Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Yang Dai once said: "She is my only masterpiece."
We all know the high status of Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Yang Dai in the history of Chinese literature. In particular, Mr. Qian Zhongshu's "Siege of the City" is well known to passers-by.
And who is the one who can be called "the only masterpiece" by both of them at the same time?
Yang Dai's work "The Two of Us"
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8" > Qian Yu from "Coronation Day Doll" to "Miss Gosing"</h1>
Called "the only masterpiece" by Qian Zhongshu and his wife, it is their only daughter Qian Yu.
Qian Was born when Qian Zhongshu and his wife were in school, when they both attended Oxford, England, and as a result, they gave birth to Qian Yu the following year.
When Yang Dai was pregnant, Qian Zhongshu was preparing a thesis, but even if he was busy, he would take time to take care of his pregnant wife. Even since his wife became pregnant, Qian Zhongshu began to learn to do housework.
In addition to doing housework, Qian Zhongshu will also discuss the gender of the child with Yang Dai, and he once clearly said to Yang Dai: "I only want a daughter like you." ”
Of course, Yang Dai was very unhappy, because she wanted a daughter like Qian Zhongshu.
Later, when Qian Zhongshu and his wife went to the hospital for examination, the doctor said that the child would be born at the coronation ceremony of King George, and was a "coronation day doll", but contrary to his wishes, Qian Zhen was born a week after the coronation day.
When Qian Yi was born, the nurse said that she was the second Chinese baby born in Oxford, and when Qian Yu was born, she cried very loudly and was called "Miss Gao Ge" by the nurse.
Qian Yu's grandfather once wanted to give her the name "Qian Jianru", liying. But was rejected by Qian Zhongshu and his wife. Because they think that such a "beautiful" number, their daughter can't afford it, in fact, another reason is that the couple feels that the name Qian Jianru is difficult to say.
So later, Qian Zhongshu and his wife gave their children a nickname Yuanyuan, and then replaced the yuan character with a more elegant Yuanzi, so Qian Zhen's name was officially fixed.
Qian Yu has loved to read books since she was a child, and when she was two years old, as long as she saw her parents reading books, she would grab them, whether she could understand them or not. Later, in order to be able to read the book quietly, Qian Zhongshu and his wife bought the complete works of Tennyson for the two-year-old Qian Yu.
The book of Tennyson's complete works is relatively large, but because the words are small, few people want it, but because it is cheaper, it is appropriate to give money to Qianyi.
Qian Yan has been smart since she was a child, and she has the ability to never forget, when she was a child, her sister, who was two years older than her, would often sit at the window to read, Qian Yu would sit next to her, and when her sister finished reading the upper and lower books, Qian Yan would also memorize it.
In the spring of 1953, Qian Yu had to temporarily suspend her studies for a year because of her poor health. During this year, she often took Yang Chen's foreign language original documents to read, for the 15-year-old Qian Yan, reading the original foreign language documents is still difficult, but even so, she also read with relish.
During her recuperation at home, Qian Yu also visited her teacher and learned Russian. After returning to school, she did not delay her studies, and soon caught up with the progress of her studies, and in 1955, after graduation, Qian Yan was admitted to the Russian Department of Beijing Normal University.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="120" > Qian's teaching career</h1>
Qian, who took the Beijing Normal University exam at university, told her parents that she was determined to become a top soldier in the field of education. Her parents didn't understand what a sharp soldier was. So she explained that the sharp soldier was a small soldier and a good soldier.
After Qian Yu graduated, she stayed in school and became a teacher. She is strong and unyielding, and she is very upright.
Beijing Normal University previously cooperated with the United Kingdom to train "English teaching" graduate students, and at that time, Qian Yan often quarreled with the british head, blaming their experts for their low English level.
As a result, the British ambassador not only did not get angry, but also invited her to the dinner and apologized to her, asking her for suggestions about the plan, as well as the requirements.
The course qianyi taught was a stylistic class, which was a relatively boring course. But she is very good at using example sentences to explain problems, and teaches stylistic lessons very interestingly.
Qian Yu has a straight personality and especially likes to fight for others. But when she encountered her own affairs, she always suffered losses and grievances, and she refused to say it.
At that time, the school had arranged for outstanding teachers to go abroad for further study, but the number of places was limited, although Qian Yu also wanted to go, but she would not fight like others. It wasn't until finally someone backed down and didn't want to go abroad that she was publicly named and got the quota.
As I said before, Qian Yan loves her education very much, and other teachers who want to study abroad are suspended from school at home to prepare for the exam, but she is not. During the preparation period, she still insisted on going to class every day and never left a class behind.
