The cross-border love story of LeThu Phuong, a woman in Hanoi, Vietnam, and her black Nigerian boyfriend, Cee Sijie, surprised many netizens.
One is a beautiful, sexy Vietnamese girl, the other is a hilarious African boy who meets, falls in love, and marries in an unexpected way.
Despite differences in skin color and nationality barriers. The Vietnamese women have been firmly listening to their inner voices, and now that the couple has a lovely child, how do they do it?
Accidental pregnancy after two breakups, from dating
In 2020, a Vietnamese TV show invited and interviewed "cross-border couples." They are The Cultural Counsellor of the Chinese Embassy in the Socialist Republic of Vietnam, the Commercial Counsellor of the Embassy of Vietnam in Beijing and the Deputy Director of the Commercial Department of the Consulate General of Vietnam in Beijing. They have lived and worked in Beijing for many years. Both have their own careers. The couple also shared with the audience many of their stories from meeting and falling in love.
Lai Choi Fong, a native of Hanoi, Vietnam, lost her mother at an early age, so Lai Thi phuong was raised by her father, who did all the work for the family.
On the other hand, Sijie is a foreign language teacher from Nigeria in Africa. His teaching philosophy is different from other teachers, who believe that language learning requires a long-term process to achieve, rather than a task that can be completed in the short term. As of 2022, Sijie has been living in Vietnam for 10 years and speaks Vietnamese very well.
In 2018, Li Qiufang and Xi Jie met for the first time on the pedestrian street. She wears a black shirt, black pants, and black leather shoes. There was a kind of confidence and optimism in her eyes. "My friend asked me out that day, and the two of us were walking down the street when suddenly two foreigners jumped out from behind us and said something joke," Ms. Li recalled.
I tried to ignore it, but my friend answered immediately in English. I want to go out for a walk. I said to him, 'Go ahead!' He said, 'What's that?' ''Do you know why I'm doing this?'' ''That's because I like you. I was getting ready to go home when Sijie said to me, "Do you have time?" Can you sit down and have a drink with me? "Yes.
Ms. Lai said Sijie was the first black person she had met in Vietnam. "The first time I met Sijie, he didn't know much about Chinese, and I spoke a lot of Chinese to him," she says. He liked this young man very much and studied Chinese with him. Because girls in Hanoi used to think of foreigners as white-skinned, tall, handsome, with a high nose and blue eyes.
When the host asked her why she chose a man who was so different from her own impression, Li Qiufang said that she never wanted to marry a foreigner, "At that time, another friend of Sijie really fit my image as a foreigner, but Sijie was more enthusiastic and he also paid attention to me." ”
To put it bluntly, Xi Jie is the one who really cares about her and cares about her, so Li Qiufang chose Xi Jie.
Surprisingly, however, after three weeks, the couple decided to be together. The first time we met was in a bar in Beijing. Sijie said shyly, "I don't know if I'm a good fit." His intention is obvious, he wants to find a friend who can live together. At the second meeting, Sijie offered to kiss Li Qiufang. At the third meeting, Xi Jie made a white face to Li Qiufang.
The two fell in love, but experienced a bumpy road and two breakup crises.
Higg said he had proposed the breakup first. He said he met in a relationship with a girl named "Little A" who was gentle and polite. He felt she was a good fit for him, but was reluctant to accept him. He was in pain. Because the company was going bankrupt, he lost faith in the future of love and the economy.
"It was only a little over two months after the date and I went bankrupt. I wasn't confident enough in my future and I was worried I couldn't give anything to my woman. I am very unfortunate. I had VND 20,000 in my pocket every day and didn't know what to eat tomorrow, so let her break up. ”
It was under such circumstances that Li Qiufang was "broken up".
But a week after the breakup, Li Qiufang Jesse called and asked him to come back. She said, "You must go back." Jesse lit a cigarette and sat down with Li Qiufang to eat. He said to her, "You're one of my favorite girls!" Jesse agreed when he saw Lai's hair on the Feedbook in action. For Jesse, it was a sexy and hot picture. "I looked at it and said, 'Oh my God! Such sexy, perfect big long legs! This is the sexiest woman I've ever met and I definitely want to come back! Jesse said.
