also hopes that she can change Jesse's mind, she wants Jesse to do some housework outside of work, take care of her daughter for a while.
In short, both of them are trying to change each other, but we will also find that although they are thinking of changing each other, they can never get their wishes, as if the more they want to change each other, the greater the resistance psychology of the other party, in fact, the design of this plot is the true portrayal of our lives, and the problems they face are exactly what many couples face.
So why on earth would this happen? We can think that when we persuade others to give up their ideas and instead support your point of view, one thing that must be done is that your point of view must be correct, there must be a reason to persuade others, and others must truly believe what you say from the bottom of their hearts, and at the same time recognize their mistakes.
But we must know that life is not a mathematical problem, except for the principled question of right and wrong, for most things in life, it will not have a clear standard answer to tell you what is right and what is wrong, just like Jesse in the movie wants to go to the United States to live, but who determines whether living in the United States is right or living in Greece is right? I don't think so.
So since there is no clear right and wrong on these issues, how can you persuade others to give up their ideas to support you? Of course, we can't deny that one party in the marriage needs to make a certain compromise, but it must be impossible for someone to make a compromise in everything, and when both of us are unwilling to compromise, what should we do?
Some people choose to change the other side with all their brains, and the reason why they want to change the other side is because he is convinced that his point of view is right, and he ignores considering this issue from the other side's point of view, he forgets that his own point of view from the other side's point of view may not be the so-called standard answer, and such a result can only be like in the movie, becoming the fuse of the quarrel between the two sides.
Therefore, when encountering differences in marriage, we should not rush to instill our own ideas in each other, we should not think about how to change each other, but we should reflect more, think more about our own ideas, whether our own practices are not leaking, and think more about whether other people's practices can also be adopted.
In fact, when we can change ourselves, the other party will also begin to reflect, at the end of the movie, Jesse and Selena can get back together, it is precisely because Jesse touched Selena with a letter, selena also realized her mistakes, so we have to believe that only by changing ourselves can we change others.
Hugo said: "The most extensive thing in the world is the ocean, what is wider than the ocean is the sky, and what is broader than the sky is the human mind", in life, we are indispensable to some contradictions and frictions when we get along with people, it is very normal to appear, the key lies in what kind of attitude we face them.
Many people choose to be preoccupied in the face of contradictions, and slowly turn a small contradiction into an irresolvable big contradiction between the two people, and eventually the fish dies; but some people will choose to turn the dry into a jade veil, if it is their own fault, then quickly reform themselves, even if it is the fault of others, they will choose to tolerate.
It is impossible for people to live in the world without making mistakes, in ancient times, there was a story of Lian Po asking Lin Xiangru to bear the burden of jing, even if there is a big contradiction, the two sides will always be resolved when they sit together and talk well, not to mention that when the background is marriage, when the other party is the other half of their day and night, what contradictions cannot be resolved peacefully by two people?
Jesse and Selena because of the son's more and more contradictions, and finally the two had a big fight, if the two give up, it may be rewritten, but Jesse did not, after calming down he designed a romance, let Selena recall the scene when the two first met, and finally the two finally overcame the contradiction.
Marriage is described in the movie, although it has two happy and happy moments, but this situation can not be a norm, marriage will continue to have trivial things, cruel life reality, since you enjoy the beauty of marriage, you must also bear the challenges brought by marriage, rather than not know how to cherish.
If Jesse does not know how to cherish, he will not bother to design a romance to save Selena, if Selena does not know how to cherish, she will not choose to forgive, marriage is exactly like this, only both parties are more tolerant of each other, do not be angry when there is a conflict, to know that the other party is the most cherished person.
This award-winning film shows us the true face of marriage, it tells us that vigorous love is followed by a marriage full of reality, marriage without love cannot be considered a real marriage, but love without marriage will not be true love.
There will be contradictions and quarrels in marriage, but it will make love more tenacious, just like a warrior, only when he personally experiences the cruelty of the battlefield, he will have a more arduous training will, true love will not be defeated by life, will only become more and more determined in life.
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