Some people say: "The Fairy Tale of The Years" is the most adult work in Studio Ghibli, an animated film for adults. Indeed, on that rare Saturday afternoon, leaving aside my wife, mother, and clerk for a while, I saw my own shadow in "The Fairy Tale of the Years."
The heroine, 27-year-old Myoko Okajima, graduated from college and works in an office building in a big city, doing an ordinary job. A short 10-day trip to the countryside reminds Myoko of many, many childhood memories, which changes her future life choices and directions.
The memories interspersed in the film let us see that the childhood myoko has too much depression and unhappiness. Single and boring life, picky eaters are blamed by their mothers, distressed by puberty development, have the opportunity to act in dramas but are not agreed by their fathers, as "old and young" are not loved by their sisters, and poor calculations are considered to be stupid brains and IQ problems... Who doesn't have such a real, detailed, and easily overlooked memory?
Those disappointments that began to return to disappointment, the heartache of being scolded by parents when they were wayward, and the unwillingness to lose their dreams were sealed in the memories of the years by Myoko. What the adult Myoko couldn't understand was that this trip to the countryside made the 5th grade Myoko run out of her memory from time to time. Thus, it is not so much a country trip as it is a journey of spiritual healing: Myoko's heart is slowly opened, the psychological trauma of childhood is seen one by one, and the disappointments, sorrows and pains are released one after another, and then soothed and dissolved.
Today I will. The self-healing in the play mainly consists of four steps.
1. Be aware of the hurt you have done, and every pain needs to be seen
2) Accept the existence of harm and allow emotions to flow out
3, express real feelings, negative emotions also need the audience
4, forgive the limited parents, let go of hate can rise love
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >1, to perceive the hurt that has been, every pain needs to be seen</h1>
In "The Fairy Tale of the Years", Miaozi herself does not know why she always remembers the bits and pieces of the fifth grade, and the reason she gives herself is that she experienced a turning point in her life when she was in the fifth grade, so she may have to go through a turning point now.
From a psychological point of view, These memories of Myoko are manifestations of the unconscious beginning to appear. According to the psychological master Jung, the personal unconscious is something we repress for various reasons, that is, "all kinds of forgotten and repressed things." ”
Although Myoko's memories do not have too many emotional ups and downs, their childhood, which should be happy and happy, is tinged with a faint sadness. These sorrows are actually a reminder to Myoko that these long-held pains have not disappeared, they need to be seen.
On the train to the countryside, Myoko also tries to ignore these memories, but with the communication with the village farmers, especially the understanding of the hero Toshio, Myoko's memories become clearer and clearer, and the release of childhood emotions becomes more and more intense.
Awareness is the first step to healing. We can think of healing as scraping bones to heal wounds. The first step in healing is to find out where the wound is, the psychological trauma is not as obvious as the physical trauma, more pain is buried in the dusty memory, so awareness is the first and most important step in healing. Some psychologists even say that awareness is healing.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >2, accept the existence of harm and allow emotions to flow out</h1>
People instinctively don't recall the hurt they have suffered. Because to become aware of these hurts means to experience the pain again. Sometimes the trauma is too great, the pain is too deep, and it is indigestible by personal strength.
Myoko in the film also denies the existence of harm at the beginning. Remembering her father's support for her hobbies, Myoko does not accept these hurts from her parents in her heart, so these emotions are frozen here and become a thorn in her heart.
Compared to Myoko, the 25-year-old Toshio is much calmer. He would confess his jealousy of those who had worse grades than him coming back from Tokyo, and he would also feel very embarrassed by the bragging and showing off of his friends. His emotions are fluid, so he is also sincere in expressing his feelings for his parents. Myoko didn't say a bad word about her parents, but we can feel that Myoko's feelings for her parents are not smooth.
Psychology believes that there is no good or bad in people's feelings. Both hate and love should be accepted. Only by fully acknowledging the hurt that has been done, even if it is resentful of parents, do not be afraid, fully resentful and full of hate, and believe that when emotions come, they will definitely leave. Many people will label themselves as "unfilial" moral labels, so emotions are stuck here, love and hate, neither good love nor good hate.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >3, expressing real feelings, negative emotions also need listeners</h1>
Under the empathy and influence of Toshio, Myoko's memories begin to fluctuate emotionally. She began to express herself proactively, expressing the anger of not being able to get the skin bag, expressing the heartache of being slapped by her father, and expressing the grievances and sadness that she had been.
The scene in which Myoko is at her lowest mood in the film is also a key link in Myoko's resolution of the doubts that have plagued her for many years. Myoko recalls not shaking hands with him at the same table, and this scene is the most authentic expression of her feelings in all the films: her sadness, sadness and doubts are like the heavy rain outside the car, and with the expression of reality, it is completely released.
The psychology giant Jung called the general psychological response of people to the external environment "personality mask". The role of the "personality mask" is to make people strengthen their adaptation and obtain the necessary comfort. But if a person's "personality mask" is all composed of externally recognized characteristics, and her own internal things are suppressed and suppressed, the personality mask will become mechanical, rigid, and even become a mask that cannot be taken off in the true sense.
In fact, all along, Myoko wears a well-behaved "personality mask", she is cheerful and smiling and understanding, which is a way for her to protect herself. But only she herself understood: this was not the real Myoko. Just like in the second half of the film, Myoko finally begins to face herself squarely, and she confesses that she is pretending to be very well-behaved.
