My daughter is 10 years old this year, in the fifth grade, chatting with my daughter some time ago, she said that a boy in her class had a birthday, her table mate sent a quicksand stationery box printed with Tang San to the boy, and she bought a small five quicksand stationery box at the same table, for this matter, my daughter said this: When I see that I am at the same table, I like the boy, otherwise how can it be arranged like this?
I was surprised by the child's precocious puberty now, the 5th grade of primary school discussed the problem of likes and dislikes, just the next day met the parents of the little boy in her mouth, and in the process of chatting with her, I said: Now that the child has entered puberty, we must do some guidance with the child, and now the 5th grade child has begun to talk about who likes whom.
The mother was surprised and said: No, I feel that my son is still like a kindergarten, and now he is running naked all over the house after taking a shower at home.
I have to say that the personality differences and physiological characteristics of boys and girls show that girls are indeed much precocious than boys, just recently read the "Raising Boys" and "Raising Girls" set of books, summed up some of the similarities and similarities and differences in the book about raising boys and girls, here to share with you:
Let's start with the differences:
First, differences in brain structure make differences in boys and girls' handling of emotional problems:
Boys and girls are born differently, and biological secrets determine the characteristics of boys.
Boys and girls are born with differences in brain structure that make them handle things very differently.
Girls are better at dealing with those complex emotions, which may explain why girls can more easily understand and feel the feelings of others. They will be more empathetic than boys, and boys are better at dealing with simple and direct emotions, far less delicate than little girls.
Girls generally have more delicate feelings.
In the process of getting along with others, girls can feel the hearts of others very well, while boys only want to control the situation by themselves, do not care about others, and inadvertently hurt others.
For boys, because their left and right brains are not very closely connected when they develop, and the development of the left brain is relatively slow, they are not as good at observing the inner world of others as girls.
Not caring about others and not being good at communication are the natural weaknesses of boys, which is undoubtedly an obstacle in the growth process of boys. If parents want their boys to understand a little bit of human sophistication, then they must find ways to train them from an early age and patiently teach them some skills to get along with people.
Second, the difference in brain structure makes there a difference in the language ability of boys and girls:
The human brain is divided into left brain and right brain, which have different functions.
Simply put, the left brain is assigned language and reasoning, while the right brain is replicated, motion, and space-time orientation. Girls' brains develop faster than boys', and they use their left brain more to think about problems, so girls' left brains are a little more developed and their language skills are a little better.
Girls and boys have completely different interests, girls generally like to host sentence-making, riddle guessing and other games, so that boys prefer to build wood, build blocks, walk maze games.
As girls get a little older, parents also find that girls are far better at writing than boys, and their language scores are generally higher than boys'. Therefore, parents may wish to make more use of their strengths and avoid their weaknesses, and choose their respective advantages for boys and girls to develop their respective abilities.
Testosterone makes boys aggressive little machines:
Boys prefer competition to girls, competitive environments can make them more exciting, and boys are more willing to accept challenges and like to take risks for no reason.
Boys mostly prefer to live in groups, prefer to dominate and control the environment, and are good at estimating their position in the group according to their own strengths.
There are many similarities
I analyzed some of the things in "Raising Boys" and "Raising Girls" that parenting boys and girls have a lot in common, to give a few examples:
1. Give your child an environment to explore in protection
Whether it is a boy or a girl, when parents educate their children, they treat him as a thoughtful, independent child, and try to discuss things at home with him, and when they encounter things, they can also ask their children's opinions, and then carefully consider and make a decision.
In this way, both boys and girls will learn the ability to think and judge independently. The best gift a parent can give to a child is not a limited-edition toy, but an environment in which he is protected to move forward and try new things.
Before the child asks for your help, do not provide help without authorization, because in their view, it is not their love, but your denial and control of them, which will be a heavy blow to their self-esteem and self-confidence. More seriously, if they get too much help, they will lose strength and motivation, and they will easily become lazy or insecure.
2, let the child feel surrounded by love
Both boys and girls need to feel surrounded by love, because only those who have been loved will have the consciousness of love and have the ability to love others.
Many people in society now reflect that college students are indifferent and do not know how to love. Largely because of their lack of experience of love. No matter how busy parents are, they must also take time to accompany their children, and they must not be perfunctory, they must devote themselves to creating a happy atmosphere for their children
3. Let children have the courage to face difficulties and setbacks
Whether it is a boy or a girl, life is not always smooth. In our lives, we are always full of difficulties and problems of one kind or another. However, we should let children understand that flowers that bloom in the face of adversity are more beautiful, as pure and beautiful as the snow lotus on the iceberg.
Therefore, we must let children believe that setbacks and difficulties are the touchstone given to them by God, which will only eliminate the cowardly and incompetent, and the strong only know more about life, know how to improve themselves, and will get more experience and lessons.
4. Appreciate your child's curiosity
Whether it is a boy or a girl, children are full of curiosity about some new things in life. Then, as a parent, you should protect your child's curiosity, not stifle your child's curiosity.
Being able to open some unknown boxes shows that children have curiosity, a desire to learn, and want to look at problems and study problems by themselves. Children can have a strong interest in new things, explore in it, can make him happy, mentally relaxed, brain excited, creativity is highly exerted
5. Protect your child's self-esteem
Boys and girls alike, don't criticize them in public. The child's little mind will be afraid of being naked in front of everyone, and to love the child is to truly think about him.
Stop the dissatisfaction in your mouth! When a problem arises, the parent may wish to seek a solution, which is far more effective than criticism, clearly telling him that he has not done a good job, and he is responsible for his own fault. This establishes the child's sense of responsibility and responsibility, and at the same time diverts his anger.
Hope son Jackie Chan, hope daughter into phoenix is the wish of every parent, we all hope that their children are the best, optimistic and confident, witty and brave, talented to learn, loving, and responsible.
Then we as parents must understand the many differences in the process of raising boys and girls, and we strongly recommend that you read the two books "Raising Boys" and "Raising Girls", avoid many pits in parenting, and truly raise healthy and successful children!
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