This year is the 110th anniversary of Xiao Hong's birth, and in "Goodbye Lover", a passage of the awakening of women in Tong Chenjie's marriage is out of the circle. Tong Chenjie said that the marriage status of modern people is not as stable as that of their fathers, because when women no longer need men's physical strength and economy in a marriage, they want to have a fairer treatment.
I can't help but think of the female writer Xiao Hong seen in the movie "Golden Age", who obviously has talent and opportunities, but still let herself have to rely on one man after another, and finally died tragically.
From Xiao Hong, we may see that women's minds are awakening 90 years ago, but their economic and social consciousness has not kept up with this kind of ideological independence.
After the time has reached 90 years, a passage of tong Chenjie, a woman in this era, and her independent state in marriage, represents that women in the new era have begun to have their own sufficient voice in marriage from thought to behavior.
Xiao Hong, a modern and contemporary Chinese female writer 90 years ago, is known as one of the four talented women of the Republic of China.
Tong Chenjie 90 years later, the world-class supermodel of this era, is also an actor and host.
Perhaps, you would say that the identities of the two are not much comparable. From a professional point of view, the two are very different. But from the attitude of the two bravely pursuing marriage and freely choosing feelings, it is still worth comparing.
From their attitudes toward marriage, we can see the changes in women's views on marriage in different eras.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="19" >1 In the first marriage, Xiao Hong fled the family, and Tong Chenjie was on a par</h1>
90 years ago, in 1931, it was the Republican era when Chinese ideological emancipation and was deeply influenced by Western democratic ideas, and women in this era were also awakening their sense of marital autonomy.
Xiao Hong, who accepted the new idea, ran away from home to her cousin in order to escape marriage, and later had no choice but to ask for help from Wang Enjia, the object of escape, and the end was to be abandoned after becoming pregnant.
In that era, Xiao Hong had no family support and dared to run away from marriage alone, which cannot be said to be without courage. But it is also sad that only the mind desires freedom, but there is no economic autonomy, and it is also sad to turn to men for help.
After several tosses, under great financial pressure, Xiao Hong was still with her unsatisfactory fiancé.
Later, her husband left the hotel in arrears and never returned.
Xiao Hong's first marriage to escape from the family ended in pregnancy and abandonment.
Xiao Hong has culture and independent consciousness, escapes from the cage of the feudal family, and adopts actions to defect to a man, and the ending will naturally not be too good.
In the Republic of China era, the ideology began to awaken, but the economy did not give women too many opportunities, and Xiao Hong's fate can be said to be a product of the times and has a certain representativeness.
Let's take a look at the first marriage of Tong Chenjie, a new woman in the 21st century.
Tong Chenjie's first marriage was in 2004. It's a marriage of supermodels and soccer stars on par.
Tong Chenjie, at the age of 20, won the third place in the model competition in Shanghai, and two years later won the top fifteen of the world's top model competition. Later, she entered the hosting world and show business, and she was the representative of women in the new era.
When she was in the ascendancy, she married Xie Hui, a football star who had played football in Germany. The marriage of the two can be described as a very good match. At that time, it was called the Chinese version of Xiaobei and Hot Girls.
Tong Chenjie's marriage was completed when she was financially independent and had a good appeal in the industry. After marriage, she did not retire and remained active.
This also gives her enough confidence to express her thoughts and opinions in the face of her equally famous husband.
Although in the end of this marriage, the two broke up for various reasons, Tong Chenjie did not marry from beginning to end in order to ask for help from men and escape some kind of life, she has always had her own right to speak and economic strength.
After nearly a hundred years, the new women of the new era are no longer the era when only the mind was awakened, but the action and economy were still dependent on men. Tong Chenjie is such a modern woman with special significance.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="175" >2 In the second marriage, Xiao Hong was saved and Tong Chenjie was for love</h1>
Xiao Hong's second marriage is a heroic story of saving the United States that conforms to the aesthetics of the old era. From the very beginning, his encounter with her husband Xiao Jun was unequal.
Abandoned by her husband and stranded in a hotel, she wrote a letter of help to the newspaper, and it was her later second husband, Xiao Jun, who came.
The heroic and chivalrous Xiao Jun saw this weak, miserable and talented woman and had a deep pity and love.
The saver and the saved live together, and the marriage begins with the seeds of imbalance.
When Xiao Hong got to know Lu Xun and other cultural celebrities, and made economic and ideological progress compared with before, she still needed to rely on Xiao Jun economically and spiritually.
When Xiao Jun, a machismo, found that Xiao Hong's article was affirmed by more people, and associated with his wife's past experience. The two had more and more contradictions, and Xiao Hong was even beaten by Xiao Jun.
Psychologically unequal marriages are doomed to not last.
Xiao Hong once again tragically fled, this time she went to Japan, and after returning to China, she completely broke up with Xiao Jun.
When a woman treats herself in marriage as a rescued person, in the long run, she will inevitably be rejected and suppressed by the other party.
You are too weak, he will dislike you, you independent consciousness looks up, he will suppress you. Because you're just a dependent.
