Hope son Jackie Chan, hope female Chengfeng is what every parent wants to see, some parents hope that their children can learn well, good health, everywhere top-notch, everywhere capable, so there are many requirements for children, not only in terms of learning to meet their own requirements, but also in life to be able to take perfect care of themselves.
However, the reason why children have adolescence, rebellious period, and childhood parental education is closely related, although children are small, but they also have their own ideas, the more parents discipline too strict, the child's rebellion is more fierce.
Just like recently, a woman in Anyang, Henan Province, posted a video on the social platform, the video is two essays written by her daughter, in which the woman saw her daughter's hatred and disgust for herself, but also reflected on what kind of reasons can make children have such a strong dislike of themselves.
It is reported that the girl wrote a total of two essays, one titled "My Mother", and the other title is "My Dear Daddy", in the title of the two essays we can see, the girl's attitude and feelings towards mom and dad are different, speaking of dad, girls will use the word dear dad, it is conceivable that girls are more dependent on dad.
The woman is very incomprehensible when she sees her daughter's composition, why is the daughter's attitude towards herself and her father completely different? There is even a sharp contrast, is the daughter so annoying to herself?
In the composition, the daughter did not hide her feelings at all, "My Mother" expressed the daughter's dislike for her mother, and claimed that bad mothers, stupid mothers, black mothers, ugly mothers, all the words that children think are bad are used in the composition.
And the girl said in the text that her mother is black and ugly, there are many acne on her face, and when she grows up, she will not let her mother come to the house, but also raise many wolves and hunting dogs, and if her mother comes, she will bite her at the door.
At the end of the essay, the girl did not forget to explain that her mother always beat her, scolded her, and expressed hatred for her mother.
After this composition was released, it caused a heated discussion among many netizens, perhaps because the mother usually disciplines the child too strictly, and does not tolerate the child to have a slight mistake, and often uses scolding to educate the child, so that the child's psychology gradually becomes somewhat distorted.
On the other hand, "My Dear Daddy" expresses the child's completely different attitude towards mom and dad, in the text, the first sentence that comes into view is that I love my father very much, and then the girl clearly expresses her love for her father.
Because the father is very good to himself and his brother, although he sometimes refuses his own small requests, the girl can feel that the father loves himself and his brother, so the girl is willing to listen to the father.
The two articles represent the girl's completely different views on mom and dad, let's imagine why the girl became what she is today. Can we understand it as a result of the fact that mothers take care of girls more in life but have a short temper and do not have much patience for children, so they cause the phenomenon of scolding at every turn.
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Although the father loves the child, but to work to support the family, there is not much time to take care of the child, can only accompany the child in his spare time and try to meet the child's requirements.
Such a long time, in the child's heart will cause a great contrast, the mother is not beaten or scolded every day, and the father can accompany us to play with us to buy things, over time, this idea will be deeply rooted and difficult to remove.
Of course, these are only our speculations, and we don't know what the specific situation is.
In the final analysis, in this family, parents are not loving, because only unloving parents will cause different psychological effects on the child, if the father first respects the mother in his heart, and puts it into practical action to make the children see, then in the child's heart will also take the mother as the most important part of the family, there will be no such problem.
The more loving the parents, the more loving the children they are raised, and the more they will love their other half when they become a family, because their parents set an example for them and make them fearless in marriage.
What do you think about that?