The divorce variety show "Goodbye Lover" ended perfectly, and the score stopped steadily at 8.9 points, becoming the ceiling of the internal entertainment reality show variety show.
Seeing the three groups of guests truly presenting their living conditions, everyone is also looking for their own shadows in the show.
Tong Chenjie and Wei Wei, married for 7 years, could not agree to divorce because of the problem of children.
Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu are husband and wife during the cooling off period. They are 10 years apart in age, and when they communicate, there are many contradictions.
Fortunately, Wei Wei began to make changes for Tong Chenjie; and Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu were also well.
The only thing that makes people wonder is Zhang He and Guo Keyu, is there love in the ten-year marriage?
Guo Keyu and Zhang He have been divorced for more than 1 year. They rarely meet before they go on the show, let alone communicate. Ten years of marriage, eventually becoming the most familiar stranger.
In the program, Guo Keyu and Zhang He gave surprisingly consistent answers to the reasons for the divorce.
Both feel that they can't go into each other's hearts, and there is no love in marriage.
The two married only because they were old enough to feel that it was time to get married, so they just met each other during filming, felt right, and got married.
Guo Keyu said in the program: "I thought that the feelings after marriage could be cultivated, but I didn't expect to go farther and farther. ”
The host asked her, "Your hearts have never come closer?" ”
Guo Keyu affirmatively said:
"Yes, when Zhang He and I got closer and closer, it was during pregnancy, he quit drinking and smoking, and when he ate hot pot, he was afraid of burning the child, he would fish out the food to dry, and then let me eat..."
Guo Keyu's performance of Zhang He during pregnancy is extremely positive, and it has been mentioned many times in the program. That memory was the best and sweetest time after her marriage.
The guest turned his head and asked Zhang He, "During that time, did you also have the feeling of being close to your heart?" ”
Zhang He did not answer positively, but only said: "In this ten years of marriage, I have never felt that my heart is very close. ”
Zhang He said for example, before going to bed, he used to let Guo Keyu help him scratch his back, Guo Keyu scratched and fell asleep, Zhang He hoped that the other party could scratch a little longer, it was best to scratch him to sleep..."
Zhang He's answer directly denied Guo Keyu's pregnancy feelings. At that time, Guo Keyu's face had a trace of displeasure.
Zhang He's words stung Guo Keyu, and it turned out that her feelings were all illusions, which was the most absurd joke.
Zhang He asked Guo Keyu whether he had ever loved him, and Guo Keyu's small details had long explained that she had loved him deeply.
Zhang He should ask himself: Has love ever loved Guo Keyu?
Every time Zhang He came home after filming, Guo Keyu would ask him "what time is the plane", she wanted to arrange cooking time for him, this kind of love from life, Zhang He did not feel it, and he also sarcastically said that there was a nanny to cook...
In fact, the love in life is not just scratching the back, looking for it with your heart, there will be many memorable moments. On the other hand, when Guo Keyu shared his feelings, he used Zhang He's performance throughout her pregnancy as a standard, not a certain day or something.
Guo Keyu's delicate and sensitive personality, even if misunderstood, will not quarrel with Zhang He, but will only choose to reduce intersection and avoid conflict.
Zhang He's personality is very direct in the way of expression, he does not realize that there is a problem with his speech, thinking that the other party does not want to communicate with him, is not willing to get close to his heart.
Guo Keyu's delicacy, Zhang He did not read well, and such a beautiful Guo Keyu really deserves better.
Some people say: Guo Keyu is Zhang He lost a pearl, too much identification.
In marriage, with the reduction of the number of communication and the decline in quality, the distance between the heart will become farther and farther, the inner knot will become tighter and tighter, and when patience is exhausted, the feelings will drop to the freezing point, and the marriage will also fail.
In question 36, Guo Keyu and Zhang He have an intriguing dialogue:
Guo Keyu: My friends and I talk about everything, they understand me and remember what I said.
Zhang he: In marriage, you never regarded me as a friend? Is it pressure not to talk to me?
Guo Keyu: It's not pressure, sometimes, it's not that I don't tell you, is it that you really want to listen? Because, many times, when I want to talk to you about this and that, I am directly intimidated by you, and the signal I receive is that you don't really want to hear it.
Zhang He said slightly surprised: I don't have the feeling that I don't want to hear it.
Guo Keyu: For example, on the question of eating, there are only 2 answers set in your mind: eat or not eat.
Zhang He: I want you to answer me first, you ate or didn't eat, and then say something else.....
Guo Keyu: That's right, everyone's language logic is different, when you find that the other party does not answer according to your logic, you lose the desire to listen...
10 years of marriage, they didn't really know each other. Guo Keyu's personality is soft and rigid, her past emotional experience, her career glory, and her current age is embarrassing, all of which are the pain points that make it difficult for her to open her heart.
Zhanghe's personality is too straight and not delicate enough. Obviously, he has done many things, but his impatient personality is difficult to accept. Guo Keyu said on the show that they have no love, who will believe it? She obviously loved so much, so much.
A marriage that lasted for 10 years, said, was started casually and ended because there was no love. No one will believe it.
At least one side is loving, and the other side is struggling to persevere. And the first person to let go is often the one who pays the most in marriage.
There's a saying, "I like apples, but you give me a box of pears." It is not me who you are touching, but yourself. ”
In 18 days, at least Guo Keyu and Zhang He changed the way they got along, which was also a harvest. Compounding was not necessary, and Zhang He originally did not want to compound.
Sister Guo, who is elegant and wise, should also do a good job.
Author: Moss, multi-platform original writer, writing for years, living up to the prosperity of the first life.
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