However, when the two reconcile, Jesse's business deteriorates, and eventually he has to close the door and prepare to go home.
This time, Jesse severed all contact with Li Qiufang. Jesse's phone was also stolen! Jesse's mother told him that Qiufang had left her. Jesse's parents believe that Qiufang left for Jesse. Jesse was sad. Jesse blocked Qiufang's phone and Facebook, telling her, "I don't love you anymore," despite her insistence.
On the day he had to return to Nigeria, Jesse found himself unable to afford even a plane ticket. He thought: Isn't this his own money? If it is your own money, you should buy him a ticket. But he was reluctant to buy him a plane ticket. When Li Qiufang found out, she immediately took the money to help Jesse send him off. That was the last day the couple had sex.
However, a month after Jesse returned, Li Qiufang found out that she was pregnant! Until then, she had always thought that having a baby was just a dream. Her husband is an engineer who travels far and wide every day. She works for the company. She stood there with a pregnancy test stick in her hand, almost telling her boyfriend the news.
Jesse had no intention of having children, but when he heard the news, he suddenly burst into tears.
"So I have children now, what should I do?" Lee asked Jesse.
Jesse immediately replied, "What else can I do, I will never let anyone else be the father of my children!" ”
So they decided to compound. Accidents and fate brought them back together.
Li Qiufang's friends did not understand why a beautiful and intelligent girl like her should entrust herself to a poor African boy.
Next, the two went to see Qiufang's father to discuss marriage, and Qiufang's father asked him bluntly: "Can you make money for your wife and children?" ”
Jesse, who was facing bankruptcy at the time, wasn't sure about the future, but he immediately replied: "Yes!" ”
Later, he chose to prove himself with actions. He's a guy with ideas and he likes to do things with internet thinking. He said he was lucky because his life and work were all about the internet. He has a new Youtube video number and works in the new media industry. Jesse's career is getting better because he used to be an English teacher.
Father Li was also impressed by his sincerity and agreed to let his daughter be with him.
Decide to have a baby in the water when everything is ready
After getting back together, it took the couple only 9 months to go from being in love to getting their driver's license. These days, their mood has been very good. Because, they know they have found a happy home. Here's what they think: We haven't had a divorce in 10 years of marriage! We have kids! After getting their driver's licenses, the couple planned to have a child.
Li Qiufang wanted to give birth in water, but the Vietnamese hospital did not have it at the time. "I think water births are safer than traditional births," she said. Because it is a new method that reduces complications and also does not require special equipment. "There is currently no institution in the world dedicated to providing water birth services for women. In Southeast Asia, only Thailand, Singapore and the Philippines have access to water delivery services.
In Western countries, water birth is a more popular method of childbirth, people can give birth at home, but also in the hospital. Water delivery has the following advantages: 1. Safe, comfortable and convenient. 2. Save manpower and material resources. 3. Pregnant women are not affected by cold stimulation and radiation, which is conducive to postpartum recovery. 4. Reduces the chance of infection during the puerperal period. When pregnant women give birth in water, they will "half lie and half sit" in warm water.
The water level may be at the waist of a pregnant woman, and the water temperature is always around 37 degrees Celsius. When a pregnant woman enters the delivery room, the water temperature is also maintained at this temperature until the fetus is born. The water temperature during this time is automatically adjusted according to changes in maternal body temperature. Under normal circumstances, the water temperature is maintained at about 36 degrees. When giving birth in water, this warm water is like amniotic fluid in the womb, and the pregnant woman needs to relax and then give birth under the guidance of a midwife doctor.
At 35 weeks of pregnancy, the couple decided to go to Thailand to give birth in the water. Because Thailand is one of the cleanest and warmest countries in the world, they plan to choose a cool and comfortable place to give birth. Here, neither pregnant women nor newborns are affected by external factors. At the time, the couple decided to move to Thailand for two months.
