Bun \ Shizuichi
Zhihu saw a problem:
When does a woman's true maturity begin?
One netizen's answer received high praise:
"Accustomed to anyone's hot and cold, looking down on anyone's gradual drift, began to learn to be ruthless, learned to be independent, learned to discard unworthy feelings."
Yes, in life, there are often some "ruthless" women, they seem to be harsh on themselves, but they live life well.
This ruthlessness no longer allows himself to cry easily, nor is he confused by obsession, nor does he allow himself to lie flat and rot. With their ruthlessness, they broke the game in their lives, opened the hanging, and went to the peak.
01. Be ruthless and self-discipline to break through the counterattack
After letting go a while ago, I was at home, and my classmates sent me a video asking if I had enough food at home.
Later, she said in the group of classmates: Whoever needs vegetables and fruits, shout and be on call.
Her enthusiasm and directness make people feel like a spring breeze.
In the past few years, she has been suffering setbacks on the road to entrepreneurship, first opening a clothing store, losing tens of thousands, and then running a food business, because of the epidemic, the performance has never come up, but she has never given up lightly, but fiercely demanded herself, has been working hard to find a breakthrough, and finally counterattacked successfully.
She originally came from the countryside, her parents were simple farmers facing the loess and turned their backs to the sky, and her younger brother was in college.
Without the support of a superior family background, it is difficult for rural girls to change their destiny.
After joining the work, she felt that her education was very important, so she signed herself up for a night university, went to class every day after work rain or shine, and successfully completed her undergraduate studies from high school in less than 3 years.
She also insists on working part-time every day, and the day is divided into 3 parts: full-time, part-time and study.
In addition, she also saw sewing needles to study, and when we were brushing the play, she was there frantically brushing the questions.
She strictly sets her schedule, gets up at six o'clock in the morning and runs for 1 hour in the morning, then reads books, cuts short videos, and shares her life story.
She organizes her time and is very fulfilling every day, rarely hearing her complain and always seeing her positive and sunny smile.
She always says:
I am a rural girl, I don't have a good family background, and if I don't be cruel to myself, I can only find someone to marry at random in this life, and scribble my whole life.
Children without umbrellas should run harder.
Her self-discipline in exchange for the gift of life, the initiative of life is firmly in her hands.
Most of us at the same age revolve around her husband's children, but she works hard to learn a skill, and her husband's family also dotes on her.
In real life, women are cruel to themselves and more strict, and life will favor you.
Relying on the charity of others, you can only be a fake princess at most, and work hard to be the true queen of life.
Diving queen Guo Jingjing once set a very strict training plan for herself, whether it is sports performance or the education of her children, Guo Jingjing is very ruthless.
Speaking about her training journey, she said:
I train every day to squeeze myself dry and never stop until I am exhausted.
Yes, women have more self-discipline, more self-confidence, more ruthlessness, and more competitive capital in life.
02. Ruthlessly throw away the illusion of love and live yourself soberly
In the world of love, women are usually more emotional and more likely to indulge in it.
It is not necessary to say that the shelf life of love is limited, nor that the variables of reality are very large, just the trivial things of life can make love short-lived.
Mature women will not let themselves fall into the pain of love, but stay awake at all times, such as Zhen Huan.
In "The Legend of Zhen Huan", Zhen Huan was close to the emperor at the beginning, and always regarded the emperor as a "Shilang" who could play swing with her, and was a complete pure love girl.
The first pregnancy, she was calculated by the harem woman, unfortunately miscarried.
When she complained to the emperor with rain and wanted the emperor to support her, the emperor was unusual, blaming Zhen Huan for doing a lot and killing the child himself.
Zhen Huan was heartbroken and disappointed in the emperor for the first time.
Willing to win the heart of one person, the white head is not separated, originally Zhen Huan's interpretation of love, do not admit it, concubine has a lover but does not cherish it.
Later, Zhen Huan saw that the emperor used Huanyi incense to the affectionate Concubine Hua, preventing her from having heirs, and also banned herself because she mistakenly wore Empress Chunyuan's former clothes.
She woke up suddenly.
She knows that this man in front of her, even if you give him your heart, he will not be satisfied.
The woman's happiness is mostly a sudden awakening after being injured.
Zhen Huan no longer made a calculated vase, she began to put on battle armor in her heart, become strong for herself and her family, continue to cultivate her mind, and go back and forth with the concubines of the harem.
