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Do you feed your child or let the child eat on his own? How old is your child to start eating on their own?
About feeding, is an eternal problem, we all hope that children can eat themselves, but watching children eat when the time comes, not attentive, not good, look at it does not want them to eat themselves, so many parents will choose to feed their children to eat.
I remember when my family was a child, I was supposed to eat by himself, but then I saw that it was really painful to eat, more painful than eating by myself, and finally decided to feed him.
But when it was time to go to kindergarten, I found that I had been feeding and could not do it, so I began to think about letting yiyi eat by myself.
But during that time, it was even more difficult, he didn't want to eat by himself, he thought I could feed him, why did he have to eat by himself, at that time, teaching him to eat, it was really a difficult thing.
In fact, for many mothers, some children can eat well at the beginning, feeding is not good, but some children can not eat well, many times, when eating, either running around or can not sit obediently.
Such a child, allowing himself to eat, is really too painful.
Why do parents like to chase after food?
Some people say that don't feed the child, he will eat when he is hungry, but when we really don't feed, you will find that the child does not eat well.
I once saw such a scene, a grandmother with a child, the mother did not let the feeding to eat, so let the child eat by himself, but after the child ate two bites, he said that he was full and did not want to eat again.
But in fact, the child did not eat enough at all, but ate a little, and then kept playing, seeing what snacks were halfway through, eating what, and at night, the child ate two bites and said that he was full.
Before going to bed, I still see what snacks I eat, and I face my children like this, and my friends are very depressed.
Because it is not good to always let the child eat snacks, but the child cannot eat enough, so it is not the way to go.
Finally, let the grandmother feed the child, and at this time, the child likes to run and play, wherever he goes, the grandmother will chase wherever he goes, and wherever he goes, the grandmother will feed him.
In fact, chasing to feed the child is not to let the child eat, but to be afraid of not being good for the child's health, so we always chase after the child to feed the food.
Feeding is actually a bad habit
In fact, we all know that it is a very bad habit to chase and feed like this, but we don't know how to help our children to correct it.
For example, sometimes we ask our children to sit at the dinner table, but the children run away without eating a few bites.
Faced with such a situation, we are very broken, very painful, always yelling at the child is not a long-term solution, so finally made a compromise, choose to feed the child to eat.
We know that this is not good for the child, the child does not have a good habit, but there is no better way to chase and feed like this.
Generally speaking, when the child is 8-12 months old, he can grab something and eat it by himself, and then slowly the child can feed himself with a spoon, and finally learn to use chopsticks.
This is actually a gradual process, and in this process, we need to emphasize to the child again and again, need to be patient, need to accompany the child with heart, so that the child can learn to eat independently.
Once the child can eat on his own, we adults can also eat well, and even if the child goes to kindergarten, we don't have to worry.
How to let children eat on their own?
In fact, it is a good thing that children can eat independently, because when children eat independently, they can not only exercise the child's hands-on ability and the child's independent ability, but also exercise the child's fine movements.
However, training children to eat independently is a slow and long process that requires us to be patient.
What do we do at this point?
(1) First of all, be patient
Let children eat independently, the most important thing is to be patient, if we have patience, children can slowly learn to eat independently.
But if we don't have patience, the child is not willing to learn.
For example, we let the child eat, the result is that we have eaten for a long time, the child still eats a little, will not have the patience to wait, at this time anxious to help the child to feed, for a long time, the child does not love to eat by himself, we can not cultivate the habit of the child eating independently.
(2) Do not urge the child
When the child eats by himself at the beginning, it must be very slow, at this time we do not urge the child, the more urgent, the more the child will feel that he is not doing well, he can not eat independently, there is frustration in his heart, so he is not willing to eat by himself.
And what we really have to do is to wait patiently for the child, even if the child eats slowly, do not urge, but carefully accompany the child.
(3) When the child spills the rice, do not scold
When children learn to eat on their own, they only want to eat well, and they are not willing to spread the rice, if they accidentally sprinkle it, we should not scold the child.
This does not have any benefit to the child, after all, the child also likes to be able to eat by himself, rather than the parents to feed.
Once scolded, they are reluctant to go to dinner by themselves, unwilling to do it themselves.
This is actually a blow to the enthusiasm of children, and there is no benefit to cultivating children to eat independently.
(4) There must be rules
When we have no rules, the child will run around, the important thing is that we do not feed the child, let the child eat by himself, they will not eat well, but eat a little bit and will not eat.
At this time, if we put a lot of snacks at home, we will find that the children are not good at eating at all, because they know that it is okay not to eat, and there are snacks that can make themselves full.
So at this time, we must have rules, let the children eat by themselves, and clearly tell the children that after the meal, there will be no more if they do not eat.
When the child is hungry on the first day, the next day will eat well, so insist on 3-5 days, the child will immediately eat well.
Let the child eat, it is difficult to say, it is simple to say.
In fact, the reason why many parents can't do it is not that their children can't eat, but that we are reluctant to restrain their children, so children will not eat.
When we are willing to restrain our children, we will find that the children can eat well and eat very seriously every time.
Therefore, if we want to cultivate children to eat independently, we need to take it slowly, slowly guide the child, slowly understand and tolerate the child, and let the child learn to eat on his own.
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