CCTV news is praising the "back row boy", so that the child grows into a person with strength in his heart

Author: The main creative group Duoduodai

Recently, there was a video of a "back row boy" that went viral.

In the video, three boys do recess exercises accompanied by music, with a large range of movements.

Although he stood in the last row, he also attracted the attention of netizens with his swinging dancing posture, shouting that this is youth, let the three boys debut in place, and the name is "back row boys".

Moreover, it has also received the attention of CCTV News and Xinhua News Agency.

It is understood that the "back row boy" is a student in the second year of junior high school in Nanjing Zhongying Middle School, and his academic performance is good; The most important thing is that his personality is very sunny and cheerful, and he usually dances very devotedly and is full of vitality.

Looking at their generous appearance, even my old mother was moved by it, and I really liked it.

Today's children are mostly kidnapped by heavy study, hunched backs, dull eyes, yawning, endless homework, and the quality of their grades has become the only criterion for judging them.

In fact, children's life is still very long, and the results are only temporary, a phased achievement, and cannot be used as the only ruler to measure whether they are excellent.

On the contrary, it is to resist pressure in the face of failure, live optimistically and confidently, and be grateful to parents and people around them, which are the excellent qualities that a child should have.

Parents love their children, always give their all, and want their children to be happy.

It is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish, so that children have the ability to face difficulties and ups and downs in life, which is the most important thing.

Anti-stress is an indispensable force in children's growth.

Children cry because they can't put together toys, teachers are in a bad mood after a few words of criticism, and they are annoyed when they encounter a little difficulty in learning.

In the final analysis, these situations are all because the child's resistance to stress is too weak.

There is an "eggshell psychology" in psychology, which says that when people are subjected to external pressure, they doubt themselves, and their hearts are extremely fragile and fragile like eggshells.

Children with this psychology generally manifest as:

Only accept admiration, not objections;

Fragile inside, easily disturbed by external emotions, sensitive and suspicious;

Only accept success, unable to face the blow of failure;

In the face of adversity, it is easy to feel disappointed, there will be extreme behavior, and even suicide.

Whether studying, or life, encountering difficulties or setbacks, is a common thing, if the child's resistance to pressure is weak, encounter a little thing, either complain, or self-pity, negative energy burst, not only do not do good things, but also can not live well.

In life, nine times out of ten, things are not as good as they should be. Children with strong resistance to pressure can adjust their mentality, face these unsatisfactory things with a normal heart, and go all out to face problems.

But solving problems requires another trait of children - optimism and confidence.

Optimism and self-confidence are the running aids for children's growth.

There is a saying that goes like this: "Self-confidence can make a mediocre face sunny!" ”

An optimistic and confident child is not only full of confidence in himself, but also full of hope for the unknown, which will make it easier for them to succeed when doing things.

Jiang Tianhao in the TV series "Youth Pi", his family is solid, and later due to the failure of his family's business, Jiang Tianhao has also changed from a "rich second generation" to a "negative second generation", and his life has plummeted.

The family of three moved into a small house from the previous mansion, but Jiang Tianhao did not complain about anything, because he believed that as long as he worked hard, the debt would be paid off one day.

He set up "Tianhao Little Kitchen", using the time after school and weekends to take orders and deliver online, rain or rain, and under his influence, his parents also came out of their low mood and started from scratch with confidence.

Optimism and self-confidence are children's weapons to face adverse events such as sadness, failure and pain in life.

No matter what kind of problems they encounter, optimistic children will face problems with confidence, do not underestimate their own ability, do not overestimate the seriousness of the problem, turn the impossible into possible, and get a better life.

Children who are pessimistic and inferior see all kinds of unfairness, have no confidence in the future, feel that the future is slim, and may achieve nothing because of this.

Even, some children will attribute the difficulties and distress they encounter to their parents.

Another trait of children must be mentioned here - understanding gratitude.

Family affection does not need to be reciprocated, but it needs to know gratitude.

Shakespeare wrote in his King Lear: "A child who does not know gratitude is more painful than the sharp teeth of a poisonous tongue." ”

Not long ago, in Lianyungang, Jiangsu, a little boy bit his mother's hand on the street because his mother did not buy him toys.

Under the various persuasions of passers-by, the little boy finally relaxed.

But when he learned that his mother was still unwilling to buy him toys, he turned his head and bit his mother's thigh again, biting it desperately, saying that he would never let go of anything, which also alarmed the police.

Children who do not know how to be grateful will only reach out to their parents to ask for it, even if they are rejected once, they cannot accept it.

Such a child, no matter how good his grades are, what future can he speak of?

The child's lack of gratitude is not all the child's fault, but the failure of the parents in education.

