After retirement, keep three "hole cards" for yourself, which is the vision of the old man

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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.

"Metamorphosis" wrote: "To live a beautiful life, you need to pay a lot of patience, one does not complain, the other does not explain, absolutely a talent." ”

In old age, people no longer have to plunge themselves into the disputes of disturbances, and know how to live quietly and live for themselves, which is wisdom.

Both men and women, when they reach the age of retirement, they must plan for themselves, have traveled so far, seen through the people and things in the world, they must be relieved, and loving themselves for the rest of their lives is the real vision.

After all, the parents have long been old, the children have grown up to become a family, and the time to come is more about themselves, how to spend the rest of their lives safely.

Therefore, what should be put down should be put down, and what should be fought for for oneself must know how to leave the "bottom card".

If you don't leave a trail for yourself, when you need care and help, who really cares about you? Especially when your wife leaves you one step ahead, you don't have any bottom cards, and it is inevitable that the evening scene will be desolate.

So, when you are old, remember to keep these three things, and you will be happy for the rest of your life, which is the vision of the old man.

First, after retirement, you must have your own residence

When people are old, the most important thing is to have their own house, no matter how much their children have made, you must have your own residence.

No matter how big their house is, it is not your family after all, they have their own home, they have children to raise, and they don't have to live with them.

Many times, you live with your children, at the beginning, it may be very harmonious, and once the time is long, there will be a lot of contradictions.

Children are busy, it is impossible to stay at home all day, grandchildren also need to study, have homework, have all kinds of tutoring and training, there is no time to accompany you.

Especially when facing your daughter-in-law or son-in-law, it may be very embarrassing, you can't do anything, just waiting for them to serve you, you can't bear it.

Even if you are willing to pay for living expenses, it is impossible to really let go of your heart, especially when you see their little two quarrels, it may be very sad.

Therefore, after retirement, you still have to have your own house, even if you are lonely, do not easily disturb the children's family.

Whether in the city or in the countryside, people must have a place to live in their old age, and a person who is quiet will be very idle, and his life will be relatively comfortable.

When you have nothing to do, chat with your neighbors, play chess, or go out for a walk, have one or two hobbies, such a day will be very fulfilling, and you will not be empty.

In the final analysis, when people are old, they still have to plan for themselves, no matter how difficult their children are, they can't give up their houses, even if they can afford to buy a house, you don't have to live with them.

Having your own house is the real place to go, which is your home and can make you feel warm in your old age.

The old couple is dependent on each other, do not have to worry about the trivialities of their children, live their own lives, do not add too much trouble to their children, so that they can make the family happy.

The rest of his life is not long, leaving a hole card for himself and guarding his house is the vision of the old man.

Second, people are old, remember to leave more pension money for themselves

After people reach their old age, they must leave pension money for themselves, which is your real confidence and dignity.

In reality, many elderly people do not know how to save money for themselves, and when they see their children in difficulty, they selflessly give them their life's savings.

In fact, there is nothing wrong with doing this, after all, which parent does not want to be good for their children, and seeing that they are happy is at ease.

However, if you give without reservation, you have nothing left, and when you are old, you will reach out to your children and ask for them, and it may not taste right.

Children with filial piety may think about you and are willing to take the initiative to give you money to improve their lives. If you encounter a kind of person who has no filial piety, not only will he not get money, but he may also be rejected, and then he will be very miserable.

I have seen too many old people, buying houses and cars for their children, willing to take out all their savings, but later, when they are sick and can't come up with money, their children don't care at all, how sad?

Therefore, in the old age, the best thing for people to leave themselves pension money, they have it, do not reach out to find their children, this is the final dignity.

Children are willing to give, that is filial piety, children are not willing to give, you also have enough confidence to survive, this is the vision of the old man.

As a parent, when you can help your children, you may be able to help them more smoothly.

But when it is time to plan for oneself, one must know how to keep, and no matter how difficult it is for the children, one cannot give all one's savings unreservedly.

Many children are like this, when they accept gifts from their parents, they take it for granted, but when it is time to do their duty for their parents, they are unhappy and have no sense of responsibility.

Therefore, when people are old, they must leave pension money for themselves, plan their old age, and love themselves well, which is the real vision.

Third, maintain a positive attitude and cultivate one or two hobbies

After retirement, there is relatively plenty of time, and you have to cultivate one or two hobbies in order to make your later life more comfortable.

In the old age, the mentality is very important, and maintaining a positive attitude can be comfortable and have a happy texture.

Many times, the mentality is good, the body is better, and when you are full of energy, the state you present is different.

You can walk like a fly, even if you have white hair, it gives people a feeling of vitality. On the contrary, you become faltering, and you will feel that life is very sad.

Therefore, maintaining a positive attitude, adjusting your body, and cultivating your hobbies will make your life more fulfilling and moist in your later years.

And when the children see that you are in this state, they are relieved that the family is happy and harmonious.

Therefore, after retirement, both men and women should be optimistic, face life with a more positive attitude, and live their own lives.

For example, women can learn to raise flowers, go out to square dance, men can play chess, play ball, or participate in some sports within their reach.

Or, the old couple went out to travel, made up for the regrets of their youth, and went out to see more, which not only enjoyed the body and mind, but also increased their insights.

In daily life, you can also chat and communicate with your neighbors, have your own circle, have one or two confidants, which are all ways to make your later life comfortable.

In short, after retirement, maintain a positive attitude, cultivate your hobbies, have your own friends and circles, and believe that life will be better.

With a better posture, to meet the coming old age, this is the vision of the elderly.

Ye Feifei yff emotional message:

Milan Kundera wrote in The Unbearable Lightness of Life:

"From now on, I start to choose my life carefully, and I no longer easily allow myself to get lost in all kinds of temptations. I have heard a call from afar in my heart, and I no longer need to look back and care about the rights and wrongs and arguments behind me. I have no time to dwell on the past, I want to move forward. ”

Truly far-sighted old people, in their old age, will live for themselves, they will no longer lose themselves, and they will no longer care about unnecessary right and wrong and arguments.

The rest of your life is not long, grasp the last good time, and strive to move forward, is your wisdom and pattern.

Therefore, after retirement, keep these three "bottom cards" for yourself, which is the vision of the old man.

After retirement, you must have your own residence; when people are old, remember to leave more pension money for themselves; maintain a positive attitude and cultivate one or two hobbies.

Life, will eventually usher in the twilight, life, and eventually there is an end, can live their own style in the old age, this is remarkable.

I hope that every old man can bloom quietly in the rest of his life and be happy in his old age!

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