With 10 days to go before the delivery date, Ms. Li Qiufang had some prenatal reactions. Her husband was on a business trip and was the only one in the family. In order to make the child's birth smooth, they decided to send the baby to the best local medical center for prenatal diagnosis and treatment. But doctors rejected the plan. On the day of their due date, the couple waited at home for 10 hours before being admitted to the hospital, where they were both ready to give birth underwater.
33 hours after admission, Li Qiufang's uterus was completely open. In the process she experienced pain, labor, and even fear. "I was worried that it might affect my baby's healthy development and growth, so I never went to the doctor." Li Qiufang told reporters. However, at this moment, an accident occurred - because the baby was too big, especially the 4.6 kg head, Li Qiufang tried for 30 minutes, but the baby's head still did not come out.
The doctor who delivered Li Qiufang said that this would not work, and she would have to have a caesarean section.
Li Qiufang and Jesse were shocked to hear the doctor say this. They know they're pregnant! The doctor told them that it was a small life called Fat Mound. Jesse was so happy to see the doctor, so he quickly carried him to the hospital for examination. The doctor said: The baby has been born! Despite this, Li Qiufang was still afraid of caesarean section. Jesse couldn't believe that the fat baby was going to have a caesarean section!
Then they were told: "If the delay exceeds 30 minutes, the baby may need emergency treatment!" ”
Despite careful preparations, the couple underwent a caesarean section.
Jesse was allowed to enter the operating room with his wife, Qiufang. When the doctor first started the operation, Jessey did not dare to look at it, and could only hold his wife's hand. The operation was a success, and the doctor said to him, "You're ready." He said, "Can I do it with confidence?" When he was in the operating room, there was a lot of pressure.
At first, the doctor just made a small opening in Qiu Fang's stomach. Because she was a chubby woman, the surgery was done very small. After the operation, the doctor said that the wound was smaller than before. I think it might be because the incision is too small. So I expanded it. But I found it impossible, so I had to make a bigger incision.
At this point, Jesse had only one thing on his mind: "Don't let me lose my wife!" ”
During the operation, the doctor continued to press Qiufang's stomach until the baby was born.
The birth of the child immediately relieves Jesse of all the stress. Jesse's mom and dad are busy and have to do a lot of things for her every day. One day, Jesse and his mother went to the hospital to check on their bodies, and the doctor told them that Jesse was completely normal and could continue to receive treatment. Jesse looked at the newborn baby and felt he had more things to worry about, and he called his baby Upi and said, "Look at this baby! There's nothing wrong with this baby, it's my baby, it's my baby's little face..."
Watching his wife get pregnant and give birth, Jesse both respects women and understands how hard it is for women to be mothers. "I know how I should treat my husband, but I still want him to feel my love for my children," she said. Jesse's dad was an excellent professional manager. He loves his son. Old Jesse wasn't ready to be a father. Now Jesse discovers that having a child is also a gift from fate, and the arrival of the child has brought him a lot of good luck to his work and life.
In the summer of 2020, the pair were over a year old in an interview on a TV show in Vietnam.
Little Upi was born like her father Jesse, but as she got older, Little Uppi became more and more like her mother. Jesse told him that little Upie looked as cute as his father and was particularly fond of eating apples. "I think my dad is more attractive than my mom." Little Upi smiled and said to his mother. Jesse said her daughter is a smart and beautiful baby who combines the beauty of her parents.
Now Little Upi always brings joy to Jesse and Qiufang.
Looking back now, Jesse wished he had had children sooner, and maybe his life would have been different. It was a weekend in the United States, and Jesse and his wife went to a private hospital on Fifth Avenue in Manhattan, New York, for a medical examination. The doctor told them that Jesse had a rare form of cancer, breast cancer. Jesse watched her daughter grow up, more and more like a little princess, and she turned her head and quipped, "Husband, why are you so ugly?" ”
The baby becomes a bridesmaid for a family of three on a luxury yacht
More than two years after getting their driver's license, their daughter, Little Upi, is able to walk again, but the couple is not yet married.
