After consulting over the years, I have seen a lot of feelings, and many people ask me a question, that is, do we still want to be together? I have written a lot of cases that do not need to be separated before, and today I will also list the cases that were destined to be separated from the beginning.
Xiao Huan is an old client of mine for many years, she has a very garbage boyfriend, she fell in love with this person at first sight, it is the kind of romance that the crowd sees each other at a glance.
Although the process of meeting is very romantic, how can it turn out to be very skinny, what does this boyfriend say? Just three words of dwarf and poverty are not enough to fully describe, in the summer, he was reluctant to buy a mattress because he picked it, and told Xiao Huan that Xiao Huan stole a cool mat from home for him to use; lied to Xiao Huan that he wanted to get married in the future, but there was no money, could the two of them fight together, so Xiao Huan stole her parents' principal from home to sell clothes on the ground, and he didn't care about it and felt that she had lost his person; Xiao Huan was unexpectedly pregnant, asked what to do, and lost contact after dropping a sentence of "deal with it yourself"; Finally, Xiao Huan made up his mind and wanted to start looking for a boyfriend again, and he ran over to all kinds of entanglements, intimidation, sending messages, tracking, and even Xiao Huan went to other cities to find Xiao Huan through various inquiries, asking to continue to be together, splitting legs, etc. is also a common thing...
These are the tip of the iceberg in their relationship, and Xiao Huan has been entangled with this person for five years, and in the past few years, she has asked me more than once to see Tarot, but each time she only asked one question, that is, "Does he love me?" "Although the events of watching Tarot are different every time, and the details are different everywhere, the general trend has never changed------- the boy never wants to get married, although he has feelings for Xiaohuan, but the habits of possessiveness, coercion, and male power have never wanted to change.
For several years, I have been persuading Xiao Huan to separate, but Xiao Huan always said, I think we have a fate, otherwise I would not want to identify him at first sight, so she has always refused to separate, and in 22 years, she finally came to me after a big quarrel and asked: "Eggshell, can we still get married?" What kind of fate do we have? Will he change in the future? ”
I said: You're crazy, you still want to get married?!
She's certainly not crazy, she's just too much in love.
So I watched their [marriage combination], of course, this dead scumbag identified by Xiao Huan is not a positive fate, so in terms of luck and fate, he is just an insignificant rotten peach blossom in the long river of Xiao Huan's life, why did the time last so long? There are also reasons here, Xiao Huan is a Cancer, and the original family has many quarrels, she has always been eager to have a family of her own, this scumbag is a prodigal son, although the appearance is average, but extremely narcissistic and conceited, the soil elephant characteristics are less, seriously biased towards the wind constellation (does not mean to say that the wind constellation is bad, just express a person's astrolabe, you have to balance the four elephants to be even, too partial to water and extremely love brain, too partial to the soil will be extremely critical + rigid + no fun, too partial wind is full of lies extremely unreliable, Too partial is extremely impulsive without thinking) Therefore, his expression and commitment hardly have any mental burden, so when Xiao Huan expressed that he wanted a small family, he immediately held her dead hole, any quarrel, and any harm to Xiao Huan, and finally ended with "I want to marry you, I am willing to form a family with you, don't you want to start a family with me?" At the end of such a conversation, for the sake of this small family, Xiao Huan is like the donkey with a carrot hanging in front, always working for an illusory goal that cannot be touched.
Xiao Huan was very frustrated, she said that she always thought that they would get married to delay such a long time, if she had watched the joint plate from the beginning, she would not have delayed such a long time, this boy's basic plate is too bad. But because Xiao Huan is a person in the bureau, the authorities are fans.
And in this case, good and bad right and wrong are clear at a glance, maybe you will feel that Xiaohuan is stupid, but in real life, everyone may become "Xiaohuan", but the object will be different, so in their ongoing relationship, you also need to be vigilant and introspective.
Eggshell says: If you lose more than you gain in the long run, then the relationship cannot last. Whether it is with a short poor man, or a high rich handsome, or short rich handsome, high and poor, these are adjectives of appearance, and the conclusion can not be changed, if you can't judge yourself, it's better to judge objectively, people's likes and dislikes are different to judge things always have deviations, but the combination is different, it is based on astrological argumentation judgment, fair and objective. If the problem cannot be solved in the long run, then you can re-weigh the relationship.