As the saying goes: People have three anxieties, the implication is that and fart can't wait. As an adult parent, I always think that excretion is the most normal thing. But for small children, this is not the case.
The child only recognizes the toilet at home when playing outside, which makes the mother very headache
My friend's child is 2 years old and develops very well, especially in terms of language and needs, and can express it well with adults, and communication is also very good. However, friends have recently found that the child has a lot of headaches when it comes to going to the toilet.
A few days ago, a friend took the child to naughty castle, and was having fun, but the child suddenly froze in place, and then ran to his mother's side and pulled his mother to leave. The friend did not know the child's behavior, so he quickly asked "what's wrong"?
But the child is arguing to go home, friends think that the child is playing enough, but did not expect to go home after the child went straight to the toilet, a few minutes later a face of ease came out, directly to a sentence: "Mom, let's go back and play."
This sentence made the friend cry and laugh, the child was anxious to go home to go to the toilet, and later the friend found that no matter how uncomfortable the child was, he would not go to the toilet outside, but must go home.
Friends do not understand in an instant, I have heard of someone "recognizing the bed", but I have not heard of anyone "recognizing the toilet".
Children would rather hold their breath than go to the toilet outside, mainly for the following reasons
With the enhancement of the baby's various abilities, they gradually adapted to various survival skills, but some mothers found that they knew that their babies already had the ability to go to the toilet independently, but they never went to the toilet outside. Mainly the following reasons:
Reason 1: Pay attention to the posture of defecation
Many children go to the toilet at home, have their own fixed "small toilet", such a toilet is very comfortable to sit on, and most of the toilets outside are squatting, or adult-sized toilets. Such a toilet posture is also a big challenge for children.
Squatting children's leg strength is not enough, going to the toilet is easy to keep the child nervous; and the adult toilet is too high for the child, the child is not very comfortable to go to the toilet, which will make the child unable to find a comfortable toilet posture, which also leads to the child refusing to go to the toilet outside.
Reason two: I'm sorry
Some children think that defecation is a very "shameful" thing, because the defecation is dirty and smelly, or their own actions and expressions in the process of defecation are not elegant, and only their parents and other people close to them know that outsiders cannot see their bad side, and such an idea will also make the child not go to the toilet outside.
Reason three: not used to the toilet environment
Not only are the tools used to go to the toilet, but many children also have requirements for the environment of the toilet. Like the outside toilet is together, for those children who are accustomed to going to the toilet independently, there will be rejection.
The harm of children "holding back" for a long time is not as good as the toilet, parents should understand
For children, holding back on the toilet may have their own various reasons, but the harm is often not self-aware, and as a parent, you must understand clearly.
Children often hold back and do not defecate, and the most direct impact is that they will have the problem of "constipation". In the future, if you want to defecate spontaneously, it will become more and more difficult, and it will be especially painful when you defecate.
It should be known that excretion is to excrete toxins from the body, and if it is not excreted, the harmful substances in the body will be absorbed by the intestine, resulting in an increase in those pathogenic factors.
Therefore, in the eyes of children, they think that it is good for others and themselves not to defecate outside, but the harm is not known to them, but parents must know.
How can parents help their children solve the problem of not going to the toilet outside?
For children who do not defecate outside, parents must pay attention to it and help their children solve such problems as soon as possible.
First of all, parents should help children develop the habit of defecating on time, supervise every day, once the biological clock of the toilet is formed, the intestinal regular peristalsis will have the feeling of defecation, at this time to go to the toilet immediately.
Children defecate regularly, and are accustomed to solving it at home in the morning and evening, then there will be no problem of "holding back defecation" outside.
Secondly, the world of children is different from the world in the eyes of our adults, such as children soiling the surrounding environment when they go to the toilet outside, we adults think it is a small thing, but in the eyes of children, this is a big thing.
Because of the fear of ridicule by others, children will not get used to going to the toilet outside, and they will be used to holding back and going home to solve it. Because of shyness and introversion and other reasons, holding home in an unfamiliar environment to solve, one day will have a bad impact on the body.
Therefore, in daily life, parents should encourage children to be bold, take their children out for a walk, and when children want to defecate, they can let them complete independently in an unfamiliar environment.
Then, because many children are afraid that the teacher will be troublesome during class, although they want to go to the toilet, they dare not raise their hands, and the habit of holding back defecation has arisen. Parents should encourage their children to speak out and not hold back because they are afraid of the teacher or embarrassed.
Kojima would like to say:
Children have the problem of "holding back", not only physically, but also psychologically, and the pain in their hearts must be experienced by parents in order to handle it properly.