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Preface
My name is Wu Di and I am an HR member of Shanghai Aier Technology Company. Due to the nature of the work and the needs of international business, our company often recruits people from different countries.
Some time ago, I was impressed by an excellent girl from France.
What I remember most of memorable, in addition to her outstanding academic qualifications and rich experience, is also because she came to China to work because she wanted to become a Chinese daughter-in-law.
Hearing such an answer, I wondered why she had such an idea.
Under my repeated questioning, she said something that made countless French men "embarrassed".
[This article is a fictional story, the names in the article are pseudonyms, and if someone carries it, they will be held responsible]
Leaving France to study
The girl's name is Rachel and she is from Lyon, in southeastern France. In the first round of "multi-faceted people", I noticed Rachel with deep facial features and tall figure among many applicants.
However, what really makes Rachel stand out from the crowd of 30 people is not only because of her elegant conversation, but also because of Rachel's excellent academic experience and personal ability.
Rachel left her hometown of Lyon at the age of 13 and went to Paris, France, on her own to begin a long journey to school. Subsequently, Rachel was admitted to the École Normale Supérieure de Paris.
After graduating, Rachel worked in France for another year.
However, because she wanted to improve her personal abilities to a certain extent, Rachel decided to further her studies again. After much thought, Rachel finally applied to a university in Shanghai.
After completing her studies in Shanghai, Rachel worked at a research institute for nearly two years. Rachel is a perfect fit for our role, both in terms of education and work experience, not to mention that she is fluent in French, English and Chinese.
Gradually fall in love with China
When I met Rachel one-on-one, I first asked a question that I was curious about, that is, why did Rachel choose to stay in China after completing her studies?
According to Rachel, this is because she has gradually fallen in love with China as a country in three years of study.
When she first arrived in China, Rachel had nothing to do with the country. Because of her stereotyped thinking, Rachel thinks that pickpockets are as prevalent in China as France.
Until one time, Rachel went to the city to eat with her classmates, and watched her classmates casually put their mobile phones in their trouser pockets, holding all kinds of snacks in their hands, Rachel couldn't help but ask, "Aren't you afraid that your mobile phone will be stolen?"
In response to Rachel's sincere question, the classmate said that there was surveillance everywhere and no one dared to steal. For Rachel, who grew up in France, surveillance is just a decoration for pickpockets, but I didn't expect it to be something that can really give people a sense of security in China.
In addition, during the three years of her studies in Shanghai, Rachel would find time to travel to a city almost every month. At first, she just wanted to leave more footprints in China, but as she traveled again and again, Rachel gradually fell in love with the country because of the Chinese food, the Chinese scenery, and the Chinese warmth.
One mind is to marry a Chinese
However, Rachel said there was another very special reason why she wanted to stay in China — she wanted to marry a Chinese.
I was surprised to hear that. For Rachel, China is very far from her hometown, and marrying a Chinese means that Rachel will live a "homeless" life for the rest of her life.
A great curiosity drove me to ask Rachel again, what was it that made her think this way, could it be that there was something so good about Chinese men?
In the face of my sincere question, Rachel said helplessly: "Compared with irresponsible French men, Chinese men are simply super high-quality men!" Hearing Rachel's answer, I was even more puzzled, after all, my perception of French men has always been "romantic and handsome".
Why are French men labeled "irresponsible" in the mouths of authentic faders?
To answer my questions, Rachel told me a story about her friend Nina. After listening to this story, I can understand why Rachel said that.
Nina was wrong to pay her heart
Like Rachel, Nina graduated from Pedagogical Pedagogy Paris, the highest university in Paris. Soon after graduating, Nina met a sunny and handsome boy, Orlando, because of her work.
At first, Nina and Orlando were just working together, but by chance the two met at the same club, only to find out that they both had common interests.
Subsequently, the two made an appointment to go to the club's dinner together. After going back and forth, the relationship between the two became familiar.
For such two people with good looks and temperament and the same interests and hobbies, it seems to be a simple thing to spark love.
However, a happy life did not become the main tone of the two. In the 6th month of their relationship, Nina became pregnant, and unlike the expected marriage, Orlando proposed that the two continue to raise the baby as a couple.
And Nina, who is only 21 years old, is still very simple, thinking that her boyfriend is just not ready to get married, and takes a step back and agrees to Orlando's proposal.
Unexpectedly, Orlando fell in love with Jeffnie, a young girl she met at the club, in the second month after Nina gave birth to her baby. Because she was not married, Nina did not receive any legal protection, and could only work alone to raise her three-month-old baby after being abandoned by Orlando.
After listening to this story, my heart was simply full of anger, Orlando, who could do such a thing, is simply the most shameless person.
However, in response to my complaints, Rachel said that people like Orlando are not unique in France.
Because the French law is very perfect and strict, after a couple divorces, the husband needs to pay a high amount of alimony, and for the custody of the child, it is natural that the custody of the child belongs to the mother first. But it is precisely this all-round legal system that protects mothers that makes many French men feel dissatisfied, and they think that such a high cost of child support is too costly.
Therefore, many French men will only fall in love with girls and not enter the palace of marriage with them under the banner of "romantic freedom", and will not bear the responsibility of raising and educating their children after the two break up.
After listening to all this, I finally understood why Rachel said that she wanted to marry a Chinese man.
In China, if a couple is pregnant, the two must get married to give the baby a complete home, and the traditional consciousness engraved in the bones does not allow us to do such a "non-responsible" behavior as a French man.
epilogue
Under the banner of "romance", but doing "timid as a mouse" behavior, it is no wonder that French men will become the choice of locals in the French marriage market.
I hope that Rachel can find her love in China as soon as possible, and form a harmonious and happy family with a responsible and excellent Chinese boy. At the same time, I also hope that more foreign friends can come to China and find their own fate here while developing their careers.