-01
"I was 3 months pregnant, and I knew that I was being a junior"
A lady left me a message, and I was stunned for a moment when I saw this message.
She went on to say:
The acquaintance with the man originated from a dinner party with Party B's company, and she was attracted to the man after a short contact.
In her eyes, the man at that time was mature, steady, and knowledgeable, and his whole body exuded a very strong smell of hormones.
And she lives in a family that lacks father's love since she was a child, resulting in her 25 years, she has always been inferior and lacking love in her heart, and she hopes to find a life partner who plays the role of a father.
And that man also showed patience beyond ordinary people in the relationship between the sexes.
Take the initiative to connect with you, exude some charm, and then just take a few steps back and keep your distance;
And at this time, she has been attracted to this man to the point of dizziness, no matter what the man says, she acts like a fan girl, with stars in her eyes.
In less than 2 months, she took the initiative to give her arms.
In her brief understanding of men, she saw that men's circle of friends and social platforms were particularly clean, without the slightest trace of family and marriage.
Including her side-knocking colleagues, from the mouths of some cooperative acquaintances in Party B's company, everyone did not know the fact that he was married.
The man always maintains a "upright" posture, if you don't take the initiative to find me, I won't take the initiative to look for you.
The two of them remain semi-different, and the man will take time to accompany her on weekends, and the rest of the time the two of them are busy with their careers.
The woman fell deeper and deeper, and found out that she was pregnant after less than 1 year together.
When she found out she was pregnant, she was half elated, half worried.
The joy is that giving birth to a child for love is what she has been looking forward to.
The concern is that until now, the man has not shown any intention of marrying her.
Things that are exposed happen on an ordinary day.
She was eating out with the man, and during the time the man went to the bathroom, she saw the message on the man's phone.
A little boy about 5 years old sent him a voice message: "Dad, you haven't been home for 1 month, I miss you so much." ”
At that moment, her whole body was stunned, as if a thunderbolt had struck her heavenly spirit cover.
She was in a trance, and she was stupid.
When the man returned, he saw that she was not in the right state and asked her what had happened.
She took a picture of her pregnancy test sheet in front of the man, played the voice again, and waited for the man's next words.
The man said, "I'm sorry, I wanted to tell you about it, but I didn't want to hurt you." ”
What happened next was even more bloody.
She has been consumed here, and all the fatherly love, security, and inner worth that have been missing for 25 years have been poured on this man.
She even sought "a trace of possibility", and after falling out with a man, she fell into a low position again, praying for a man:
"I am pregnant with your child, will you marry me? Will you marry me? ”
How could a man of this rank give up his marriage and family for her?
Even if the relationship with his original wife disappears, it is impossible for him to give up his marriage for the sake of his children and socialization attributes.
So from the very beginning, when she learned that she was a junior, it meant that the road to "defeat the original partner and compete for the big house" was blocked.
When she came to me for consultation, she was in a terrible state, and she was all in a breath of energy with the child in her belly.
What would a slightly sane woman do under normal circumstances?
A woman with a strong personality:
You have lied to my mother for so long, so miserable, my mother conceived a child for you, and you made me a junior?
If you don't make me feel better, you don't want to be better.
Let the man be ruined, as for whether to ask for compensation, it is secondary, and you must vent your anger.
A woman who can be rational after pain:
Step 1: Keep all the evidence
Step 2: Claim for the grievances you have endured for so long, the injuries you have suffered during your pregnancy
Step 3: The child goes to leave the problem
In short, with this kind of scumbag, you must not have illusions.
But no matter how she chooses, in the next few years or even the second half of her life, if her emotions are not sorted out in time, she will live in a state of pain, denial, twisting, and fear of intimacy.
These are things that can't be changed by any amount of money.
What if the other party pays you 100W? For many years to come, you're ruined.
Both the worldly vision and the "stable order" within you are destroyed.
What's more, this kind of high-end scumbag may not give you 100W.
-02
In the relationship between the sexes, it is necessary to be vigilant against this state
"Hidden intimacy".
What do you mean?
Your feelings are only known to "you know me, God knows it".
In other words, everyone around you knows about it, but the people in the other circle don't know about your existence at all.
You are like a blind man blinded by love, grabbing the other person's hand and being thrown around at random by the other person.
What are the common manifestations of hidden feelings?
First: Never make your relationship public on social platforms
Second: TA is good at creating a single and exquisite life on social platforms
Third: I will hardly introduce my friends, colleagues, and family to you
Fourth: Always avoid talking about marriage
Fifth: Always hang you, when you are eager for the other party to give you an explanation and give you a correct word, they will cold or disappear
Now you guys get it?
I've been talking to a lot of people about it.
These manifestations apply to both men and women.
When your relationship is not made public by each other and is always in a state of "underground romance", don't hesitate and don't doubt it.
There is only one truth:
The other person is ready to leave you at any time.
You're just an alternative, you're a springboard, you're a pastime when you're bored, you're a provider......
Topic:
What do you think about "hidden intimacy"?
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