Don't worry about small things Author: Dale Carnegie Recitation: Wang Hui

Author: Dale Carnegie Recitation: Wang Hui

Man has only lived in the world for a few short decades, but he wastes a lot of time worrying about small things that he will forget within a year.

Tell you one of the most dramatic stories, the protagonist is named Rob Moore.

"In March 1945, I learned the most important lesson of my life, 276 feet deep under the sea near the Indochina Peninsula. At the time, I was on a submarine. We spotted a Japanese fleet on radar — a destroyer convoy, an oil tanker and a mine-laying ship — coming toward us, and we fired 3 torpedoes, none of which hit. Suddenly, the mine-laying ship came straight toward us (a Japanese plane radioed our location). We dive to a depth of 150 feet to avoid detection by it, and while being prepared for a depth charge, we shut down the entire cooling system and all the generators.

"After 3 minutes, the world fell apart. Six depth charges exploded in all directions, pressing us straight to the bottom of the sea — 276 feet. Depth charges were dropped non-stop, and for 15 hours, a dozen or twenty of them exploded at about 50 feet from us—and if the depth charges were less than 17 feet from the submarine, the submarine would blow up a hole. At that time, we were ordered to lie quietly in our beds and keep our composure. I was so frightened that I couldn't breathe, and kept saying to myself: This is dead... The temperature of the submarine was almost more than 40 degrees Celsius, but I was so scared that my whole body was cold and I was sweating coldly. After 15 hours, the attack stopped. Apparently the mine-laying ship ran out of all the bombs and drove away. Those 15 hours, to me, feel like 15 million years. My past lives appeared one by one, and I remembered all the bad things I had done and the boring little things I had worried about. I used to worry: no money to buy my own house, no money to buy a car, no money to buy good clothes for my wife. When I came home from work, I often quarreled with my wife over a little sesame thing. I also felt sorry for a small scar on my forehead— a scar from a car accident.

"Years ago, those worrying things seemed so ridiculous and small when a depth charge threatened lives. I swore to myself that if I had a chance to see the sun and the stars again, I would never be sad again. In those 15 hours, I learned a lot more from life than I did in my four years of college. ”

We can generally face the big crises in life bravely, but we are often discouraged by small things. Mr. Baider also found this. His men were able to do dangerous and hard work without complaint, "but I know that there are several people in the same room who do not speak to each other because they suspect that others have put things in a mess and occupied their own places. There is a guy who pays attention to the 'fasting eating and chewing health method', and he has to chew 28 times per bite, while the other must find a seat that can't see this guy to sit down and eat. ”

Pundits believe that if "small things" occur in the lives of couples, they will also cause "half of the world's sad things." Judge Joseph Shabber of Chicago, after arbitrating more than 40,000 unpleasant marriage cases, said: "The most basic reason why married life is not happy is often small things. ”

In fact, to overcome the annoyances caused by small things, just shift your perspective and focus a little bit – so that you have a new, happy perspective. My friend and writer Homer Chloe said, "In the past, when I was writing, I was often driven mad by the sound of lights in my Apartment in New York. Later, when I was out camping with a few friends, when I heard the noise of firewood burning vigorously, I suddenly thought: These sounds are the same as the sound of lights, why do I like this sound and beg for that sound? When I came back, I told myself, 'The crackling of the wood in the fire is very good, and the sound of the lights is similar.' I could have slept with my head covered and ignored the noise. As a result, I paid attention to its sound for the first few days, but soon I completely forgot about it. ’”

Giblin and his uncle fought one of Vermont's most famous lawsuits of all time. Giblin married a Vermont woman and built a beautiful house in Bradab, where he was ready to spend the rest of his life. His uncle Beatty Barrister became his best friend. The two of them worked together and played games together.

Later, Giblin bought some land from Barrister, and it was agreed that Barrist could mow grass on that land every quarter. One day, When Barrister spotted Giblin carving out a garden in that meadow, he got angry and thundered. Giblin also retorted, casting dark clouds over the Vermont Green Mountain.

A few days later, while riding his bike out to play, Giblin was hit on the ground by Barrister's carriage. The celebrity who once wrote that "everyone is drunk, you should wake up alone" also fainted and sued the official. Barrister was arrested. What followed was a lively lawsuit that left Giblin and his wife forever in the United States. And all for the sake of a very small thing—a cart of hay.

Harry Emerson Fusdick once told this story: "On the slopes of Colorado's Long Hill lies the remnants of a large tree. Naturalists tell us that it once had a history of more than 400 years. In its long life, it has been struck by lightning 14 times, and it can overcome it. But in the end, a small group of beetles attacked and caused it to fall to the ground forever. The beetles bit inward from the roots, gradually hurting the vitality of the tree, although they were small, but they were constantly attacking. Such a giant tree in the forest, the years have not withered it, the lightning has not knocked it down, the storm has not shaken it, but because a small group of small beetles can pinch to death with their thumbs and index fingers, they finally fell. ”

Aren't we like the battle-hardened tree in the forest? We have also experienced countless storms and lightning strikes in our lives, and we have also survived, but we have always let the worried little beetles bite the little beetles - the little beetles that can be pinched to death with their thumbs and forefingers.

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