She starts by facing her true feelings, re-examining her past and thinking about the life she really wants. I have to say that in this process, Toshio played a very important auxiliary role. He listens patiently, empathizes firmly, and actively enlightens, and in this regard Toshio is Myoko's guide.
If you compare it from the perspective of mental health, Toshio's psychological energy is much greater than that of Myoko. This is also why he is obviously 2 years younger than Myoko, but he is more mature, confident and determined than Myoko. At the age of 25, he can follow his heart and firmly choose his career, while Myoko is engaged in a job that she does not know whether she likes or not.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >4, forgive the limitedness of parents, let go of hate to rise love</h1>
In the film, Toshio said that he now respects his father in his heart. He is sincere, and his sincerity is based on the fact that he has truly seen and expressed his feelings for his father.
Only by hating it fully will love rise. We're not talking about the expression to accuse the parents, but. There is no need to suppress anger and resentment, and anger and resentment cannot be suppressed. When anger reaches its extreme, it is sadness, and when sadness comes, acceptance begins, and love follows.
Only then can we forgive our parents from the bottom of our hearts. Accept that our parents are not perfect parents, forgive their limitations, believe that they love us in the deepest places, and believe that they are not intentionally trying to hurt us.
No more love like a little child. We want to be stronger than them, more conscious, more capable, we learn to be aware, and when we really stand up, we can love them, forgive and respect them.
At the end of the film, Myoko confronts her feelings and decides to spend her life with Toshio. But what makes people think about it is extremely frightening: is the decision to take root in the countryside also a subconscious rebellion of Myoko's "when she was a child, her parents did not take her to the countryside to play"? Fortunately, Myoko chose nature, which has a natural healing and calming effect. Myoko, who believes that her self-awareness has awakened, can continue to heal the wounds of childhood under the influence of her lover and environment.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > realistic inspiration:</h1>
Through the descriptions of their parents by different characters in the film, we can see that the animation master Takahata Hoon wants to convey to us that there are no perfect parents in this world. Everyone carries childhood wounds, so what inspiration does this film give us from the process of self-healing of ordinary people Myoko?
1, happy people use childhood to heal a lifetime, unfortunate people use a lifetime to heal childhood.
The process of "healing" looks like a simple four-step process, but it's hard to practice. It is so difficult that many people cannot get out of the shackles of their original families after their lives. I used to cry out in the playground full of people: I couldn't stand the fact that "my parents loved my brother more", and what I couldn't face was the feeling of being "unloved". When I saw the poor little girl in my heart, I understood that the love she wanted from her parents would never be obtained.
Accepting this fact, I let go of the past and began to look to the future: Since my parents can never give me the love I want, what can I do for myself? I can treat myself the way I am "the perfect parent in my mind", I can give myself the love I need, I can be my own parent.
After "self-sufficiency", looking back and forth at my parents, I saw that they loved me. They really did their best to love me, and they also realized that I was starting to make up for my brother's injuries. Letting go of the resentment towards my parents, my love for my parents has a chance to begin to release.
What is even more difficult is that the healing of this pain is not completed in one go, it is characterized by stages and twists. There will always be something similar that touches you, reminding you that the iceberg inside you has not completely melted. You need to repeat the cycle of "perceive-receive-express-forgive" until all the pain in your heart is released.
2) The degree of happiness depends on the level at which the individual is responsible for suffering.
In Living Your New Self, the Body, Mind, and Soul Writer points out eight levels of personal responsibility:
1, what caused this problem, I am just an innocent victim.
2, it is because of what, things will be like this, but I have to take care of the aftermath of this problem.
3, I am also responsible for the occurrence of this problem, but I am like this, I can't help it.
4, this kind of thing is very common in life, I just need to be patient, open one eye, close one eye and mix it up.
5, this problem is really uncomfortable, God, help me face it.
6) This question is not anyone's fault, but I have the inner strength to face it in a way that can help me grow.
7) This is a matter of my subconscious attraction (or choice), I can actually choose something better for myself.
8) I created this problem, I can give it any meaning, and now I choose to transform it and take my strength from it.
We see many unhappy people around us, staying at the first level: the victim mentality. Just like I used to resent my parents for loving my brother more, it was the first level of suffering. But as I began to explore inward, trying to accept and forgive, I went through the second, third, fourth, fifth, and now to the sixth level.
As we take on higher levels of personal responsibility, the higher our happiness index increases: because we become more and more empowered, we are no longer the poor little children who need to wait for someone else to love.
summary:
With such a simple plot, "Fairy Tales of Time" won the box office of 1.87 billion yen that year, because it aroused strong resonance among moviegoers, and everyone can find their own shadow in the film. At the end of the movie, Myoko was pulled by her classmates in elementary school, got off the return train, turned around and took the train back to her hometown, and threw herself into the embrace of the countryside without hesitation. With a touching ending song, people burst into tears.
All that is in childhood, those sweet, makes future memories so sweet; those that are painful, let the future life hesitate to go alone. Joy or sadness, cheerfulness or introversion, childhood experiences have formed a variety of personalities, which will be imprinted on the body; and these emotional worldviews and outlooks on life, like unshackable shadows, are buried in the deepest recesses of everyone's heart, waiting for the healing of time and years.
Author: Mints Reading. Reading changes life, and freedom is made because of writing