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In this life, people are a way home.
From the moment we come into this world, life enters the countdown, like sand in an hourglass, which will only fall slowly, without stopping for a moment.
Everything you encounter and see will eventually disappear one day. Just like those we love, we have disappeared into the smoke and clouds of history, covered by endless rolling red dust. Of course, this includes you and me.
A famous person once said that being born from the womb of a mother and then slowly finding your way home is life.
When it comes to "going home", many people think of the family of the moment. In fact, what can be seen is shallow, and only what cannot be seen is the most real.
The home on the surface is a building in the red dust and a family that is formed by the combination of kinship. The real home is the other shore of the heart we yearn for, the ultimate destination.
From black hair flowing, to white hair, that is the change of time; from strong and strong, to faltering, that is the polishing of the years; from the known way to the unknown return, that is the result that you and I cannot escape.
It can only be said that people, who have lived to a certain extent, are actually not far from returning home.
02
The 70-year-old lamented that after doing these things, he had to leave.
The old leader Liu Dabo is 70 years old this year, but he feels that he has no regrets in this life and is satisfied. Gradually, he didn't care about life or death.
When he was young, he was actually a person who was particularly afraid of death. In his opinion, it is better for him to live for another five hundred years, so that he can better realize his wishes.
However, when he was 40 years old, he said goodbye to his parents. At that moment, he felt that in a world without parents, life seemed to lack a certain meaning.
Gradually, Uncle Liu also saw through what merit and fame and fortune, what great wealth and nobility, are just passing clouds. In the face of time, everything seems to have little value.
In the indifferent workplace life, Uncle Liu also went to a certain position, anyway, became the leader of the unit, both fame and wealth, food and clothing, at least can be safe and stable for a lifetime.
Time flies. As his children grew up and started a family, he and his wife were slowly left in the family. In fact, Uncle Liu is already particularly satisfied.
Sending away his parents, raising his children to grow up, fulfilling his wish for peace and stability, and trying to feel in a high position. At this time, what do people have to pursue? There is no need to live another five hundred years.
03
From Uncle Liu's experience, we can see that people, after doing these few things, are almost going home.
First thing: Farewell to our parents, we are close to home.
There is a way that "parents are here, and there is still a way to come." When your parents go, there is only one way back in life. ”
When our parents were still there, we didn't feel anything, it was almost like our usual life anyway. You know, with the protection of our parents and the care of our parents, we will feel warm and happy.
However, when the parents gradually left, the feeling of "loneliness" and "indifference" came to mind - life, in fact, is not a big deal.
Where there are parents, it is the most beautiful family in the red dust. And where there are no parents, even if the hometown is still there, it is no longer the hometown.
The second thing: raise the child and we're close to home.
Everyone will become a parent. We got rid of our children and ended up being parents of others. One generation nurtures a generation, and one generation gives a new generation hope.
When the child is not yet grown up, we are particularly worried about the child, afraid that he will be bullied, afraid that he will not study well and have a bad future. This is what we often call "raising a child for a hundred years, worrying about ninety-nine years."
Once the child grows up, can protect himself, find the person he likes, and start a family, then our wishes will not be satisfied? Even if they stand on their own, isn't that what we expect?
Every parent just wants to watch their children slowly become independent and no longer worrying.
04
The third thing: to fulfill your wish, you are not far from home.
Some people's dreams are to live as they please; some people's dreams are to do what they like, listen to their hearts, and live completely freely.
Everyone has different wishes, and this world is a space made of wishes. Regrets are inevitable, and wishes can be fulfilled as much as possible. When everything is done, what else do we have to linger on?
The younger the person, the more nostalgic they are in this world of flowers and flowers. The older the person who gradually sees through, the more he feels that the human world is like this, and if he fulfills the wishes in his heart, there will not be much pursuit.
The fourth thing: the mentality slowly becomes calmer, and it is not far from home.
Grumpiness in the early years, composure in the middle age, indifference in the later years. People's desires, from the peak of the past to the trough of old age, show that people's pursuit of life is gradually decreasing.
Ordinary people who are greedy for money and lust slowly live into plain and simple appearances; ordinary people who are arrogant and indomitable slowly live into the appearance of no longer arguing. This is not a transformation of human nature, but a maturity driven by time.
Going home with an indifferent attitude and leaving with a mature wish is the last moment of ordinary people's regrets.
That's all.
Wen/Shushan has deer