Some people say,
Adults, however, account for age, body shape,
the existence of empirical advantages,
To talk about "being human",
What children teach adults,
No less than adults teach children.
01
Like a child, you can be vulnerable and you can be sad.
Adults, sometimes sit too straight. What about the child, "When I'm happy/Blossom/When I'm not happy/Leaves fall."
It is not that the more you will not be hurt by anything, the more mature and powerful you are.
Express your dissatisfaction and let the other person know your attitude clearly, so as to stop the words and deeds that make you uncomfortable.
"I'm a little sad right now" "The way you just treated me, I don't like it", the child blurted out, minute by minute to let you know how they felt.
You, don't hold back, don't always lick your wounds when no one is there, try to be like a child, directly use words to show your discomfort and displeasure.
02
Sleep like a child and get a good night's sleep (basically).
We have to accept the reality that the first thing we abandon is the sleep that ensures that life works properly and that people need it most.
Children who regain their energy will be excited about the various arrangements that follow the day. As adults, we should also maintain this mentality.
With the help of long sleep and small naps, feel the "Ha! Anything is possible today." Rest well, full of energy; energetic, can control their own world.
Satisfying sleep is one of the best "elixirs" in the world, making people more interesting, smarter, friendlier, and prettier.
03
Like a child, the heart is attached to the person in front of you.
Have you found anything? When the child looks at you and talks to you, it seems that there is only you and him in this world.
He makes you feel a sense of presence: he smiles when you smile; he frowns when you frown; he nods when you nod.
He resonates with you in a simple, direct way, not patting you on the back, not echoing you, but really wanting to fit into your world and stay close to you.
This kind of concentration is really a very intimate thing: even if he does not necessarily fully agree with you and understand what you are saying, it makes you feel infinite tenderness and respect.
He only has you in his eyes, and this moment of his belongs only to you.
04
Act like a child and perform ritual magic on ordinary days.
What does it matter if you name a flower or a path you like, even if it's just a strange stone, what is important is that after you connect, you get the joy that is exclusive to you, and from then on there is a small flower, a strange stone that is different from you.
Ritual is the "magic" that makes this moment different from another, makes this one different from another.
Find an excuse to reward yourself, make up a reason to decorate your life, create a sense of ceremony for yourself, make the "ordinary" become "extraordinary", and let the ordinary days shine.
To be different is to be interesting in life.
05
Like a child, anger is really born, and reconciliation is really good.
In contact with children, the most profound point is that after the child is angry, he will soon lose his temper.
"Saying it immediately when you are angry is actually to eliminate the disaster in advance for everyone." Anger helps you figure out your bottom line and make yourself and others understand what's important to you.
Expressing it in a way that does not hurt people is also to reduce the psychological burden for yourself, rather than self-blame whenever you have any emotions.
Forgiveness is when you have the courage to let go, to turn the page on the matter, to forgive and distract you from the matter of anger and to turn your attention in a more meaningful direction.
Instead of wasting time on people who make us feel that we are not good enough, what we have to do with those people is to forgive their misfortunes and ignore them.
When you choose to forgive and your mindset is restored, you can say the words like a child: "Next, what do we play?" ”
06
Like a child, stop for "moments".
Whether you're staring at a cloud in a daze, or walking aimlessly and graffiti, you have to leave yourself some "wasted time" and "play time".
We should all have something that we can devote ourselves to, maybe it won't make you more money, get more likes, but it can make you find yourself and become 100% of yourself.
There is no utilitarian use, but it makes you live a tasteful life, which is precious.
When you're wandering, you're probably going to untie the knots that are often hard to let go of and find better answers.
07
Like a child, I can't lose my curiosity and enthusiasm for the world.
In the eyes of children, the mountains are very high, the sea is very wide, and everything in the world is both a problem and an answer, and there are no boundaries.
They marvel, they wonder, they don't know what they "deserve" and are unrestrained.
For the sake of freshness and fun somewhere, the speeding children do not understand what "lying flat", "swinging rotten" and "Buddhist system" are.
We love to see children try new things, new experiments, even if they mess up. Because we know they keep learning in this way. In their place, there are only departures and explorations.
As adults, we always remember the negative experiences we have experienced and warn ourselves of the impossibilities.
But what if we deliberately forget these negative experiences and go to work and live?
What if we could be like fearless children, "a blank piece of paper"? Is there something else possible in life?
08
Be like a child, always loyal to yourself.
As novices in this world, children are neither tired nor guarded, and are not eroded by society and expectations.
They make decisions based entirely on primal intuition and instinct, and usually at that moment of decision, be their true selves.
Come to think of it, the definition of the highest success is actually to be the most authentic self.
If we don't respect our truest selves, we make bad decisions that will eventually make us feel worse, and then make more mediocre life choices, paralyzing ourselves with "habituation" like "everyone is like this."
Is this life?
Strive, be like a child, know what you like and don't like, and follow your heart more, and live as comfortably and steadily as possible.
Promise yourself: don't give up being yourself.
Promise yourself: support yourself unconditionally and be true to yourself.
09
Live like a child in the moment.
Most interference with the present comes from the "past" or "future."
However, the more you worry about a problem, the more serious the problem will be. You can't reduce your worries by worrying.
Our lives are passing by minute by minute.
There is no way to go backwards, there is no way to fast forward. But the children are not stressed about it because they can grasp the moment.
The key is, the moment.
Pay attention to the happiness of the moment, and the happiness will continue. If you feel good, you are looking forward to this moment, then this moment is full of hope.
While there are many things to wait for, when you want to have dessert or hug someone, you want it now.
Life is supposed to be like this. You take good care of "today", and "tomorrow" is naturally not thin for you.
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