Written by: Mirror
Tao Tao is four years old this year, and his mother has been a little depressed recently, why is this child unwilling to use his brain for anything? Asking for help is understandable, but if you ask for help in everything, don't you lose the ability to solve problems yourself?
Tao Tao's mother can realize this is quite responsible, and the cognitive level is relatively high. However, in today's society, the situation of such children is not uncommon at all. The reasons are roughly related to the following aspects:
First, the limitation of the level of thinking development
If the child is only four or five years old, or has not yet reached the age of four or five, then his logical reasoning ability is only in an initial stage. Due to the limitation of this level, children's reasoning ability is not necessarily correct, so some sensitive children will be afraid of their own mistakes, and in the long term they will form a sense of giving up thinking, but they also have the will to solve problems, so they will ask others for help.
Second, dependence on adults
Since modern families are only children, parents' care for their children is often meticulous, and this kind of arrangement will form a child's dependence psychology.
Third, be more obedient children
Some children are quite well-behaved, most of them have no ideas, in line with the principle of "obedience", do not think about everything, and ask for help when there is something. There are also children who are relatively timid, relatively submissive, and over time no longer make their own decisions, just ask others for everything.
Based on the above three points, how can we help children improve their behavior of not being good at thinking?
Method 1: Guide children to think independently
When children encounter problems and come to help, parents do not give children direct answers, but should be in the attitude of learning with children, as far as possible to leave children space for exploration and discussion, long-term training children have independent thinking ability.
Method 2: Guide children to solve problems directly
Children must experience less things than adults, so create opportunities for children to face problems, and then let children find their own solutions to problems by observing the practices of others.
Method 3: Cultivate children's spirit of exploration
If your child asks you a question, what is your first reaction? The correct way is to guide children to observe and explore, and leave time for children to think, even if the child answers incorrectly, we should not directly deny but cooperate with the child to find the correct answer, patiently create opportunities and space for the child to think independently, can appropriately give the child some prompt guidance, help the child quickly find the answer.
The ability to think independently about children is not created in a day, it needs to be cultivated and cooperated by parents for a long time. Children's potential is developed by parents.
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