Her friends advised her to suspend classes and prepare for the exam first. But Qian Yu did not hesitate to refuse, she said: "I am a Russian student, even if my English test is not good, I will not feel ashamed." ”
Finally, to everyone's surprise, although Qian Yu did not take long to prepare for the exam, she did well in the exam, so she was assigned to the United Kingdom for further study.
Qian Yu likes to tell the truth in everything, and she will not hesitate to point out some fraudulent things, no matter what the occasion.
Qian Zhongshu family (right QianYi)
At the national foreign language teaching English textbook jury, a teacher recommended a book, saying that the book was praised and recommended by Mr. Qian Zhongshu. At that time, Qian Yu immediately stood up and said, "My father did not recommend it at all." ”
Then she pulled out evidence to prove that what she said was true.
Qian Yu loves to teach and loves her students. Even after work, the whole person is very tired, but whenever her students call, she will answer the phone immediately. Even if the student on the other side asks not an academic question, she will answer it carefully after listening carefully.
Qian Yu's earliest students would regard her as a friend and tell her everything. She treated these students like her own children, and even later, some students said, "If my mother can be like Teacher Qian, I will obey her." ”
Qian's image in the hearts of students is always erudite and gentle, and full of wisdom.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="121" > Qianyi's first husband</h1>
In the blink of an eye, Qian Yu is thirty years old, but she has always been alone and devoted herself to the cause of education. At this time, Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Yang Dai also began to worry, after all, Qian Zhen had never been in love until now.
For the sake of their daughter's lifelong event, Qian Zhongshu and his wife have also persuaded several times, but the number of persuasions is more, and Qian Zhen will be impatient, so she directly said to Mr. Yang Dai: "Mother, I am not married." I just want to be with Mom and Dad. ”
But that being said, Qian Yu still got married later, but it was not forced by her parents, let alone forced by the pressure of life. Qian Yu married her college classmate and colleague Wang Deyi.
Wang Deyi is a native of Jining, Shandong Province, and during his college years, he has always been a good student with excellent character and learning. According to the five-level scoring method at that time, Wang Deyi's grades have always been excellent, and during the four years of college, he served as the class leader and the president of the class, and was rated as an excellent student in all aspects.
During college, Wang Deyi had a girlfriend, and the two people had a very good relationship, but after graduation, his girlfriend went to other cities, and the long-distance relationship did not last long, and the relationship between the two ended in a breakup.
Qian Yu and Wang Deyi are from different classes in the same grade, and they began to know each other from school activities. At that time, there were many extracurricular activities for students, and there were many clubs in the school, and both of them joined the art team because they loved to draw.
Qian's first husband, Wang Deyi
At that time, the art team often used posters or blackboard newspapers, and the two of them often drew together because they were actively involved in activities.
It's just that at that time, the two of them had no interest in each other, because Wang Deyi had a girlfriend. Later, the two people really intersected emotionally, after Wang De broke up, both of them stayed in the school and worked for their alma mater.
Because they were all members of the art team during their schooling, plus the two had cooperated many times and had a tacit understanding with each other, after they stayed in school, the various publicity activities of the school were completed by the two of them.
Slowly, as the two men became more and more in contact, the topic between them changed from their initial work to each other's hobbies. Because the two like to paint, they will also meet to sketch when they are free, and for Qian Zhen, the time spent with Wang Deyi is very pleasant and relaxed.
After that, Wang Deyi expressed his admiration for Qian Yu.
But Qian Zeyi felt that this was Wang Deyi who had just separated from his ex-girlfriend, and when his feelings were at a low point, he mistakenly regarded the same hobbies and topics as a good feeling with himself, and the contact time was long, which led to Wang Deyi's illusion of his feelings.
So when Wang Deyi confessed to Qian Yi, even if Qian Deyi liked Wang Deyi, he did not agree to it.
It was not until 1966, when Qian Yu was sure that Wang Deyi really liked herself, that she took the initiative to express her intentions to Wang Deyi, but she did not tell her parents at that time.
In August 1966, Mr. Yang Dai thought that his husband and wife might leave the house soon after, and his daughter was alone, and he could not rest assured for a while.
Therefore, Mr. Yang Dai took his daughter's hand and said, "Your father and I are likely to leave the house, but you don't have any brothers and sisters, and whenever I think of you alone after we leave home, I can't sleep all night." You always have to find someone to accompany you, and your father and I don't pay attention to anything, as long as the character is upright, the temperament is loyal, and you can treat you well. ”
After Qian Yu listened, she said shyly, "Actually, there is such a person." ”
After hearing this, Mr. Yang Dai asked who it was.
Qian Yu said: "It is my college classmate, and now I am also my colleague, and others are very good. ”
On August 12 of that year, Qian Yi took Wang Deyi home to meet his parents. Subsequently, Wang Deyi's brother and sister-in-law also came to see Qian Zhongshu and his wife, and Qian Zhongshu and his wife went to visit Wang Deyi's parents. Both families were satisfied and agreed to complete the marriage within a year.
