Often see the news, a child in xx area is "twisted ear" by the mother, resulting in lacerations in the earlobe; a child in xx area is "spanked" by the father, resulting in testicular rupture; the child can not do homework, slap and twist the ear...
After becoming a parent, I feel a special heartache whenever I see such news! The child is still so young, what is the unbearable thing that makes parents "enchanted" to beat their children?
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There are always parents who, in the name of love and in the name of discipline, vent their emotions on their children! Some parents believe that ear twisting and spanking are very common means of family "education".
Did you know that this kind of education is not only old-fashioned and outdated, but also can hurt your child's health?
| Screwing the ears and spanking is potentially risky
When parents twist their children's ears and say, "Can't you walk, can't you walk?" Until the child covered his ears in pain, twisted his body to follow, and begged for forgiveness: "Go around..."
Many parents think that twisting the ears is a trivial matter, not a "lesson" to the child at all, and it is still very good.
In fact, children's ears are also very fragile. Twisting the ear will not only seriously damage the child's self-esteem, but also cause the child to have transient tinnitus, and if the force is too large, it will also cause perforation of the femoral membrane and affect the hearing.
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Some parents also believe that the child's ass is a lot of flesh, very strong, a few hits will not hurt the bones, not only can make the ta long lesson, but also will not have any problems.
In fact, the cells on the buttocks are very rich, if the spanking is too heavy, it is easy to have local soft tissue contusions, bleeding, poor blood circulation and so on. For boys, spanking is even more harmful. Because the butt is so close to the testicles, it is likely to hurt the testicles when spanking.
So, don't think that screwing your ears and spanking is no harm, the potential harm is really not small.
| Children can be punished, but they must not be beaten
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The wounds of hitting people will always heal, but the shadows left behind will not be dissipated. Children who grow up in scolding are prone to personality problems such as timidity, loneliness, lack of self-confidence, and violent tendencies, and will be filled with fear or resistance, far from their parents.
Punishing children for housework such as sweeping the floor, wiping the table, and sorting out toys; setting up a thinking corner for children, customizing a punishment time, so that children can reflect on their mistakes while calming down; confiscating children's beloved things or prohibiting certain powers and requirements, such as prohibiting watching cartoons, eating beloved things, playing with favorite toys, etc., these methods are more effective than the punishment method of spanking and twisting the ears, and are more acceptable to children.
The disadvantages of scolding children must be understood by everyone, when educating children, it is easy to scold, do not let a momentary failure, become a lifelong regret! Let us stay in the past when we were beaten as children, and stop using this method to educate our children.
In addition, parents always keep in mind that parents who treat scolding as education cannot teach children who have a good job. Education is a difficult problem, and the grasp of proportion is not simple. When you feel like you're about to explode, it's recommended to stay away for ten minutes and let your family take care of your child to calm yourself down.