If "being good" means being myself in the eyes of others, then I really want to be "not good"! In the past twenty years since Ariel Lin's debut, she has starred in many impressive film and television works: Xiangqin, a silly and straightforward girl in "Mischievous Kiss", You Qing, who is mature and intellectual, and Huang Rong, who has a very different style in the costume drama "The Legend of the Eagle Hero", and recently appeared in Liu Ruoying's new song MV "Each Is Okay", with full emotions and natural relief posture, interpreting the deep regret of rubbing shoulders with old love.
At the beginning of this year (January 13), Ariel Lin also published her first personal book, "Be Yourself, Why Say Sorry?" He wrote his feelings in the past twenty years of his debut in gentle and firm words, and revealed his "true self and philosophy of life" outside the spotlight.
"The way everyone looks is not what others or the outside world imagines, it is definitely not aimed at me alone, but everyone has a different look than the outside world thinks or thinks." 」 Temporarily putting aside the thousands of expectations and impressions that everyone has projected on themselves, this time, Ariel Lin appeared at her new book launch conference with a gentle and confident smile. In addition to being an actress and singer, Ariel Lin is now a mother and writer, she has her own calm pace, constantly pursuing growth and challenges in the journey of life, and appearing in front of everyone again, she is always surprised and admired, but she is still beautiful and confident as ever.
In the dialogue, Ariel Lin admitted that the Chinese and English titles and author profiles of the book were all thought by Mr. Lin Yuchao, who used "like a girlfriend of the opposite sex" to describe Mr. Lin's familiarity and understanding of herself, and also let people have more romantic and warm imaginations when reading this book. The English title "To Be or not to Be Yourself" is inspired by Shakespeare's famous phrase "To be or not to be." cleverly adding "Yourself", which brings out the core concept that Ariel Lin wants to convey in the book, that is, the title of the Chinese book, "Be yourself, why say sorry?"
"The previous feeling on my appearance may be that the cute sunshine is positive and will be a brighter color choice," But in this new book, Ariel Lin chose the calm tone "black, blue, gray, silver" as the main visual color of the book, she frankly shared: "But in fact, my personal favorite color is black and white gray, silver, this kind of low chroma." 」
Huang Ziling, the host of the new book launch, asked why the "Yi" in the "Ariel Lin" on the book cover was upside down from left to right? Ariel Lin shared with a mischievous smile: "Later, I suddenly found that 'Ariel Lin' didn't seem to have any special feeling when she turned it upside down, but my word "Yi" was reversed, and one of the meanings was 'I don't depend, I don't depend.'"
Ariel Lin's "Philosophy of Not Relying on" of Life's Unique Charm
"After all, life is tiring, isn't it?"
"But it's really tired and happy, it's very painful, if we really work hard."
After walking through different stages of life and walking to the place where the scenery of life can be seen from the bottom of the eyes, Ariel Lin is actually like most people, life has a lot of satisfaction, but also occasionally confused. In her new book, she records many of her own confusions and trepidations, leaving one "question mark" after another, so that readers and herself can continue to think and understand when appreciating the scenery of future life. "I think that for these question marks that I left in the book, not only for the reader, but also for myself, and many of them have not been changed to 'period' or 'exclamation point', they have always been in this state, and I have been looking for answers." 」 So I think it's good to stay in this state, which means that we are always moving forward, never arriving at the day, and don't worry too much, as if we must find some answers, some things, there is no right answer to the things of life."
A passage of Ariel Lin's wisdom also makes people think about the intriguing life, perhaps the so-called "happiness" of life is to know how to appreciate the "beauty" of life, plus the "fullness" of the soul.
The "be yourself" thing is actually to relax and go with the flow
"Sometimes it may be unclear and confused by the appearance of hope and despair, but let's experience it, they are the true appearance of life, inevitable and indispensable. It's good to be happy, it's okay to be miserable, it's important that people who have loved are with each other, and we're together." ——Ariel Lin
At the book launch, Ariel Lin and host Huang Ziyou had an impressive and deeply resonant dialogue, they compared life to a "big cage", just like the plot of the movie "Truman's World", "I will feel surrounded by this world, as if I can't get out."
In the process of gradual maturity, in addition to having more and more identities and expectations from others, in interpersonal interactions, carefully take care of the people around them, be considerate of the subtle feelings of others, and sometimes accidentally put "yourself" behind, so that "being yourself" becomes not an easy task.
Ariel Lin wrote in the book: "Life is a painting, and we ourselves are the painter himself." Perhaps on the road of "being yourself", you can try to find your own rhythm, run faster, and enjoy the grandeur of the finish line, walk slower, and also collect the unique beauty on the way. No matter how fast or slow, you know how to love yourself and accompany yourself, just like Ariel Lin wants to say to herself in the past twenty years: "Relax and let nature take its course."
After becoming a mother, Ariel Lin also constantly looks for her own pace in the new identity, talking about the fact that there are always many voices of expectation for "good mothers" in society, sometimes it is difficult for people to "be themselves", Ariel Lin also shared her own "way to release": "This is the 'self' and 'others' parts of my book, one of which is to describe that each person will use the perspective of speaking to present their own position, but it is full of hurts. It is true that we can't control what others say, but we can choose how much we listen to, let which go out, which stay in the heart, I think don't hurt ourselves, we can let go. Because we are not that person, we do not have to live or feel according to his instructions, and the ability to "empty" is very important to me, everything is more real, quickly slandered, and then defeated."