As Bi Shumin said: "Parents in the world, if you love your child, you must let him start to love you and the people around you from the time he can, which is not adult selfishness, but a foresight for the sake of the child's life." ”

Gorky said: "Loving your children is something that even hens do, but how to educate them is a serious problem." ”

Children's growth not only needs the company of parents, but also needs parents to guide and educate.

First, love children unconditionally.

Fan Deng wrote in the book "Accompanying Children to Grow Up for Life": "The first pillar of parent-child education is unconditional love. ”

Parents love their children unconditionally, let them have a sense of belonging, and are not lonely inside, so that they will have a strong resistance to pressure.

Don't appreciate your child just because he's obedient or has achieved good grades. Don't beat and scold your child because he or she is disobedient or makes a mistake.

We love our children because they are our children with no strings attached.

The son of his cousin's family has very average grades, and occasionally, the test paper is difficult, and the score will be more ugly, and he will be invited to his parents because of this.

But my cousin never blamed the child for this, and when she came back from school, she would buy her son half a roast duck that he liked to eat.

In the words of my cousin: "If you do well in the test, if you fail the test, it is all my child." He also tried hard, but he didn't study well, and I couldn't beat him and scold him. ”

Because his grades are not very good, he will inevitably be criticized by the teacher, but his cousin's son is never angry and depressed like other children, but looks like "after class, I am a good man", which does not hinder his freedom in physical education class at all.

And the reason why the cousin's son resists pressure well is precisely because of the cousin's unconditional love for his son.

Unconditional love will mobilize the child's inner strength, let him grow up on his own, face the difficulties in front of him, and overcome his inner fear and fear.

Of course, unconditional love is not doting.

Children make mistakes, and the first thing we have to do is not criticize. Because the criticism at this time is emotional, it will make the child feel that the parents do not love themselves, and no child can accept that the parents do not love themselves.

What we need is to correct the child's wrong behavior, attitude understanding and acceptance.

But also tell your child that you're doing it wrong.

In Spencer's Complete Book of Happy Education, he wrote: "Children who accept positive cues, even if they encounter failure on the road to growth, will always be afraid of difficulties, get up from wherever they fall, and start again."

Second, don't do it all, let the child do things on his own.

Liu Yong said: "Giving children a sense of achievement is more important than grades. ”

Today I learned this, tomorrow I learned that, and a small sense of accomplishment slowly accumulates into a pyramid of confidence.

Parents letting their children do things will enhance their children's sense of value. When the child realizes that his life is valuable, then he will not give up on himself easily, and will be more optimistic and confident.

A 12-year-old boy in Linyi, Shandong, can stir-fry a lot of dishes, ordinary home-cooked food is basically difficult for him, the reason why he can cook so many dishes is also because of his mother's letting go.

When he began to try cooking in the fourth grade, his mother did not stop him, but supported and encouraged him, and the more he did, the more experience he had, and the more tricks he would have.

Because of their young age, children do not do things as perfectly as adults, what we need to do is to see the child's brilliance and magnify it, which is the most effective way for children to gain self-confidence.

In life, parents do not hesitate to express their appreciation for their children and calmly say their love for their children, so that children will be more confident and optimistic.

Again, be willing to let the child suffer.

Turgenev once said: "Do you want to be a happy person? May you first learn to afford hardship. ”

Suffering is a compulsory course in a child's life.

Now children go to school, basically parents pick them up.

But in the pick-up procession, I often saw a little boy carrying a school bag and a water cup in his hand, walking home by himself.

Later, I found out that there was a woman who had been keeping a short distance from him.

Once, I deliberately stopped to greet the woman and asked her why she didn't just send the baby home?

She said that before she went to work, the child followed her grandmother, was spoiled, and lost her temper with her grandmother and dropped things without saying a word.

Now let the child go by himself to school and after school, and she follows behind to ensure the safety of the child, just to make him suffer, so that he understands the hard work of his grandmother picking him up and forth and helping him carry his school bag before.

Praise this mother's education method, only by being so "ruthless" and letting the child endure hardships can we raise children who know how to be grateful.

It is instinctive for parents to love their children, and it is an ability for children to love their parents and needs to be cultivated.

Sarah wrote in "Especially Ruthless and Loved": "Parents can't bear to let them experience the hardships of life from an early age, and they don't know how to ask them at the right time." As a result, the children endured a lifetime of hardship and demanded from them for a lifetime. ”

Parents are not only friends of their children, but also accompany their children to upgrade and fight monsters along the way; It is also the best teacher for children, encouraging them, correcting their mistakes and making them better people.

Parents love their children for a far-reaching purpose.

Truly intelligent parents are to let their children grow into a person with inner strength, not only optimistic and confident, but also able to step through ups and downs and mud; And know how to be grateful, become a little sun that can warm others and shine, so that life can go further.