Author | Erhe
Can you believe that?
A 5-year-old boy, accompanied by his mother, began to run errands in the neighborhood to deliver couriers.
The purpose is to make money to buy yourself a phone watch for about 500 yuan.
Countless people have liked the little boy, but what is even more praiseworthy is the boy's mother.
This mom mainly did three things:
1. Show the child a book about money from a children's perspective.
After reading the book "Puppy Money", the child planted an independent seed and wanted to earn pocket money by himself.
2. Help your child find a way together.
The mother did not laugh at the idea that the child wanted to make money, but helped him come up with the method of helping the neighbors get the courier.
3. Together with your child, find the staff of the express delivery station to communicate.
The mother took her son to communicate with the staff, and after obtaining consent, helped her son write a "notice note" in his tone and paste it in a conspicuous place:
"My name is ZaiZai, I am 5 years old this year, I can help my uncle and aunt to get the courier, the remuneration is 0.5 yuan / piece, 1 yuan / 3 pieces ..."
She also helped her son print 500 business cards and let him distribute them to neighbors while playing in the neighborhood.
As soon as the notice was posted, many neighbors took the initiative to contact the child's mother, the neighbors are very concerned about the child's business, they will send the pickup code to the child's mother, and the mother will copy the pickup code on the paper. Next, the child then picks up the courier at the courier storage point and sends it to the neighbor's house in batches.
Half a month later, the boy earned 50 yuan, but he still had to work hard to buy a phone watch.
When it comes to the popularity of her 5-year-old son on the Internet, my mother also has a lot of feelings. Before that, the child did not have any money concept, wanted to eat snacks, wanted to ride in a rocking car, and secretly took money from the piggy bank at home.
Today, my son has begun to understand the truth that money is not easy to come by, and spending money will not be extravagant. The ability to communicate with strangers has also become stronger and bolder.
The child's view of money comes from the parents.
The meaning of talking about money with children is far beyond money.
Children who know how to get along with money know how to live a good life. If you don't want to spoil your child, you can talk to your child about money earlier.
It is the duty of parents to talk to their children about money
A father in Weifang, Shandong Province, received a series of "surprises" from his son.
Mobile phone text messages bombarded serially, prompting the purchase to succeed, and then, the online shopping things flew home from all over the country like snowflakes.
Dad was dumbfounded, and when he checked the bank card again, the 70,000 yuan was gone. It turned out that at night, he and his wife would watch TV kung fu, and his 6-year-old son secretly entered the password and directly emptied the shopping cart.
In the end, this farce ended with Mr. Wei punishing his son for copying his homework 300 times, and also posting a photo of his son kneeling there with his back hand in the circle of friends and taking a photo with a group of objects.
But is the problem solved?
Not really.
The child is punished and the goods are returned, but the child may not be able to realize what he has done wrong.
If you never talk to your child about money, have a problem, and scold the child for not understanding things, it is inevitable that it is a bit difficult to be strong.
Talking to children about money is the responsibility of parents, and not talking about it is the problem.
Colleagues complained that their son was almost 30 years old, but the problem of asking for money from her has never changed.
After graduating from a prestigious school, the boy originally found a good job, and the salary was particularly generous. But the boy did not know how to save money, and the first thing he did when his salary came down every month was to pay back the flowers that were heavily indebted.
His money was either to buy the latest mobile phone or to ask his friends to go out and play script killing, which cost a lot of money every time. After working for 5 years, I didn't save a penny, I even bought gifts for my friends and my parents to support me.
Colleagues still have a hard time believing when the child who once made her proud has become like this.
When?
At the age of 5, the child stole money for the first time, and she did not take it seriously;
At the age of 10, the child wants to buy the latest telephone watch, even if the price is as high as half of the salary, she also directly agreed;
At the age of 15, the child began to question her: Why can't she live in a big house if she has money at home?
So, our children, why do we need money for education?
Children who have never attended money education classes are like students who have been absent from school for a long time, and when they grow up, they are destined to "hand in the white paper".
And those who lack money knowledge, sooner or later, will come to the door in various ways, and force the children to pay the "supplementary examination fee" and let them frequently fall into trouble.
Like any other homework, money is a lesson that children should teach patiently when they are young, rather than let society educate.
The meaning of money education is far beyond money
Best-selling author Rachel, when she was a child, went to the theme park with her parents, and her parents agreed with her in three chapters in advance:
If you play carnival games, you can only spend your own money.
The first game of the entrance attracted her deeply, so she slapped the money on the table and began to play. Losing again and again, she continued to pay.
Later, when she put her hand in her trouser pocket and only touched the fleece, she realized that she had spent all her money. But the whole family still has to play in the playground all day, and she can't play other games.
She rushed to her parents to ask for money, but was ruthlessly refused: "Baby, when the money is gone, it will be gone." ”
That parental education made her finally realize two truths:
First, money is not an inexhaustible magical spring, but the hard work of parents;
Second, the overdraft in the consumption of money can only be borne by oneself.
Consumer behavior, judgment, and independent consciousness are actually hidden in the parents' money education.
American writer Ron said that pocket money is related to patience, donation is related to generosity, and need is related to self-control.
Money is not omnipotent, nor is it sinful, money is neutral. Everything depends on how parents educate and guide.
Don't want to spoil your child, just talk to him about money
Talking about money will not affect the child's values, and it will not be possible to talk about money.
1, tell the child that money is very important, but can not be controlled by money.
Money Education ≠ paid rewards
Pat back, 2 yuan at a time;
Wash the dishes, 5 yuan at a time;
Reading, one hour reward 5 yuan;
Take a 100-point test, the reward is 20 yuan...
This is also a pit that many parents are easy to step on in education, and once money is linked to housework and grades, education changes its taste.
"Anti-Coddling" said that parents are busy and no one gives money, why can children take money when they do housework? Housework is what everyone has to do, so that family life can run smoothly. Every child is a contributor to the family and has to work.
Paying changed the original intention of family members to help each other.
2) Tell your child that money is not a panacea.
Chen Meiling, the mother who trained 3 Stanford school bullies, did this:
She tells her children what money can't buy, such as good memories, family and friends, and love.
She also created a lot of fun games to play with the children, and in the laughter, the children will also know that there is no need to pay for happiness.
3, more important than monetary rewards, it is more important to teach children, get the way, use it with moderation.
When a primary school opened in Hangzhou, the gift given to the children by the class teacher was a piggy bank, which was especially popular with children. The teacher said that only by saving point by point can we know the importance of hard work, and we can better understand that only hard work can be exchanged for harvest.
More important than the amount, it is more important to tell the child to establish the habit of saving and saving money in the choice and restraint.
This kind of waiting and restraint will become an important gift for children on the road to growth.
It is easy to give pocket money, but it is not so simple for children to understand gratitude;
It's easy for kids to consume easily, but it's hard to teach them to control their desires.
Children see the world through their parents, and the parents' view of money hides the future of their children.
Talk to your child about money as soon as possible, when your child learns to wait in saving, understands giving in donation, and knows the trade-offs when needed, our money education is meaningful.
Children will also see the lesser-known happy side of money in sweat and giving.
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Author: Erhe, journalist, pastry chef, likes fresh and interesting text, prefers sweet and rich cream. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.