In that era when new ideas entered, old ideas have not completely disappeared, and the new economic system is not perfect, women who are civilized in their thinking can break the old cage but cannot enter a new life, And Xiao Hong's tragedy can be said to be a tragedy of the times.
Look at the second marriage of Tong Chenjie, a woman in the new era, when we see her appear in a marriage observation program such as "Goodbye Lover", we can see that the independent Tong Chenjie, the second marriage must be for love.
Look, Wei Wei loves Tong Chenjie, and in order to be with her, he left the well-developed Hunan Television Station and came to Shanghai to do freelance work.
Think about it, the time went back to 90 years ago, when only women defected to men, where is the reason for men to run to women?
Perhaps many people will think that this is a manifestation of feminism, which shows that men do not have a high status in the family.
If two people can talk to each other on an equal footing in marriage, then who runs to whom does not represent who is higher than whom.
It can only be said that today's women have their own right to speak, ostensibly because her economy is independent enough, the deep level is the awakening of the mind, and the action can keep up.
Tong Chenjie loves Wei Wei, and after Wei Wei came to Shanghai, she did housework that modern women may not be good at.
A generation of supermodels, cooking for her husband every day, does not flaunt herself as a modern woman, but looks like a good wife and mother.
Some people say that Tong Chenjie is not an independent awakening of a new woman, she is like a mother with a child. Earning money and taking care of the family, it is harder than the wife in a traditional marriage.
Tong Chenjie's female awakening lies more in her right to speak.
It is right to take care of her husband in life, but this is based on her willingness to give if she has feelings for her husband. Once faced with the issue of principle and not having children, Tong Chenjie clearly put forward her own needs, hoping that her husband Wei Wei would abstain from drinking for a year, and she would consider having children, otherwise she would rather let go.
In traditional marriage, it is the duty of women to pass on the generations. In today's era, women have their own independent voice in whether they have children or not, and they do not want to become a reproductive machine without a voice.
Perhaps as Tong Chenjie said, in today's era, marriage is not as stable as before, and women are no longer dependent on men for their economy and physical strength, so they have more of their own claims.
At least, today's view of women's marriage is not like before, they can only rely on men to cling to the family, and are forced to end from one end.
She guarded a home for a long time, only because of love and responsibility, not because she was forced to cling to it.
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Xiao Hong, a writer who broke into Shanghai 90 years ago, left the world with her wonderful writing and her lamentable life.
After she left Xiao Jun, she met her third husband, the gentle and artistic Duanmu Hongliang.
Xiao Hong originally wanted to seek a stable married life, but she did not expect that when she was seriously ill, the weak Duanmu Hongliang did not become her dependence.
Another man appeared beside her, Luo Hongji, a man who accompanied her for the last days.
Xiao Hong's life seems to have been looking for one life-saving straw after another. Even if you are talented, it is difficult to grasp the course of your destiny, and finally a miserable life.
"The greatest pain and misfortune of my life was because I was a woman." Xiao Hong finally summed up her life like this.
Tong Chenjie, a Shanghai woman 90 years later, although she and her husband appeared on a divorce show, are full of confidence, independent and strong.
She can control her own economy and has her own clear thoughts.
She said to her husband, if you quit drinking for a year, I can consider having children. If we don't have children, can you accept the two-person world?
She told Zhu Yaqiong, who wants to seek independence, that you can try to go out and see, learn to be independent, and learn more about the world.
She was ready to live alone, in a world of two, or if the man quit drinking, she could have children.
Rather than saying that Tong Chenjie has the right to speak about marriage, it is better to say that she has the right to speak of her own destiny.
Tong Chenjie's life, there is still a lot to look forward to.
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Economist Xue Zhaofeng once said that marriage is to run a business, and to run a family business.
Around 90 years ago, the change in the status of women in marriage does not mean that men and women must dominate who, just like today's Internet model of shared cooperation, men and women, there are more relatively equal discourse rights. In marriage, the ship of family business, it is possible to cooperate happily for a long time.
Today, I just listened to a women's business school course, and when I heard the voices of women inside, I couldn't help but be deeply excited and moved.
Women living in this era are still very happy and can have a lot of independent voice.
Indeed, women today are also hard.
Because today, we need to balance raising children and working hard, both to the hall and the kitchen.
At the same time, we must continue to learn and maintain a better state of life.
Today's women's class will talk about how women can balance family and career.
Keep a small habit of living with your family and have independent time for your family. Develop values that are in sync with your family, grow up with your family, and so on.
See, even if a woman goes to business school, she will consider how to balance her family and career, take care of her family, and develop positively with her family.
From the era of mobile Internet is about to enter the era of artificial intelligence, knowledge payment is prevalent, women are a large group of knowledge consumers, and their demand for changing lives and thinking is particularly strong.
When women begin to have more voice due to the changes of the times, it also means that women have more social responsibilities, and they hope to assume social responsibilities while taking care of their families.
In this sense, the independent awakening of women is not only of great significance to themselves, but also affects the stable development of the family and even the whole society.
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