How many families does a cup of "sauce latte" stung? Ordinary people should not "rich" their children

Did everyone drink the "sauce latte"?

In the past few days, "sauce latte" has flooded the circle of friends, adults have tasted it first, and children can't help but want to try it.

The child of my colleague Sister Lin's family is in the third year of junior high school this year, and yesterday afternoon I called Sister Lin and pointed out that I had to ask for a "sauce latte", saying that it was a cup for each classmate, and everyone's circle of friends was sent.

Sister Lin is in her 40s this year, usually don't talk about coffee, even drinks are not bought, hearing her daughter's request, she is simply confused.

Later, I asked my colleagues to learn that my daughter originally wanted the "Internet celebrity coffee" that is now on fire, and a cup cost 38 yuan.

Hearing this price, Sister Lin, who had already promised her daughter, was a little unsure, spending 38 yuan just to take a photo and send a circle of friends to show off, Sister Lin felt that it was not cost-effective no matter how she thought.

But even if Sister Lin said to her daughter, her daughter would not enter the oil and salt, and she had to drink this "sauce latte".

So, Sister Lin, who had worked hard for a day, hurried to the coffee shop after work, and queued for nearly an hour before finally buying this cup of coffee back for her daughter.

As a result, the daughter took a few photos of the coffee, took a sip, turned around and threw the coffee into the trash, and said "It's really bad."

In desperation, Sister Lin had to pick up the coffee from the trash can again, and drank it all by herself, but she couldn't sleep all night.

Sister Lin and her husband only raised such a daughter, although the two did not earn much, but they were responsive to their daughter's needs, which can be said to be full of effort.

But when the child got bigger and bigger, Sister Lin suddenly found that her daughter was becoming more and more difficult to manage, and the requirements were becoming more and more varied, and sometimes Sister Lin couldn't help but think:

After "enriching" children for so many years, is something wrong?

Ordinary families raise their children richly, and parents suffer the most

Sister Lin's encounter reminds me of another father in the news.

The father, who works as a cleaner by profession, walked into a mobile phone store and was embarrassed to ask if there was any latest Apple phone.

After inquiry, the clerk learned that the uncle had bought it for his own children.

Although the father and son quarreled for a long time because of this incident, in the end, the father compromised.

After the clerk took out his mobile phone, the father trembled and pulled the money out of his pocket, in addition to some hundred dollar bills, there were many scattered loose change, and even a pile of steel plutonium.

The clerk couldn't stand it, so he called his uncle's son and wanted to ask if it was okay to buy an old mobile phone with a cheaper price.

But if the child does not agree to live or die, he must buy the latest model.

In the end, the cleaner's father still did as his son wished, and paid several months' salary to buy a mobile phone for his son.

Every parent wants to give their children all their love, but sometimes, this love will become "rich" beyond their own ability, and it will become a blind spoiling and indulgence of their children.

The Shanghai Academy of Sciences once said:

"Chinese parents give their children not too little, but too much."

This kind of parents who do their best and dedicate everything to their children not only often find it difficult to meet the increasingly unrealistic needs of their children, but also make themselves bear more of the fatigue and pain of life, and finally they are sad.

Poor and rich to raise children will only raise "white-eyed wolves"

In real life, there are actually many parents similar to Sister Lin:

Even if you don't buy a new dress for a few years, you have to arrange a variety of new shoes for your child, so you can't let your child "lose face";

Although he is still using a smartphone with hundreds of dollars, the child's latest "Apple phone" can not be less, and it has to be replaced every year.

But if we think about it carefully, can blindly raise ourselves poor and rich and raise children really in exchange for children's gratitude?

It turns out that only children will be raised as "white-eyed wolves".

British documentary Are they spoiled? , a mother works 3 jobs at the same time and lives a hard life every day, but her daughter has exquisite makeup and designer shoes that can fill an entire wall.

Referring to the mother's hard work, although the daughter said:

"Mom is very hard, I have to earn money to buy gifts for my mother."

But in fact, she knew that her mother was so tired in order to satisfy her desires, but she still took all this for granted, and calmly said "I didn't let her buy it."

People's desires are endless, even for children, parents only care about raising their children and meeting their children's unreasonable requirements, which will only make their children's desires infinitely expanded, and finally become a "white-eyed wolf".

Don't let your children become a "privileged class" in the family

Educator Rei Mikawa once said:

"Don't mold your child into another class in the family."

It is not easy for parents of ordinary families to raise their children, blindly raising rich, will only make children accustomed to the efforts of their parents, and become more and more intense.

On social media, we can see that some people complain that their parents are too useless to bring themselves a dashing life because they are not rich enough;

Some people complain about the sky, complaining about their "cheap life" and failing to be reincarnated into a good family;

Others punched and kicked their parents because they couldn't get money.

In the final analysis, it is because these ordinary families are overly rich in their children, and have molded their children into the "privileged class" of the family.

They don't think about how difficult it is for their parents to raise themselves, but why their parents have not been able to give them the best possible life, and they should not live in such a family.

Good family education should be rejected when facing the child's unreasonable requirements, so that the child can feel the difficulty of his parents and recognize the truth of life.

Ordinary families "enriching" their children is a disaster for both children and parents.

Epilogue:

The so-called "rich nourishment" is not actually to give children endless money and satisfy all their desires.

Instead, we should enrich the child's heart, develop the moral character of self-reliance and self-improvement for the child, so that they can know how to support themselves, I hope all parents can understand this truth, don't blindly enrich their children!

Today's topic: What do you think about the fact that ordinary families are rich and raise children?