Hello everyone, I'm Hu Xinshu.
A few days ago, I received a Weibo private message, a girl and I lamented that she and her boyfriend have been dating for the third year, and recently felt the taste of love going downhill.
She said that when they were in love, they were keen to say blushing confessions to each other, but now they are replaced by the trivial things they talk about every day. When we first got together, we used to go out on dates every weekend, but now we always stay at home and watch TV, and there are few opportunities to dress up.
The girl asked me if after losing the impulse and passion of the previous period, every couple would get along with them with endless blandness.
I used to be similar to this girl, and I felt that the most frightening description was "we changed from love to family affection", and the obsession with love is also vigorous and hot, and I hope that the temperature when we fall in love should reach 1200 degrees.
But the other side of the ideal is also an untenable fantasy, and after I experienced a few wrong loves, I found that even with the wrong person, I can experience some of the nothingness and beauty of being in love.
You can experience ambiguous pulls with impossible people just by text chat, you can stick together with people you don't like so much, but you can't go through the flat period with an unsuitable person.
As in the Wild Rose of Paris: "I've met a lot of people." Someone gave me a fever and I thought it was love, and it burned it all. Someone gave me chills and disappeared from my life. Someone makes me feel warm, but it's just warmth. Only you, let my body temperature rise by 0.2 degrees. ”
If the temperature that can produce love is 37.2 degrees, then when all the beautiful filters of the love period fade, the relationship between the two people is actually like a trial, and they need each other's patience to master the heat.
I think I'm lucky that I've slipped so many times in front of love, and I've finally met someone who can keep me warm up in the trivial things of my daily life.
When we argue, our temperature becomes 34 degrees, and the lower few degrees is the temperature when we argue with each other, stubbornly arguing with each other.
But fortunately, he and I will hug and comfort me after reconciliation, and we will also apologize to each other for breaking each other's hearts, and only he can make my heart warm up quickly after the argument, even rising to 38 degrees.
Even in the flat period, the temperature when we get along is 37 degrees. Although it is 0.2 degrees less than the constant temperature of 37.2 degrees in the previous period, it is only less the illusion that the ambiguous period will make people fever, and more peace and calm.
At this moment, we can peel off the filter, reveal each other's truest side, laugh at each other's messy hair when they first get up, and become the cutest person in each other's eyes even if they don't wear makeup or dress up.
You see, the right temperature in love is not static. Even if it enters a dull period, love can be burned repeatedly, and when the temperature of love rises and falls, it is the moment when you feel your heart again and again.
In this seemingly bland long-term stable relationship, being able to repeatedly move the same person is really an addictive thing.
A few days ago, my husband and I started a dull warming trip, and when we visited the Royal Kiln Museum in Jingdezhen, we learned that blue and white porcelain needs to be fired at exactly 1200 degrees, the color glaze needs to be exactly 1250 degrees, and the sweet white porcelain needs to be just 1280 degrees.
These porcelain that has been fired at high temperatures is like love after cooling, and after the heat has faded, the product of calming down is the most worthy of treasure.
Meet, love, get along, run-in, and become each other's life every step has a different temperature. Perhaps every couple will inevitably experience a dull period, but as long as you have the right temperature, you can reap the best love.
I also hope that every Valentine's Day you spend in the future will be with the right person, not necessarily full of passion, but definitely have the love that will be able to spend all the years to come.
Illustration / "Bouquet of Love" & Husin Bouquet
Head diagram / Aren