Weddings will be late but not absent. In 2020, Jesse finally gave Qiu Fangmeng a wedding. In this wedding, she will spend an unforgettable and romantic evening with QiuFang! The wedding was co-hosted by Jesse and Qiufang. Throughout the wedding process, Qiu Fang has been accompanying them. The wedding was held on a luxury yacht in Halong Bay, Hanoi, Vietnam.
Emperor Akihito lamented, "My husband knew that I did not want to rush to the wedding for the sake of a legitimate father, so he said he could wait until my daughter was born before the wedding for me." ”
Qiu Fang believes that rushing to get married because of pregnancy is "shameful" and "not funny". After getting married, she began to worry about whether she would be able to give birth smoothly. She said: "If it doesn't go well, I won't get married again because I don't want to leave myself with regrets." Even if it is only a few weeks before and after the wedding, it will bring unnecessary stress and fatigue to Qiufang.
"I know how tiring it is for a mother to be a bride while feeding her child! I know I have limited abilities and can't withstand that much pressure... So I chose to compromise and only get married when I was healthy, beautiful, and ready! ”
Qiu Fang is also very sensible, and can think of her husband Jesse - "now married" is too much of a financial burden for him! Jesse is a very good-looking, very capable man who has achieved good results in his work; his wife Qiufang is a gentle and virtuous person, and there is no contradiction or conflict between them. He had just become a father and couldn't bear the extra burden of "how to have a meaningful marriage with the woman I love".
Qiu Fang believes that not only women, but any man is eager to hold a "fairytale" wedding for his own woman. "If you can have a romantic and intimate wedding later this year, it will be the happiest day of my life." Qiu Fang said: "This is exactly the way of life I want. "If you had rushed to a simple wedding two years ago, you would have regretted it, and I would have blamed myself for getting married and having children like most people..."
In addition, when Qiu Fang first gave birth to her daughter Xiao Wupi, she gained weight and overweight. Qiu Fang was going to lose weight, and she felt that she was too fat. In order to lose weight, Qiu Fang began to diet, which she thought would make her body fat, but it had no effect. So she began to try other ways to control her weight. Husband Jesse took her to the gym because he knew she wanted to be the prettiest bride she could be.
When Jesse's mother discovers that Qiufang is pregnant, she wants him to take her back to Nigeria for the wedding. Jesse's mother is a nurse and she wants her son to have a beautiful bride at the wedding. Jesse's father is the owner of a company, and he also wants his son to attend the wedding. He wanted his son to be happy and joyful. But Jesse didn't listen to his mother.
"He's back in Vietnam and it's convenient to be with me," Ms. Qiu said.
Jesse has lived in the United States, the United Kingdom, and many other countries. He has studied in different countries and traveled around the world. He has his own unique views and insights into each region. His life is full of legends. He is one of the greatest photographers in the world. Every time he goes to a new place, he meets countless people and socializes with them.
However, it wasn't until Vietnam that he met the girl he wanted to marry. "Her name is Qiu Fang, she is my college classmate, and we are a very good pair of friends." Jesse said, "We often eat, dance and chat together. Jesse asked Qiu Fang what was her last name? "You are my daughter," Jesse said to Qiu, "Vietnam is my second home." ”
Jesse said: "I want her to find happiness again at the worst time when I have nothing and my life is at its worst, but Qiufang is still waiting for me to spend with her. ”
Jesse wrote to his wife on their anniversary: "Someone said how can two people from different continents and different borders come together, love each other and be happy? I don't really know what's going to happen, but I do know one thing. You told me what true love is! ”
After learning that Qiufang is pregnant, Jesse becomes more aware of her duties as a husband and father and works hard.
Now, Jesse has a steady job, a successful weight loss wife and a beautiful and lovely daughter, little Upi. Jesse lived happily ever after, working as an administrative manager at a prestigious company in New York. Jesse's son, who is also in the third grade of elementary school, loves the family very much. He could finally give his woman a dream wedding in Halong Bay.
