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In the past, there was a sentence that described the most classic sentence for women to use perfume, called "smelling incense and recognizing women".
In my opinion, if you look at a woman and see what she is wearing, you can roughly know her life status.
Because I am a post-70s, at this age, it is definitely not small to say that I am old and not old.
That day, I read books, anyway, I read idle books, I don't know if there is a reason.
In the book, it is said that in the Yuan Dynasty, the average life expectancy was 42 years old, so if you count the life of the ancients, I am already getting old.
After reading it, I had an epiphany and patted my leg: "No wonder, I always feel a lot." ”
Do you feel that way? It is a little situation in life, and sometimes, even if it is a casual sentence of others, you can summarize a lot of ways.
Moreover, tell others to put it up, one by one.
Although it is also accompanied by the reason of "forty not confused", this also shows from other aspects that I am also slowly entering the ranks of getting old.
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When I was young, I especially loved to wear and dress.
As I grew older, this hobby of buying clothes and shopping has never changed.
However, since the age of 40, the feeling of shopping and the mood of wearing things have changed every year.
This change, in fact, at that time, that is, at that time, I was not aware of it.
However, in the past two or three years, especially in the change of seasons, the wardrobe things have been poured out, stored, and sorted, and it has suddenly been found that almost nothing can be donated to the outside world.
In the past, because of the continuous purchase, it cost a lot of money.
Expensive, high quality, I want to buy.
New, fashionable, absolutely buy.
Discounted, because cheap, rare opportunities, also buy.
Similar to your own dressing style, this is simply customized for yourself, so buy.
Styles that do not fit with myself, with very different styles, while paying for money, I still think with peace of mind: Since I wear it, I must wear it differently.
So, the closet at home exploded.
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Like a big fat man, nesting, stuffing, squeezing, each time, as soon as the cabinet door opened, things fell down.
It turned out that our family lived in the house of the unit, and the house of more than 60 square meters, even the cardboard box, was stuffed with clothes.
At that time, I was always looking forward to it, thinking: When will I be able to buy a bigger house!
However, I did not expect that this kind of shopping that can only go in and out, even if it is a large house, will have a full day.
Of course, this is what I understand now.
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Before we moved, my husband specially asked the decoration company to design a cloakroom for me when he was doing decoration.
He was very proud at the time, thinking that changing a big house would be able to include all my dreams.
I remember, he was comparing himself to me, and as I listened, we were both very excited.
In our minds, we think: large rooms, neatly arranged, clean, comfortable and quiet.
So, before I moved, I had been dreaming: a whole room, ah, can not put down, my beloved clothes and shoes?
However, this is all the idea that I have never lived in a big house.
In fact: after moving, I had more desire to buy, because there was a place to put it!
Therefore, after the new home was moved in, it was less than a year, and the cloakroom was also exploded.
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So, I expanded my position in my new home.
First, the closet in the large bedroom was occupied by me.
If you open it, it's stuffed with my clothes, shoes, bags.
Before long, it was extended to his son's room.
Because our family is a boy, a boy, and he doesn't care much about getting dressed.
In this way, I discussed with my son: "Mom put the clothes in your cabinet temporarily!" ”
This temporary moment became my wardrobe.
Not long after, the child's large wardrobe was also occupied by me almost all.
In the end, I couldn't do it, so I added a simple storage cabinet and put it in the study.
On the day when the storage cabinet was bought back, because we were in Xinjiang, there were more large pieces to protect against the cold, so I specially picked the large pieces together.
Therefore, one winter cotton coat, leather coat, down jacket, on the same day, I filled the storage cabinet I had just bought.
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The reason why I said so much earlier is to pave the way.
This is probably after buying more, seeing more, and wearing more, you have the feeling of "knowing clothes and knowing people".
Because of the reason for working in the unit, let's first talk about the dress of women in their 40s who work at the unit.
In the enterprise, some women are very frugal, especially those who are in their 40s.
This frugal type belongs to the kind that can save money in particular.
