➡️ The Empty Boat Effect
A man was crossing the river by boat when a boat was about to hit him. The man shouted several times, but the boat in front did not respond. Seeing this, the man was very angry and began to curse the people on the boat in front of him. Later, he found that it was an empty ship that had collided, and the anger of the man who had just been angry disappeared without a trace.
This story comes from Zhuangzi's "Mountain Tree" and is an example of the empty boat effect. From this story, you can reflect the things that actually happen to you in your daily life, your emotions are 10% determined by this thing, and 90% depend on your state of mind.
➡️ Causes of the Empty Ship Effect
The "empty ship effect" is essentially a matter of mentality. When you're focused on something, you can't help but feel angry when someone is bothering you from behind. But when you look back and find out that he's a kid, you might think, "Forget it, he's still a kid," and you're not so angry.
Many people tend to complain when faced with unpleasant things: "Why am I so unlucky? Why does this happen to me all the time?" In fact, the more you fall into this thought, the more likely it is to become bad.
The only one who can help you is yourself, not others. People who get angry when something doesn't go their way tend to be too self-centered, so you might as well think differently and keep an open-minded and optimistic attitude, and you will find that many problems are minor.
➡️ Get rid of the empty ship effect
1. Shift your mindset
When something has happened, then we can't change it, but our mindset can be changed. Some people are depressed and disgusted with others after being infected with the new coronavirus, which is not conducive to recovery. It's better to think about it from another angle, the probability of infection is very high now, since this is the case, it is better to come and be safe, and survive the past few days and become a new self.
2. Not self-centered
You can try to look at things with a more humble and peaceful attitude, don't pay too much attention to the bad influence of the outside world on yourself, when nothing can easily affect your mentality, that can be a good way to avoid many unnecessary quarrels, and cultivate a larger picture.
3. Learn to accept
We are all moving forward in the fog, and no one knows what will happen in the next second. Since it is impossible to predict, it is better to accept the facts that have happened, anger will not change the facts, and it may put yourself in a bad situation. By accepting what has happened and finding a way to fix it, we can go faster and further.
➡️ If you look at things with a different mindset, you may see different landscapes