At the wedding, Qiu Fang was wearing a wedding dress weighing more than ten kilograms, but she almost fell off the stairs. Qiu Fang's daughter Jesse was also bruised and swollen. Just as she panicked and put her foot on her skirt, her husband, Jesse, reached out in time.
Qiu Fang smiled and said, "Before the wedding began, I practiced the method of going downstairs five or six times, and also practiced how to lift my skirt to look beautiful, but I didn't expect an accident at the last moment." ”
At the same time, the groom is dressed and full of energy. He is an old driver with many years of driving experience and has also been a driver. But in this moment, like a child, he poured all his energy into the wedding. In addition to the bride and groom, there is a special person at the wedding: their daughter, little Upi.
On this day, little Upi wears a white dress, held by her mother, and "marries" her father, Jesse.
The "Threesome" attracted attention online and received numerous blessings.
Qiu Fang, 30, looks beautiful and radiant at the wedding Her husband is a civil servant who works for a company. Their marital happiness index is extremely high, and both have a lovely daughter. On the wedding day, Qiu Fang and her husband sat together in the wedding banquet hall. full of joy. I could tell her that she was glad she could safely hand herself over to her husband and step into her own "moat."
The baby Whooping in One is the best "BOSS" in the family, QiuFang said: "Accidents like Upi are bigger bosses for me... She should wear a beautiful wedding dress, put on lipstick, and 'marry' her parents. ”
Carefully raising children, couples strive to run small families
After marriage, the two continued to raise their young daughter and worked hard to run their own small family.
Online, Qiu Fang shared her baby's diet routine after weaning.
Watching Qiu Fang cook for the little girl WuPi, netizens were amazed by Qiu Fang's cooking skills. Seeing the "milk powder" she made on the Internet, everyone left a message: "Mom, I made so many delicious things, why didn't I let the baby eat it?" They praised Qiu Fang for not only making "milk powder money" outside, but also taking care of her own children inside.
She also bought all kinds of plates and plates for the children. "The most children eat in kindergarten is bowls," she said. There were a lot of small broken glass in the bowl, so I bought them a small glass. The child's mother told reporters: This is her baby! Netizens found that these "eating equipment" are not cheap.
Qiu Fang is a fan of Korean brands, and most of the dishes she buys are from South Korea. She said: "The plates bought in Korea are of very good quality and there are no defective products. And it's also cheap. These are made of high-quality materials, and the quality of the products is guaranteed.
For example, Ruco's super cute bunny dinner plate set sells for VND 2.4 million (about US$672).
This rabbit-shaped tray comes with a bunny cup bunny cup with a milliliter scale line for easy filling of water, as well as soup, porridge and other things for the baby to eat. In addition, you can also let your baby make some small foods by himself, such as vegetable salad made of carrots and snacks made of corn husks. This rabbit-shaped tray is a great helper for moms! Isn't it beautiful and practical? Plus, the camera comes with two spoons and a silicone knife for easy baby cutting.
Little Upi inherited her mother's white skin and her father's dark skin, so as she got older, her skin tone changed—from white to chocolate-colored hybrid.
Little Upi is in good health, rarely gets sick, and rarely goes to the hospital after birth. He likes to do all kinds of handicrafts at home, such as knitting rag dolls, making small animal toys and so on. His favorite thing to do is to weave rag dolls, which he considers to be the most creative thing. He likes to play with other people. Little Upi also goes swimming three times a week to explore the world around her.
Fast forward to 2021, la Liga official "CeeJayOffical" YouTube account has more than 900,000 followers.
On the introductory page of the video number, Sijie said, "My dear friends, you guys are so nice! " It's a pleasure to have the opportunity to meet you and bring you a great experience." In the conversation that follows, Sijie will tell us a few things about the show. I hope to bring you a happy feeling. "Welcome to CeeJay's official Youtube channel! I am a presenter, Youtuber, part-time Vlogger and full-time comedian from Nigeria. I currently live and work in Hanoi. If you're watching Youtube, be sure to watch CeeJay's videos, have fun, and relax!"