A few years ago, when I had not yet entered the mobile phone payment, this type of woman in our unit did not have money on her on weekdays.
The reason for not installing is to avoid spending money temporarily.
I know, and I'm experienced!
I have personally experienced, different occasions, people who do not put money, in fact, there are still quite a few.
At that time, young people liked to join in the fun.
We are in an office, we have been together for a long time, everyone is very familiar, fight a war of words, ridicule.
Occasionally, there will be people coaxing something, the purpose is to make an appointment with everyone, go out and stir together, it is a decompression.
The result of the general and agitation is that seven or eight people in the office go to dinner together.
Like the people we work in the unit, the salary is more or less, to say it, there is not much difference.
Besides, no one's money is blown by the wind, of course, it is the AA system.
If it is lunch, a person is almost 20 yuan or 30 to stop, but if it is dinner, a person on average, almost 50 yuan.
Every time you pay the bill, first call the waiter over, calculate the general ledger, and then, as soon as you divide the number of people, you will redeem the money on the spot.
In those years, I went to the department the most.
So, countless times I've experienced that same scenario, but, for me, every time, there are different people who borrow money from me.
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Another time, it was quite strange.
Like our small county, the weekend life is not so rich.
Our women, who generally have nothing to socialize on weekends, have to go directly back to their parents' homes when it is time to leave work.
At that time, a female colleague who was about the same age as me asked me to borrow eight dollars.
Later, I thought about it for a long time.
The reason is that I can't figure out why it's not nine blocks, or an integer of 10 blocks.
The reasons she borrowed money were well explained.
I thought, it must be that she did not have any money with her, probably thinking of going to her parents' house, planning to buy a little bit of food, and that order, probably this number.
However, as for why it is accurate to the number "eight", I have a lot of headaches.
Finally, after thinking about it for a few years, I finally figured it out: this is more, one piece or two pieces, in case it is spent.
Therefore, although it is to borrow money, do not give yourself the opportunity to indulge.
In fact, now it seems that they are not without money, but just a consumption habit formed.
Usually, as soon as they are paid, they quickly save the money.
The family keeps some living expenses, but generally does not carry money on them.
This, like the habits of my parents, from the point of view, I feel that to do so is to restrain myself, because without it implies that I cannot and should never spend money, even if it is a dollar.
Moreover, they believe in the power of savings, accumulating less into more, and accumulating a dollar to achieve wealth.
For example, the female colleague who asked me to borrow eight yuan is said that when she went to the provincial city to buy a car two years ago, she took out more than 300,000 yuan to buy a new car, and her eyes did not blink.
This type of woman dresses, except for the workwear issued by the unit, it can almost be said that there is no clothing.
A few T-shirts were sent off in the summer.
The style of the T-shirt, at a glance, was bought in the underground street, 100 yuan, two or three pieces of that kind, similar to the shopping for goods when turning the street, the whole when the sale was sold, and then, in the winter, it was a sports cotton coat that could not move.
Every day at work, I often met her in the elevator, but what she was wearing, I never seemed to see the idea.
Because, as if worn all year round, how many years, clothes like old, regardless of fashion, has nothing to do with beauty.
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There is also a category of women around me, that is, they love to buy, but they are always looking for seasonal products of brand goods.
There is a phenomenon in psychology called "delayed gratification."
It is said that foreign psychologists, doing research, did a test for children at that time, the content of the experiment is: if the food or toys placed in front of this child, if he does not touch, eat, or do not pick up and play within the specified time, can endure to a certain time limit, the child, can get double food or toys.
Therefore, I will temporarily call this kind of shopping and clothing dress, called "delay online shopping" women.
In fact, in our big shopping mall here, the price of buying clothes is still quite high.
Even if some well-known brands in China, the summer dress of a single product, if it is a new model, the tag price of a skirt basically costs three or four thousand yuan.
However, if it is online shopping, especially the inventory of two or three years ago, the price will be much lower.
