In this era of looking at faces, the love stories of celebrities can always attract widespread attention. Especially like Tong Chenjie and Xie Hui, the former domestic Xiaobei and Spice Girls, their love lives are just like their careers, glamorous and full of twists and turns. After experiencing a high-profile marriage with Xie Hui, Tong Chenjie combined with Wei Wei, but faced new life challenges. In Wei Wei's view, he doesn't cook in order to make Tong Chenjie feel his importance, what kind of love concept and marriage truth are hidden behind this seemingly warm logic? This can't help but make people think deeply, how will Tong Chenjie deal with herself in her second marriage?
Tong Chenjie, this name has been in the modeling industry for a long time, beauty and wisdom coexist, making her the focus wherever she goes. And Xie Hui, as an international player, his football skills have made countless people crazy. When two people who are so dazzling meet, their story is not only the headline of the news, but also the ideal love in the hearts of countless people.
I remember that it was the spring of 2002, Xie Hui and Tong Chenjie met at a friend's party, and at that moment, it seemed to be a classic scene in the movie. Xie Hui had only seen Tong Chenjie in photos, and he was deeply attracted by her temperament at that time. And the moment they really met, Xie Hui's heart was completely captured. He didn't hesitate much, and mustered up the courage to ask Tong Chenjie for his phone number, and this brave move also opened the prelude to their love.
The long conversation on the phone allowed the two to discover more in common. They are all from Shanghai, they have worked hard in their own fields since childhood, and they all have their own dreams and plans for the future. These resonances allowed their relationship to heat up quickly. On a special day, Xie Hui gave Tong Chenjie a shining diamond ring and sincerely expressed his heart. He admitted frankly that although he had never thought of getting married in the past, after meeting Tong Chenjie, he suddenly felt that getting married was a very beautiful thing.
The wedding at the end of 2004 was like a scene in a fairy tale, and the Shanghai Ruijin Hotel was extremely romantic and dreamy. The married life of the two seemed sweet at first, but the good times did not last long, and as time went by, the two chose to part ways for various reasons. This marriage, which was once envied by countless people, finally failed to withstand the test of reality.
After the divorce, Tong Chenjie did not stop her pursuit of love, and she soon came together with Wei Wei. Wei Wei and Tong Chenjie's second marriage is a different story. Wei Wei is a typical representative of "machismo" in the eyes of many people, and some of his remarks and behaviors are often difficult for people to agree with. In particular, his views on the role of the family have caused a lot of controversy.
According to Wei Wei, he deliberately didn't cook because he wanted Tong Chenjie to feel needed at home. He believes that if he starts cooking, then Tong Chenjie will lose his work and feel that he is no longer important. Although this logic may sound a bit sweet, it is not difficult to see the self-centeredness and control behind it.
Tong Chenjie has her own views and feelings about this. She has repeatedly stated in public that she is indeed an "all-rounder" role at home, from the kitchen to the laundry room, but that doesn't mean she enjoys being overly dependent. On the contrary, she sometimes feels tired and wishes Wei Wei would be more involved in family life instead of just pointing fingers.
During a reality TV show, the couple's problems were made public. During the show, Wei Wei's remarks caused an uproar. He confessed in front of the camera that he thought his non-cooking was a strategy to make Tong Chenjie feel important. This point of view not only shocked the audience and other guests present, but even the host of the show, Ni Ping, couldn't help but complain, saying that this was the first time in her life that she had heard such a ridiculous reason.
This episode not only caused a lot of discussion at the scene, but also caused widespread controversy on the Internet. Many netizens said that true care should be a two-way street, rather than creating dependency to achieve the goal. What's more, Wei Wei's behavior is criticized as an emotional manipulation, which should be severely condemned in modern marriage.
Despite all the criticism, Wei Wei doesn't seem to have changed his opinion. He reiterated on many occasions that he believed that this was done for the sake of family harmony and to make Tong Chenjie feel happy and needed. This explanation does not alleviate criticism of him.
The story of Tong Chenjie and Wei Wei is a typical case of modern marriage, reflecting the conflict between traditional concepts and modern values. In this story, we see a common form of emotional manipulation – controlling a partner by creating a sense of dependence. Such behavior, while may be well-intentioned, ignores the true feelings and needs of your partner. True love should be based on mutual understanding, support and respect, not one-sided sacrifice and patience. Tong Chenjie's story reminds us that finding true happiness sometimes requires courage to face and change unequal relationships that seem to be "for your own good".