This is my friend's story,
They are all my friends.
Along the way, I was like a bystander, sometimes feeling unusual, sometimes feeling sweet and crooked, and sometimes feeling self-pleading.
But looking back now, it suddenly seems that this is the love of most people.
They have loved each other, but the self in their eyes may not be the same as the self in the eyes of the other party, and it seems that it is difficult to complete real communication.
Many times, the annoyance and hurt in the feelings, the other party who needs to understand the most, is not as much as others know.
PS: This article is based on the alternating narratives of Zhang San and Li Si (both pseudonyms), minimizing the understanding of third parties and getting as close as possible to the true face of this relationship.
Hope their stories inspire you.
Zhang San said: "Love is a thing, maybe I will never have it again in this life." ”
Li Si said: "Marriage, but also so, just like sleeping at night always has to have a bed." ”
01
You can't fall in love early
Zhang San and Li Si are high school classmates.
Zhang San is a good student in the middle and upper reaches of the class, and Li Si is one of the most noisy in the class.
"At that time, he was either busy studying or making up for sleep, but he was so noisy that he was having fun every day, so he knew him."
Stills from "That Year, Our Summer"
"Zhang Sanmo, she is a good student who sits in the first few rows and studies quietly, you know, there is a clear watershed in the middle of the first few rows and the last few rows of the class, and we don't have much intersection."
"There may be only one thing in my memory, at that time, because of the pressure of the mock exam, my grades were very unstable, and I was about to quit the first few rows, and the next row was Li Si. Usually in class, he spent half the time sleeping, and after class he suddenly came back to life full of blood, not to mention, the desk book was whimpering, and then my hair was pulled a little, and then I held a stomach fire and broke out, yelling at them, the whole class froze, and he was stunned. I jerked back into my chair and leaned back on the tabletop. ”
"I didn't do anything, just very suddenly, I wanted to explain, I saw her lying there, as if crying, and then there was no then."
"Actually, I didn't cry because... When I saw that expression at that time, I wanted to laugh, but I couldn't laugh, so..."
02
Just in an instant
"I'm in college, I'm already a sophomore, I don't even know, we're in the same school."
"I don't know."
"Once, the school organized a school sports day, usually, I did not dare to be interested in this, that day I happened to agree to my roommate to watch a basketball game with my roommate and cheer for his boyfriend. Then I saw him, and the more I looked at him, the more familiar it became. ”
"Maybe I'm too handsome to play basketball, hehe... At that time, during intermission, I felt that she was very good-looking standing on the side, and at first I didn't remember that she was a high school classmate, didn't she all say that the female college eighteen changed. ”
"Later, from time to time, I met in the school, but I didn't say too much, and at most I said hello."
"When I had my birthday in my junior year, I confessed to her and then I was together."
Stills from "Love Before Dawn Breaks"
"When he said it, for a moment, I wanted to find a place to hide, but my feet didn't listen to the call, to be honest, it was a little nervous, I felt my heart beat so loud, and then I said 'good' in a confused way. Now that I think about it, I really admire his courage, and the honesty that makes people feel that there is no place to hide. ”
Stills from "Heartbeat"
"That was the first time I had confessed to someone in person, and she said I wasn't nervous? In fact, it was not as calm as it seemed, and I kept holding my breath in my heart, and even my toes were tensing up. ”
"When I was in high school, I thought he was too noisy, but I didn't expect that every day Lang Langdang could also be admitted to college, and when he went to college, he didn't feel so annoying, and he cleaned himself up quite clean."
"I'm 181cm, and when we walk together, she's almost on my shoulder here, dressed very plain but also very good-looking, very suitable for her."
"We're together, that is, eating together, going to and from class together, watching movies on weekends, drinking milk tea, nothing particularly romantic. Emmm...... During the long holidays, they will bring their roommates to hang out together. ”
"It's comfortable to be together, and in a school where there are more boys than girls, if you have a girlfriend, you have a light on the road."
"There will be quarrels, but we won't make a big fuss."
"In fact, I don't know the girl's mind, and sometimes the reason for the awkwardness is not very clear, but I can't be frozen all the time, so usually I go to talk first."
03
Think too much and don't think much
"They all say graduation season is breakup season, but okay, we're not."
"We also lived in a different place, and there were also excessive separations, but in the end, we broke up, not at the time when it was difficult to survive in a different place."
"In fact, during that time in a different place, although we didn't see each other often, we found the feeling of attachment and wanting to be attached when we first started together."
"Well, it's true, she occasionally makes some little sex, but I don't get angry, but I feel very kind, and she's cute too."
"Because, I can see that he just wants to stay like this, but I must admit that youth is no longer there, no one will stay in a state of pure enthusiasm, and there are too many realistic problems in this world to face."
Stills from "Love Before Midnight Falls"
"Because she always likes to think wildly, but I don't want to think so much, why live so tired?" Money, I am responsible for earning it, what will be the problem? ”
"I'm too dependent on him, and maybe he doesn't know that. The time before and after the breakup was really painful for me... I like him, 5 years together, I'm used to everything we're together and I don't even know what I'd be like without him. However, it was this feeling that made me feel afraid, afraid that if I lost him one day, I would have nothing left. I'm his girlfriend, but I can't just be his girlfriend, friends say I'm pretentious..."
"I don't understand, I don't want to pretend to understand, don't you all say 7 years of itch, maybe it's too long." Give each other some space, maybe it's best. ”
04
It's not us anymore
"After the breakup, I talked about a few girlfriends, they are all very good, but they may be old, and they can no longer find the warm feeling they once had, and the hormones are loose, and it is easy to become boring." It's better when I was younger..."
"I've always been single. Have you found myself? I don't know. Now a person's life is relatively quiet, you can face the previous uneasiness, maybe because I no longer have anything from others, so there is nothing to lose, or maybe when I face life alone, there will be no problems. Now, I'm thinking about making more money so that no matter who I'm with in the future, I don't have to think about it. ”
"If you don't break up, you might marry her, I don't know, but I can't go back." Now look down, love, marriage is like that, the conditions are similar, personality can be compatible, you can. ”
"I don't know. Friends always say that if I hadn't been so insistent at the time, maybe I would be a happy family of three now. ”
"There's nothing to regret, I was able to do everything I could do at the time. But let's be honest, it will be missed, it was our best time. ”
"Maybe I regret it, especially when others are in pairs for the holiday, but most of it is because of loneliness, a kind of contrast loss, because I also know very well that the problem between us is still there." 」 But if I never imagined a whitehead with him, it would be a lie. To this day, I also hope that there will be someone to accompany me and walk together in the future life. I don't know who he is, will he still show up? ”
"How about her?" Found what she was looking for? ”
"What about him? Okay? A man like him, his popularity has always been very good. ”
"I want her to be well."
"I'm sure he'll be doing well."
What kind of love do you want?
Why did the last relationship end?
When you broke up, did you communicate openly with each other?
Will you want to save it now?
How exactly do you maintain love?
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