Help me! My parents sent me words I couldn't understand...

This article is reproduced from: China Daily

Do you often feel that you and your parents live in a parallel world, always "answering questions" and "chickens talking with ducks", and it seems that you can never understand each other's words.

A foreign brother deeply restored his own and his parents' SMS chat, the whole process was filled with an awkward atmosphere, let's feel it together

"Bring you fried noodles"

Parents: Do u want me to bring u Chinese food?

Mom and Dad: Do you want to bring you some Chinese food?

Me: No I'm good, thanks.

Me: No, thanks

Parents: Why not it's good.

Mommy and Daddy: Why not? It was delicious!

Me: I already ate.

Me: I've eaten

Parents: R u sure?

Mommy and Daddy: Are you sure?

Parents: The chow mein is good I'll get u some.

Mom and Dad: The fried noodles are delicious! I'll bring you some!

Me: I'm full mom.

Me: I'm full of mom.

Parents: Ok beef broccoli.

Mommy and Daddy: Okay, beef broccoli fried noodles

Me: I'm full.

Me: I'm full

Parents: Ok I bought u chow mein.

Mommy and Daddy: OK! Brought you fried noodles

You say I guess

Guess right and you win

Dad: Grill.

DAD: BBQ.

Me: What?

Me: What?

Dad: Can u?

Dad: Are you okay?

Me: Are you asking me to grill?

Me: Are you asking me to make a barbecue?

Dad: Yes.

Dad: Yes!

Me: Okay that's fine. Do we have the stuff or should I go buy?

Me: Okay, yes! Do we have materials or do we have to buy them?

Parents: OK.

DAD: Okay.

Me: Okay to what?

Me: "Okay" what?

This dad who loves to reply "OK" has a funny story...

Me: Grill.

Me: Eat bbq!

Dad: R u hungry?

Dad: Are you hungry?

Me: Yeah I'm about to leave.

Me: Yeah, I'm getting ready to go out to eat.

Dad: Don't forget the potato.

Dad: Don't forget the potatoes.

Me: What potato?

Me: What potatoes?

Dad: OK.

DAD: Okay.

Who is CT?

Mom: Left garage open Donna was there.

Mom: Leave the garage door open, Donna is here.

Me: Who's Donna?

Me: Who is "Donna"?

Mom: CT.

Mom: CT.

Me: Who's CT?

Me: Who is "CT"?

Mom: iPhone.

Mom: Mobile phone.

Me: Are you Okay?

Me: Are you okay?

In order to avoid this situation of not being able to understand, the bilingual jun found some communication skills suitable for parents to learn, to help everyone better chat with their elders and take a look.

▌ Advice for parents

Ask them what they need when they want to talk to you. Do they want advice or help solving a problem? Or do they simply want you to listen to them?

Ask them first if they want to communicate, whether they want advice or help solve problems, or simply want you to listen.

Be clear when giving them information. Be consistent and don't contradict yourself so that they'll be clear on what you're asking of them and there won't be any confusion.

Convey information clearly, coherently, without contradicting yourself, and let your child understand what you are asking them to do, thereby reducing misunderstandings.

▌ Advice for children

Instead of saying, "You don't care about me at all", try this: "I feel really upset when [insert issue here]."

Instead of saying "you don't care about me at all", try saying "I was sad when you XXX." ”

When you use "I" statements, you're taking responsibility for your own emotions, instead of trying to "blame" them on someone else. When you use the "you" word, it can make the other person feel attacked, and so they'll be far less likely to listen to you.

The expression that begins with "I" is not blaming others, but focusing on one's own emotions. If you start with "you," it will make other people feel targeted and therefore less willing to listen to your ideas.

Choose your time wisely. You're less likely to get the outcome you're looking for when the person is feeling stressed or is busy. Find a moment to schedule a time and place for your talk.

Pick an appropriate time. If you look for the other person when they are anxious or busy, they are unlikely to get the desired results. Arrange the time and place of the conversation in advance.

What other funny moments did you have in your communication with your parents?