On December 31, 1967, Qian Yu and Wang Deyi registered for marriage. At that time, their new house was in Qian Yao's house, and there was no banquet for guests, only two families had dinner together. The following year, the two had a small home in the school's collective dormitory.
In 1970, Qian's Wang Deyi was sent to work in the factory. Due to the different rest times, the two rarely see each other, but when Wang De has free time, he brings the meals prepared by his mother to Mr. Yang Dai to eat.
But until Qian Yi returned to work at the school, Wang Deyi could not return home. Soon after, Wang Deyi committed suicide because he was humiliated.
After Wang Deyi's death, Qian Yu moved out of the collective dormitory. He was alone for the next few years.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="122" > Qianyi's second husband</h1>
Qian Wei's second husband is called Yang Weicheng, a master's degree from Columbia University in the United States, and is a famous engineer in China. He designed the Beijing Workers' Stadium, the Wangfujing Department Store and the Beijing Military Museum.
The marriage with Yang Weicheng originally began with Yang Weicheng's mother, Tang Yun. Qian Yu was helpful and often helped Tang Yun to do some trivial things, which made Tang Yun very moved.
Later, when Tang Yun came to the door to thank Qian Yu, he learned from Qian Zhongshu and his wife that Qian Yu was widowed and was currently living alone, so Tang Yun said that his son Yang Weicheng was also divorced now, and asked Qian Yun if he was willing to marry into her family.
Qian Zhongshu and his wife did not answer immediately, but said that they respected the child's opinion and asked her if she would like it when the child returned home. After Tang Yun left, Qian Zhongshu and his wife went to inquire who Yang Weicheng was and why he divorced.
Later, they found out that Yang Weicheng was a master's degree in Columbia and an engineer. The reason for the divorce from the ex-wife was that the two had incompatible personalities and that they had broken up peacefully. The children are all raised by Yang Weicheng, and the eldest of them is already 18 years old.
After some thought, Qian Zhongshu and his wife felt that Yang Weicheng was okay. Although there are two children, the children have grown up and do not need Qian Yu to worry too much. After that, they asked Qian Yu what she meant and asked her if she would marry Yang Weicheng.
After Wang De's death, Qian Yi had no intention of remarrying. But Qian Yu looked at her parents' growing faces and the expectation in her eyes, and she finally chose to agree.
After Qian Wei and Yang Weicheng got married, when they were resting, they lived in her husband Yang Weicheng's home in Xishigou.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="123" > how QianYi got along with her stepson and stepdaughter</h1>
At that time, Yang Weicheng's eldest son was 18 years old, and he knew that his father would remarry sooner or later. He had seen Qian Zhen and felt that compared to his father marrying someone else, he was still very willing for his father to marry Qian Zhen, who had a gentle personality, at least Qian Zhen was kind in heart.
Qian Yu knew that her sudden marriage as a stepmother would inevitably cause the children's rejection. Therefore, she usually spends time at home with her two children as friends. It is also this peaceful way of getting along that the two children quickly accepted her and truly loved her.
Every Saturday, when QianYi returned to the West Stone Trough, the two children were particularly happy, because Qianyi would buy them a lot of delicious food. They are usually given cold noodles in the summer and beef in the winter.
Sometimes they would get off the bus early and go to Wangfujing to buy lamb kebabs or beef pies for their two children. Every three to five years, I have to take several buses to buy Western-style snacks for my two children.
After eating on Saturday night, Qian Yu would watch TV with the children. Usually, Qian Yu does not waste time watching TV, and always watches for a while without patience. But now it is different, Qian Yu will not give up this opportunity to communicate with the children, so every time at this time, she will look at the TV newspaper in advance.
In this way, when watching TV with children and discussing the plot, you can answer it yourself.
Sometimes she would triumphantly tell her children what would happen after the TV series, but she would always get the children's "condemnation". Because such spoilers will make the TV lose its suspense.
On weekend afternoons, Qian Yan would always take her stepdaughter Yang Min to go shopping. Sometimes I go to buy books, sometimes I buy cloth, and sometimes I just go for a casual stroll and buy some food. Qian Yu had to buy something every time, and Yang Min felt very strange after a long time.
In this regard, Qian Yu said: "This is called a thief who is not empty-handed. ”
Because of her young age, Yang Min is particularly dependent on Qian Yu, and she also sincerely regards Qian Yu as her mother.
In 1978, Qian was studying in the United Kingdom. In his free time, he called his parents, and Yang Min was at Qian Zhongshu's house at this time. After Yang Min heard Qian Yu's voice, she immediately cried.
She missed Qian Yu very much, and later after Qian Yu knew, she wrote to Yang Min to tell her that I miss you very much.
