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The Romantic writer Victor Hugo once said: "Goodness is a rare pearl in history, and good people are almost superior to great people." ”
Kindness has always been the noble quality that human beings diligently pursue. Since ancient times, human beings have begun to have the ability to think, and then there is a clear vision of right and wrong.
Behind the discernment between right and wrong is to correct the attitude of the individual, know what is good, what is bad, what is light, what is dark, not only to see through the world, but also to tell themselves what kind of person to be.
In your opinion, what kind of person should modern people be?
Modern people, blindly thinking only to make money, have no other ideas to speak of. In the end, everyone lives in an environment of "competing for fame and profit", and there is no touch of kindness and happiness.
Wang Zhiwen once sighed that people now have too many hearts and eyes.
In the past, people also advocated the five virtues of "benevolence, righteousness, wisdom and faith", believing that being a person without morality is even more terrible than being talentless. And what about people today? Character is ignored and interests are overemphasized.
It is not that it is not good to attach importance to interests, but it is said that once everyone lives into the appearance of "mercenary and unscrupulous", then life is chaotic.
Kindness, which should be the mainstream quality. However, it has become a "derogatory term" in the eyes of modern people, which is really sad.
02
From childhood to adulthood, parents and elders always tell us to be a kind and honest person, contribute well to society and take care of the family in the future.
We have also always been human according to the traditional concept. As everyone knows, when we step out of society, the old rivers and lakes in society make us understand that being too kind is a mistake.
In the workplace, you are kind and honest, then you are a soft persimmon in the eyes of others, not only being bullied, but also being looked down upon, and even getting worse and worse.
At this time, you will give up the quality of honesty and kindness, and gradually become smooth and treacherous.
In a relationship, honest women will always meet scumbags who "cheat money and cheat", and honest men will also meet women who "only ask for take over". As a result, honest people will suffer losses in love.
Whether it is an honest woman or an honest man, as long as they lack a certain degree of defense, I believe that they will become victims of their feelings.
In the interpersonal relationship field, if you are too honest and kind, your friends will use you, and even trap you to death, and finally let the honest and kind you end up in an unfortunate end.
After experiencing these three points, I believe we will all sigh, is there a problem in people's hearts, or is there a problem in reality? Everything is worth thinking about.
03
Why are honest and kind people always bullied, and even good people are not rewarded? We need to analyze it from a sociological point of view.
Judging from the composition of the whole society, everyone in the society has their own desires to pursue. When resources are not enough, competition will occur.
For example, the cake is divided, the rich people share the majority, while the ordinary people can only share the small part of the cake. In order to get more, ordinary people will change their past practices and play tricks.
In particular, human beings have unsatisfactory desires, which will make their greed infinite, their tricks infinite, and their malignant infinity.
In ancient times, why did Xunzi think that "human nature is inherently evil"?
Because Xunzi knew that when people came to this world, as long as they came into contact with the external environment, the evil in human nature would be revealed and would never change.
Maybe he was particularly kind and honest before. After he has experienced a period of time, I believe that he will become oily and sophisticated, specializing in bullying ordinary people.
The jianghu tells us a truth, natural selection, survival of the fittest, is the truth.
Like the beasts of the animal world, they slaughter for food, desperately fight for profit, disregard the principles of the heart, and only care about the rules of nature. Everything is particularly cruel and realistic.
04
Forcing honest people to the point where there is no way out is the sadness of human nature.
I've seen one thing like this,
Xiao Li was originally a particularly honest worker. When he first came to the company, he has always been sincere and sincere, and he has worked hard and complained. But his colleagues kept bullying him.
Especially some of the old qualified colleagues, they regard Xiao Li as a servant, and completely ignore his dignity.
After a few years, another new person came to the company. And Xiao Li has also grown into an old Li, his personality is no longer honest and kind, and he is no longer sincere, but likes to suppress new employees and treat them as free servants.
The new colleagues also sighed, why do the old qualified colleagues have to do so ruthlessly?
From this example, we can find that in fact, Lao Li himself is an honest and kind person. It was only under the tempering of society that he successfully transformed into a person who was indifferent and indifferent.
This corresponds to the sentence: "The boy who slays the dragon will eventually become a dragon." ”
Everything is similar. No matter what kind of industry, everyone is originally a kind and honest person. But after they soaked in the big dye vat of society for a while, their kindness disappeared and their honest side became distorted.
After pushing honest people to the extreme, honest people will eventually change their own concepts and ideas, and obey the rules of reality and the jianghu. In the end, kindness will only be looked down upon more and more, and honesty will also be despised. This is a kind of sadness.
That's all.
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