<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="2" > introduction</h1>
Speaking of Teacher Zhang Dandan, everyone may be very familiar with it.
There are countless labels on her body, such as the famous host of Hunan Satellite TV, such as the big V of parenting, and then the mother of two children, and the mother of two children who have outstanding career and education achievements.
Before watching Zhang Dandan's live broadcast, I was very interested in some of the ideas she put forward about parenting, especially wanting to know how Teacher Zhang Dandan, how to do both work and parenting, how to give children the greatest sense of security in a limited time, how to use more effective ways to cultivate children's urgently needed ability to grow, etc.
No, Teacher Zhang Dandan came with her book "Mom Always Has a Way".
In this book, Teacher Zhang said all his experience in parenting, involving all aspects of the mother's own growth and the growth of the child, a total of 14 big themes and 65 small aspects, almost all the questions that mothers care about, in this book can find the corresponding answers.
Throughout this book, Teacher Zhang discusses more about the balance of these two aspects.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="33" > balance between work and childcare</h1>
For many mothers, one of the biggest problems in front of them is the balance between work and carrying a baby, or between self and children.
How tedious it is to have a baby, I think everyone knows it, and even more so for working mothers. Some mothers continue to work, but in the high intensity of work, and the challenges that come and go, they also have to spend a lot of energy to take care of their children, take care of the family, and often exhaust themselves. Once the child's growth is a little unsatisfactory, or the child is a little sick, this huge frustration will invade them like a tide, constantly knocking on their insistence; and some mothers put their work in a secondary position, taking care of the child as their main business, although it is said that there is more time to take care of the child, but there will also be some problems said by the happy father above, and because the time spent on the main business is less, from time to time it will make the mothers feel in their hearts." Is this how my life will pass?"
It can be said that the contradiction between work and parenting is something that every mother has to face. So, are they really irreconcilable with each other? In the book "Mother Always Has a Way", Teacher Zhang Dandan told his story and gave the corresponding solution.
Teacher Zhang's solution is time management.
To be honest, for us adults, time management is a very important ability, time management ability is relatively strong people, even if there are more tasks, can be at ease and within the specified time to ensure quality and quantity to complete. People with insufficient time management skills often have a situation where they are tired of running but always do not do well.
For mothers, time management is also a very practical ability, after all, many mothers take on more tasks of taking care of their children, under the premise of completing the work, they need more time to take care of their children, need more time to improve themselves, and need more time to achieve personal value.
In other words, mothers can spend less time with their children than they can do their work.
As for how to do a good job in time management, teacher Zhang Dandan suggested that mothers can do a good job of task list, let their every thing be carried out in an orderly manner, and have priorities when implementing, do a good job of task planning and time planning, and after a long time, they will internalize the behavior of time management into their own ability, and they can squeeze out more time to accompany their children's growth.
Of course, if you want to do a good job in the balance between the workplace and the baby, you also need mothers to change their thinking, such as not taking care of all the children themselves, letting the children try more, which can save their own energy and cultivate the child's autonomy; such as not being too anxious, being a 60-point mother, you can be much easier, and you can also give the child a more relaxed growth environment and so on.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="34" > balance of time and effect</h1>
Many mothers will find that in the education of children in many things, often spend a lot of time, but the effect is not very good, sometimes even time is not less spent, energy is not less spent, but the child's changes are almost nothing.
This actually involves a balance of time and effect.
This is actually very important for moms. We can often see that although some mothers do not spend a lot of time with their children, and the discipline of their children is not very frequent, the children are well-informed, know the rules and have good habits. Although some mothers are full-time mothers and spend a long time with their children every day, they still do not do too well in the cultivation of children's good habits and rules.
The suggestion given by teacher Zhang Dandan is that mothers should learn some scientific education methods, conform to the growth of their children, and meet the child's ability to accept, so as to achieve more with less.
For example, when you find that your child often says some dirty words.
If mom and dad just tell them simply and rudely, these words can't be said, it's hard to hear, and if mom and dad don't like it, it's very likely that the child thinks it's too cool to talk like this because of the overreaction of mom and dad, and will be more intense to say. If parents can master some scientific education methods, know that this is the child is in a sensitive period, on the one hand, it is cool to say dirty words, after all, when they say these words, parents are very concerned about themselves, on the other hand, they have a certain herd mentality. And use some easing ways to guide, say dirty words to the child without giving any feedback, so that the child does not get the desired effect for half a day, and will naturally be discouraged so that he will not say it. In addition, it can also help children analyze these words is actually not good, and can use better and more accurate words to describe their feelings, more times the child will naturally not say dirty words.
For example, I found that my child suddenly became resistant.
If mom and dad just rudely stop them, or even reprimand them for labeling them, the child may be aroused to rebel psychology, and even more everywhere with mom and dad. If parents can grasp some scientific education methods, know that this is the necessary stage of children's growth, which means that the child has his own thoughts, want to express his will, he can look at this phenomenon with a more peaceful mood, but also can calmly listen to the child's expression, and for this problem to have a normal discussion, but also to be able to take the initiative to admit their shortcomings, so that the child knows the right approach, and how to communicate with parents in the future.
In fact, there are many similar scenes in life, as a mother, not to say that by virtue of their own instincts, or according to the previous parents' educational experience, but need to master some scientific education methods, understand the real reasons behind the child's behavior, know whether the child needs attention or guidance, whether it needs a sense of security or recognition, etc., so as to help the child grow faster and better, so that family education can achieve the effect of half the effort.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="35" > last</h1>
There are many parenting problems mentioned in Teacher Zhang Dandan's "Mother Always Has a Way", each of which gives a unique solution and thinking direction, and truly achieves "teaching it to fish", not just "teaching it to fish".
In fact, every mother has 10,000 possibilities, with the right mentality and strong time management skills, they can work and live without mistakes, and both aspects will do very well; with scientific parenting methods, knowing the true emotional narrative behind each child's performance, they can "know the child's problems" and become the indicator of the child's growth.
That's really how moms always have a way.
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