As the saying goes, the sparrow is small and has all its internal organs.
Many parents' cognition of children is incomplete, they blindly feel that children are too small, do not have their own ideas, and do not need to give them too much respect and space, which is to promote their bad learning bad atmosphere.
After all, the child will always be a child in the eyes of his parents, and no matter how tall and powerful the child grows, the mother will also think that he is a child who has not grown up, and he still has to help him make up his own ideas.
Children who are too depressed are more likely to rebel
From the time Chenchen was born, his mother set a future development path for him, what interest classes to attend in the kindergarten stage, how many certificates to take, and even what kind of people to marry in the future.
This kind of planning behavior of Chenchen's mother looks very tall in the eyes of many outsiders, and it has done what many parents dream of doing, if it can really be planned step by step, it is not difficult to cultivate a little genius.
But in Tatsuta's father's eyes, such behavior was very dangerous. Even if it is empathetic thinking, Chenchen will not accept such restrictions and constraints, not to mention that today's children are generally precocious, how can it be at the mercy of their mothers?
I once looked for an opportunity to discuss this matter with my wife, but my wife's attitude was very tough, and she stubbornly believed that according to her established plan, she would be able to cultivate very good children, so let time prove everything!
When the beating mother implemented step by step according to his own ideas, Tatsumi broke out at the age of 4, and the child became very unhappy every day, always staying alone in the room, and when others talked to him, it was as if he could not hear. It's like suffering from depression.
After the mother took Chenchen to the examination, the diagnosis given by the doctor was the same as the parents guessed, the child's psychology had serious problems, and if it was not treated immediately, the consequences would be unimaginable.
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In fact, it was not surprising that Chenchen finally got such a fate, and the culprit was not his parents. Among them, the mother is too strong, ignoring Tatsumi's inner thoughts, Tatsumi is not an independent and complete person in her eyes, but a tool person.
And there was also a problem with his father, if he could be tougher at that time and do his best to stop his mother's selfish behavior, how could such a tragedy appear in the child?
But in any case, other parents must be careful when facing their own children, because a small act that appears on the child may reveal his current true feelings.
The appearance of these 2 phenomena in the child shows that he is on the verge of collapse and cannot be careless
Frequent insomnia
In childhood, sleep is very important for them, not only to contribute to the external development of the body, but also to the perfection of the inside of the body. No matter how much stress your child is studying every day, it can't affect their normal sleep.
Moreover, children who are growing up, as long as there are no diseases and problems in their bodies, basically will not face sleep disorders. At least 10+ hours of sleep per day should be guaranteed.
However, if parents find that their children have not slept well recently, and when they ask him, there is no other uncomfortable place in the body, at this time, parents should pay more attention to the child's inner world to see if he has been unhappy recently.
Alone, unwilling to make friends with other people
Adults often say that solitude is the time of enjoying oneself alone. But for children, they should not feel empathy prematurely, after all, when they are connected with others, it is very helpful for their emotional intelligence IQ and even the development of reverse quotient.
Moreover, children like and enjoy the hilarity, have peers around them, and getting the approval of their peers is more important than their parents' recognition of them. Every good child will be surrounded by many friends.
But if parents find that the child has always been alone recently, does not want to make friends with others, and does not want to open his heart to others, the problem is somewhat serious, perhaps he has encountered difficult problems and dilemmas that he cannot solve at this stage.
Today's summary:
What do you do when you find out that your child has these conditions happening? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!