She told herself fiercely: Zhen Huan in the past is dead.
Zhen Huan no longer had illusions about love, paved the way for herself everywhere, she voted for the emperor's favor, won the emperor's trust, and took charge of the harem step by step. Finally, no one dared to fight her anymore.
Unfortunately, she lost her love, and luckily, she gave up her fantasies. With determination and sobriety, she bravely started a new life.
Who says love is what a woman is all about? Love that can't make you happy is a kind of mental internal attrition.
Zhu Deyong said:
"If a woman is not sexy, she needs to be sensual; If there is no emotion, be rational; If there is no reason, there must be self-knowledge; If she doesn't even have this, she will only be unlucky. ”
Yes, but in reality, even if a woman is gorgeous and sexy, it is difficult for her to be cherished by men for a lifetime.
Therefore, mature women will not let themselves indulge in the fantasy of love, she will understand that men's emotions are unreliable, and only by rationally and ruthlessly cutting off the love silk can they start a truly happy life.
03. Fight against the blows of fate and walk out of a wonderful life
Speaking of ruthless people, Dong Mingzhu is one of them.
Dong Mingzhu, 30, used to do ordinary administrative work at a chemical research institute in Nanjing.
Life was originally smooth, but a bad news broke her family: her husband died.
In those years, she walked to and from work with her children on her back every day, raining or falling but always taking them with her.
Children are the whole of her life.
As the people around her boarded the big boat "going to the sea", Dong Mingzhu decided to give it a try, but the child was only 8 years old, and she hesitated repeatedly.
After thinking about it, she still decided to resign from the iron rice bowl and take advantage of her youth to go to the business sea to fight.
When Dong Mingzhu entered the Haili (predecessor of Gree) air-conditioning factory, she was already an older woman in middle age.
She went to sales, because she was inexperienced, she was always pigeons by customers, went to chase debts, and was always teased by the boss who owed debts.
She stiffened her head and told herself that she couldn't back down because there was no way back.
When she stumbled to recover the arrears for the company, she had a little right to suggest, she proposed "first payment before goods", and also took the lead in completing the company's sales tasks.
Her ruthlessness makes others awe three points.
A woman, all at home and outside the home are herself, tired and have no shoulders to rely on, Dong Mingzhu, is not an iron man, but she has carried all the blows of fate.
Dong Mingzhu, who has worked in Gree for 5 years, when the company's sales staff chose to change jobs due to low commission, she firmly stood on the company's side, resisted the pressure, did not complain, and did not flinch from the rival company.
Between career and family, she chose the former, some people said that she was ruthless, the children were still waiting for her to accompany, and her mother did not see her for the last time when she died, although she blamed herself, but said:
"Without everyone, where is the small family?"
The 47-year-old Dong Mingzhu served as the vice chairman of Gree, and social honors poured in, and later won the title of "outstanding female entrepreneur" and was elected as a deputy to the 10th National People's Congress.
In 2017, 63-year-old Dong Mingzhu ranked first in the "China's Most Outstanding Business Women".
A sentence that Dong Mingzhu often hangs on his lips is: "Be cruel to yourself!" ”
How many slaps fate gives you, how many candies will be given to you, women, only by working hard can you have the confidence to face the beating of fate.
We all want life to go well, but no one always has smooth sailing.
Mature women, not afraid of the wind and frost of life, do not let go of their vulnerability, with a "ruthless" attitude, force themselves to move forward bravely.
Believe that when you make up your mind and move forward firmly, there can be a rainbow in troubled times.
04. Mei Niang said
We always feel that women are weak.
But we also found that some women seem weak, but they are firm in their hearts, and they are "cruel" to themselves, and others will naturally be in awe of her.
Therefore, survival is not easy, life is also difficult, only by "being cruel" to oneself can you have a foothold in society.
Dale Carnegie once said:
"Women do two things well in life, first make a living, and then seek love."
Yes, mature women will not go with the flow and be at the mercy of others, nor will they indulge in consuming their feelings, let alone let themselves complain in a trivial life.
Only women who are "cruel" to themselves can brew the honey of life for themselves, and they can also settle their restless hearts in the turbulent life.
Mature women are most likely willing to be cruel to themselves, because only by being ruthless can they make themselves strong and control their own lives.
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