After Tang Guoqiang's teacher overturned the car, "Shandong Lanxiang" once again let everyone eat melons on the front line: Princess Rongting of Lanxiang reported her mother. After all, a girlfriend's report on her mother, in the eyes of the world, is not only filial piety, but also a great rebellion. Rong Ting, as the fourth princess of Lanxiang, has a solid family and should enjoy life with Bai Fumei's script, but why can't she live with her own mother? After watching the first half of the little girl's life, I found that her script was simply opening the mode of suffering. This is not a family, but "one melon after another" father Rong Lanxiang, mother Kong Suying, acquaintance yuwei, husband and wife two self-made founded the "Lanxiang Empire", with six children. Perhaps money can really change people's original intentions, with the gradual strengthening of financial resources, the family style that should have been happy has deviated and become a veritable "big melon field": "The wife reported that her husband took care of multiple small threes and evaded taxes", "The son-in-law beat his father-in-law across provinces", "The father personally sent his wife and daughter to prison", "The wife blew herself up and suffered domestic violence for up to twenty years"... So many eye-catching headlines, casually picking out one can write a TV series.
I dare not imagine how Rong Ting and several other children would live in such a storm center. They must have witnessed countless days and nights of parental hysteria, cursing and insulting, being wrapped in mutual hatred by their parents, and then growing up alone and torn... The gimmicky headlines we see in just a few lines are the lives she faces day in and day out, the parents she was born unable to choose. The phrase "parents are a scourge" could not have been more appropriately applied to her. Many people have commented that such a child is a white-eyed wolf, it is better not to keep it, but who would have thought that this childish-looking little girl had just been sent to prison by her biological father? What unforgivable sin had she committed? The mother of "Han Xinru" and the kidnapped daughter Rong Ting said that they were coerced by their mothers to threaten and force them by various means to sign several house sale agreements in Shangqiu Tianlun Garden to assist their mothers in illegally disposing of the seized property. It was these agreements that ended up sending the mother and daughter to prison. Perhaps Kong Suying himself did not expect that her husband Rong Lanxiang could be so determined of his own flesh and bones in order to compete for property. In this scuffle, three children are tools and chips, but they are not children who are distressed and protected by their parents.
The previous image of the mother, Kong Suying, was almost a perfect victim: helping the poor boy start a business, having children for him, but being cheated on, abused by the family, and even the distribution of divorced property was to the point of being sent to prison by her ex-husband. Such a mother, a few simple moral kidnappings, can tie up her child to death. "I'm all for your own good" "Not for you, I'm..." "It's not easy to raise you mostly, it's really a white-eyed wolf"... Is such a sentence familiar? I don't know what kind of means the mother used against her daughter for these agreements, but it is certain that the mother who truly loves her child will never pull her daughter into this muddy water. The most difficult person in the world to please is the parents "PUA has three treasures: selling misery, belittling, and being good for you." "All children, by nature, want to please their parents and get their affirmation. When the feedback he gets is complaining, denying or even hating, he will not suspect that his parents are at fault, but will be confused and deny himself. A sad fact is that in the process of growing up, the most difficult affirmation for us to obtain often comes from our parents, and it seems that no matter what we do, our parents will not be satisfied. Even successful as Jiang Wen, when talking about his mother, he said: "My mother, there is always a kind of unhappiness, my relationship with my mother is not good." ”
The vast majority of parents of the previous generation feel that it is a shameful act to openly display love for their children, and they prefer to choose a subtle way, even if this way may not be understood by the child for a long time, and even cause harm to the child's psychology. Our parents call this "good intentions." As a mother, I don't want my child to understand his mother's good intentions after several years, I hope that he will know clearly that his mother loves him now. The cowardly child's "Jedi Strikes Back" is worse than most children, and Rong Ting's suffering is worse. Because what her parents wrapped in their hearts was not her love, but the control and kidnapping of their children. Only children who have been loved can understand their own value, learn to cherish themselves, and feel love to learn to release love. Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said: "The essence of parent-child relationship is dialogue and collaboration, not control and kidnapping." "There are all kinds of speculations about Rong Ting's online voice, some people say that she was bribed by her father's capital and was eager to draw a line with her mother, I prefer to believe that this voice is an outbreak of her emotional backlog for a long time, in a tragic and decisive way, to draw a line with the past of being used and kidnapped, breaking through the limitations of the original family." This seemingly weak girl, in this family war, finally learned to clench her fists and protect herself.