In the same year, Yang Min failed the college entrance examination. Disheartened, Yang Min prepared to take the exam again with qian's encouragement. Because as long as Qian Yao did not understand the problem when she was a child, her father Qian Zhongshu did not give an answer immediately, but let Qian Yu check the books by herself, deepening her impression and expanding her knowledge reserves.
Because of this experience of being educated, qian yan told Yang Min this method this time and told her: It is best to learn this matter by yourself, and when you encounter problems that will not be encountered, you must know to turn the book to find the answer, so that you can really remember.
At the same time, Qian Yu will also teach Yang Min how to buy a dictionary and how to use it. In order to prepare for Yang Min's exam, she also specially arranged Yang Min at her parents' home, so that Yang Min could concentrate on studying.
Until later, after Qian Yan's death, someone around Yang Hongjian asked about English, and if Yang Hongjian couldn't answer, he would regret to say: If my mother was there, she would definitely make you "unable to eat and walk."
From this, it can be seen that the two children have never regarded Qian Yu as a stepmother, and have always respected and loved them as their own mothers.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="125" > Qian Yu on the hospital bed</h1>
Later, Qian Yu fell ill, and her friends and family said that she was tired and sick. Before getting sick, Qian Yu cherished time very much, and even the physical examination organized by the school, she would find a way to "escape" the past. Because she thinks that the physical examination is a waste of her time, there is time for the physical examination, and she can read several students' papers.
When she first fell ill, Qian Yu's waist was always painful, and her friends advised her to go to the doctor as soon as possible. But she always pushed back, saying that she was just twisting her waist on the bus, and there was no big problem. Qian Yu is not tall, and when there is no seat on the bus, the handlebars on the car are always difficult to reach, so she usually holds the seat or other things, and sometimes when she brakes violently, it will inevitably hurt the lumbar spine.
So she didn't take her illness seriously. Later, the pain was unbearable, qian Yu went to see a doctor, but the doctor could not say why.
There was no way, Qian Yu could only continue to think that this was her own sprain on the bus. Until later, when her illness worsened, Qian Yu could no longer deceive herself and could only be admitted to the hospital.
After being hospitalized, Qian Yan was diagnosed with spinal cord cancer, but she was afraid that her mother was worried, so she told Yang Dai that she only had bone tuberculosis.
Qian Zhen's finger joints when she was a child also had bone tuberculosis, so Yang Dai believed it.
Yang Dai always said optimistically: "Although tuberculosis is difficult to cure, it will always be cured." ”
When a friend comes to visit her in the hospital, Qian Yu is always very optimistic, and she will tell her friend: "The disease is like this, and it is not good to repeat it over and over again." Although it was very bitter, I couldn't tell my mother that she had worked very hard to take care of my father and didn't want her to worry about me anymore. In the past, when I saw that there were ninjas engraved on the bamboo weaving, I always felt that it was boring to engrave this word, but now I feel that the ninja characters are carved very reasonably. ”
Even if she lay in a hospital bed and couldn't move, Qian Yan kept reading. She re-read the famous books she had read in the past, and regained new feelings from them, but unfortunately, due to physical reasons, she could not record them all.
At that time, Qian Yu always felt that her illness would be cured, and often enjoyed the future plan, she always said: "When I am well, my body will definitely not allow me to stand on the podium again, and then I will take students at home." ”
She was always in her own educational career, but she never cared about her body.
Later, Qian Yan's physical condition deteriorated rapidly, and her originally plump body was quickly emaciated due to illness. Because of cancer, Qian's muscles and elbow joints are often painful and unbearable, and her fingers are swollen badly. But even so, she still endured the torment of illness and wrote a manuscript for "Foreign Language Teaching and Research".
According to Yang Min's recollection, the last time she went to the hospital to visit Qian Zhen, Qian Zhen was still saying: "Xiao Min, I bought you a lake blue shirt before. When I saw it, I thought it was a good fit for you, and you must be beautiful to wear. I put this shirt in sanlihe's house, in the cupboard where the clothes are placed, and remember to get it when you have time. ”
Yang Min said, "Good, Mom. I'll go get it tomorrow and wear it for you when the time comes. ”
Unfortunately, in the end, Qian Yu could not see Yang Min wearing the lake blue shirt, and on March 4, 1997, Qian Yu died of illness.
Qian Yu's life was too bumpy, although she had experienced two marriages, she never had her own children. Her first husband died shortly after his marriage.
When the second husband married, his children were not small. At that time, in order to take care of the mood of the two children, Qian Yu did not plan to have children, but regarded her husband's two children as her own. In the end, Qian Yu also won the hearts of two children, who both regarded Qian Yu as their own mother.
So many years after Qian Yu's death, these two children were obsessed with her.