In April 2021, Jesse posted a hilarious video called "Sharing the Secrets of a Happy Family," in which his wife, QiuFang, lost her short hair and wore a leopard print bandeau dress while her husband Jesse held by hand.
Jesse, dressed in a white tights, listened "respectfully" in his wife's sharing: "The first (happiness secret) is 'I love you so much', the second is 'you listen to me...'" The audience was very happy to hear it, and one of them wrote: "Can't help but laugh..."
In May 2021, Jesse released another video. In the video, the couple and their daughter Little Upi play a guessing game. As they spoke, they used their mobile phones to take pictures of the interaction between themselves and their daughter. During this process, Jesse and his wife, Little Uppi, also mentored the children from time to time. Little Upi looks cute. At first, they sandwiched their daughter in the middle and put her little hands together. But soon they fled, leaving behind their defenseless daughter.
The daughter looked around and walked straight to her father, Jesse; the second time, the daughter followed her father Jesse. When Jesse and her daughter play together, the daughter always holds her father's hand tightly. The same was true of Dad Jesse, who was always happy when he held his daughter's hand tightly. Why? This may indicate that her daughter prefers her father, Jesse, who is happy to come and pick her up.
In September 2021, a user asked Jesse and QiuFang about the routine. Jesse said: "I am an ordinary white-collar worker, I have to go to work every day, and I have to take my children home after work. So, the couple returned to the screen to answer questions online together.
"What do you hate or like most about Jesse?" A user asked Qiu Fang.
Qiu Fang confessed: "I hate a lot of things... Let's take a look. ”
Jesse burst out laughing and said, "Honestly, don't worry about me..."
"To tell the truth, I'm not afraid of you," Qiu Fang said. Qiu Fang is a cheerful, lively and active girl. Once, while chatting with a classmate, she overheard him telling someone about a girl he liked. Qiu Fang asked him why? He said he liked her. After a while, she said, "I hate him for talking too much."
Jesse was surprised to hear that, "What?" she said, "I know my eyes are looking at you, but you may not be able to see." "What's wrong with your eyes?" Jesse asked. "My eyesight is not good! "Occasionally..." he argued quickly.
"No, no, let's go!" As soon as Xiao Liang entered the office, Qiu Fang picked up a cockroach from the table and stuffed it in front of her. Xiao Liang looked at it curiously and asked, "What's going on?" "It's a cockroach!" Qiu Fang interrupted his defense. "He sometimes talks like a machine! A lot of it's everyday life, like we look at each other coldly, do nothing, and then he says, 'Oh! That cockroach looks funny, doesn't it? ’”
Our country has more than twice as many cockroaches as it does. Do you know how it came to be? How does it live?" Are you scared?" I don't know, though, there's a situation you're sure to be afraid of. "What's the situation?" You're scared, right? _"_
Meanwhile, Jesse laughed hysterically as the couple's antics made netizens laugh again.
As we head into 2022, Jesse is still working hard to shoot Vlogs, make videos, and release some videos every day as part-time game streamers.
On January 19, 2022, he posted a passage on the WeChat public account titled "(Behind the Scenes): Uncovering the Truth About Nguyen Tak Si Jie and BomB Million Dollar MV!" I don't have to do anything!! Video (Behind the Scenes)!
On Jan. 21, he released another video, Decoding Vietnamese Girls Vol. 2: Skills Can Be Learned, Age Matters??? Girls Are So Smart Now" in which he interviewed Vietnamese girls as a "street reporter."
conclusion
It's not terrible for men to have no money, and what's even more terrible is that they don't have responsibility. Jesse is a successful middle-aged woman with a rich life, she has a lovely daughter, a gentle and considerate husband and a healthy and intelligent son. Jesse's family was happy, but she wasn't getting the happiness she deserved. If Jesse chooses to give up his wife and child after learning that Qiufang is pregnant, there will be no happiness and sweetness in the future.
Jesse is currently working to maintain and manage his small home, which has more than 960,000 followers on his video account. What does he hope to do for his family through this video number during this special period? How did he do it? What are his plans? Take a look at the author's point of view. I wish the family of three happiness, harmony and beauty forever!