A few hundred dollars, you can get your hands on it.
Generally, buying clothes online, mainly is to figure out cheap.
Especially the brands in these shopping malls, in large shopping malls, the price of clothes that can be seen is always staggering.
However, when you find the brand's online store, you will find that the models it has on the shelves with a particularly long interval can be cheaper than the underground street shopping.
The disadvantage is that the cheaper it is, the older it is, the older it is.
Therefore, this type of "delayed online shopping" type of women, although they are wearing brands, and, at a glance, the clothes on the upper body are indeed well-made and the cut is also very appropriate, but there is always a feeling of unclear and unclear.
Sometimes, with a pair of old and new shoes, the toe is still spliced with two pieces of leather, although, dressed up, from head to toe is new, but always reveal a feeling of expiration.
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I remember that in the zero years, there was a popular one called MP4 to watch, and it could listen to sounds and look at images.
I talked to a female colleague in the office to buy it together.
Before, we both inadvertently talked about this thing, talking and talking, we were very excited, after we decided to buy each other, and then, at the time of the appointment, we went to see it together.
Remember, it was an afternoon and we were on the electronics street.
It took a whole afternoon, from the appearance to the configuration, and then the color and price, comparing the appearance of the casual ten.
In the end, we got a hit, and the boss who sold the goods, because he wanted to buy two, was determined to bargain with him.
After some haggling, at the moment of handing over the money, the colleague retreated.
She said she didn't have any money with her and would buy it when she was paid.
Of course, I bought it.
My MP4 took a year or two.
However, that colleague, until I was transferred from that department, had never seen her use MP4.
I think that when it came time to pay the salary, she changed her mind.
Or, she is also a kind of mentality of "delayed purchase", or, wait for MP4 electronic products, after a year or two, the price drops to the lowest point, and then buy it.
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Another, like me, being able to buy clothes of my choice has become a difficult task.
Several thoughts swayed me at the same time.
For example, if I have a similar style of clothing in the past, I won't even try it.
Because, in his closet, there are similar clothes.
Like, those clothes beckoned and seduced me outside, but when I thought about the things I already had in my closet, no matter how they swayed, they couldn't impress me.
For example, more exaggerated clothes, although the shopping guide, the scene said that the ceiling, I still will not buy.
After the age of 40, I already know very well what I am suitable for.
Where is someone else's pointing?
Too cheap, I don't buy.
Probably because I think that cheap, either the style is outdated, or the quality itself is not good enough.
For both reasons, I am not satisfied with one or the other.
Good quality and cheap, touched, there are one or two pieces, really like.
However, when I think about its price, I feel that the fatal flaw of this dress is that it is too expensive.
Therefore, I basically do not buy it.
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The changes that have taken place in me in the past two years have begun after I started cleaning my wardrobe.
First, I made the first batch of "breaks" for my wardrobe in the form of donations or gifts, all of which I only bought but never put on my body.
In the cleanup, I marvel at the greed for possession of materials when I buy them, and I also lament the pity that resources are idle and wasted.
In the second wave, I removed all those chiffons, lace, and cute puffy skirts from the closet.
I think at this age, we must say goodbye to unrealistic fantasies.
Obviously, I have reached the road of middle age, although my figure is maintained well, and my face is still young, but there is no denying that I am also aging.
Reality must be accepted.
Then, I put particularly untrue clothes, small screening rates, or too tight clothes, and also sent them out of the closet.
Since you don't get up and you often can't think of the clothes you wear, why do you have to force yourself to keep them?
After the age of 40, I will not settle.
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In fact, where the money is spent, it means where your eyes are.
For example, in the past, money was spent on clothes, which meant that at that time, I was very concerned about my image and appearance.
Others spend on family expenses or on the education of their children.
All of the above express your inner desires and appeals.
For us, there is no right or wrong in every kind of input.
It also validates the saying: pay is what you get.
Now that I am over 40 years old, I am more willing to invest more in my health and family happiness, and I hope that I can get more returns here.
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