Chatting is a compulsory subject, especially how to talk to girls.
Method 1: Instant environment topic method
Whether it is a date or going out shopping, the environment directly determines the communication attributes of two people. For boys, if you can't find the entry point of the topic, it means the end of the date. After all, no one likes a relatively speechless, boring dating environment.
The so-called real-time environmental topic method is to select the topic according to the environment. This is not a one-sided casual talk and perfunctory, but the use of the environment to stir the heart of the girl.
When we pass through the park, we can look for topics based on the environmental status of the park, such as: Did you see the bench over there? I often wondered which gentle and virtuous girl could talk to me here, and you appeared. Or do you know that no two leaves on a tree are the same? But when I met you, I found them the same.
When the two sides are closer because of this earthy love story, we can introduce the topic of conversation, so as to achieve the upgrade of the chat level.
All of the above are earthy love words, but the real purpose is to let both sides let go of tension, so as to achieve the purpose of full communication with each other. If a person is good at observing the environment and can bring the topic into the environment, it will keep the topic of this date continuous, so as to achieve the purpose of chatting without embarrassment.
Method 2: Interest topic method
Everyone's family environment, hobbies, and aspects of exposure are different, which also leads to fundamental differences in values between people. But when we find people with the same interests and hobbies, we are naturally willing to take the initiative to chat more, and we will be more willing to get along with each other.
In the feelings of both sexes, similar interests and hobbies are the criteria for the stability of both parties' feelings. If you want girls to talk to themselves all the time, you must first mobilize the interests of girls, so as to achieve more and more engaged in the more you talk.
Although many people do not believe in constellations, most girls believe in constellations. In other words, if you can understand the attributes of the constellation, you can also understand the topic needs of some girls. For example, one of the characteristics of the sagittarius woman is that she is active and bold, delicate on the surface, and a tomboy on the inside. One of the characteristics of the Lion Woman is to be strong, and the girl who wants to be strong is more sensitive.
These personality attributes can be searched on the Internet, and the focus is not on how to find their personality attributes, but to open the topic through attributes and find the interests of both sides.
What a person likes to do on the weekend can directly determine what the person's dating circle does. If she likes to watch variety shows at home, then your film and television knowledge should be enough. Talk about some celebrity anecdotes, gossip emotions, etc., you must have relative opinions. If this is not the case, do not lead the topic to the variety show she likes, but to the variety show she likes.
If you like to go out and eat food on the weekend, then you have to talk about travel and food. For example: a family's cuisine, what feeling can be eaten, what is the aftertaste of eating, and whenever the season can also be discounted and promoted. There are different ways to travel to a certain place, which can be directly accessed, or you can take a cable car, and so on.
Finding a topic on a daily basis on the weekend is the easiest, and it is also the easiest to see the suitability of both sides.
There is a very significant feature in this regard, that is, to see the dress of the girls. Girls dressed in literary and artistic types, if you don't have a little ideological level, don't talk hard, be good at listening, not set the topic. Girls dressed in fashion, makeup matching will be a topic that such girls are willing to communicate. Girls dressed in quiet clothes, it is a good choice to talk about small animals.
After you understand what you should talk about at first glance, you should ask in time, such as: I have an orange cat at home, do you want to go and see it? Have you seen a recent movie? Telling the story of the Chinese women's volleyball team, Lang Ping is really worthy of being an iron hammer.
The point of this kind of topic is not to ask you what you usually like and like at the beginning, such conversation skills are boring, and it is easy to make girls feel embarrassed.
Method three: social topic method
Each of us is in the social environment, and nature has a different view of social events. So when you chat with girls to a certain point, you can open the next breakthrough according to social topics.
For example, the recent case of a man burning his wife, the case of not being able to ask for a bride price, etc., these are a steady stream of topic sources. But here you need to do topical guidance, otherwise suddenly saying these social topics will only make girls think that this person is very strange.
When the two talk to a certain stage, you can throw out: you see a recent news, it is really not easy for women today. When you meet a man with violent tendencies, no matter how good the feelings, you may fall into a situation of being hurt. You look at the comments below, they are all talking about women's problems, in fact, men's problems are the biggest.
This kind of discourse must be more from the perspective of the woman to throw out the topic, rather than from the perspective of an outsider to tell this matter. After all, when the two sides communicate, being able to tell the problem from the opposite angle is also an excellent way to guide the topic.
Method Four: Emotional Resonance Method
If the chat method that most impresses the girl's heart is, it must be a timely comfort. When girls are sad and sad, it is the time when emotions are most fragile, and it is also the easiest time to express their inner thoughts to others. So you have to pay attention to some small details of the girl to see her mood today.
Once you find that the girl's mood is not good, you must look for the reason in time and throw out the topic: don't be unhappy about something, I will invite you to eat food after work, etc.
Of course, you can also find another way to lead to a similar topic and get emotional resonance from the other person. For example, if you see girls unhappy because of work, you can also say that you are troubled by work. Seeing that a girl is unhappy because of family chores, you have to act as a life coach to help her get out of the predicament.
For example: In fact, I have the same troubles as you, and when I first came here, I was also ignored by my superiors. But then it turned out that the boss was actually a very good person, but we had not yet adapted to the current situation of the company. I'll teach you a few ways to make sure you do more with less at work.
The premise of the emotional resonance method is to take the girl's sad or happy things as a breakthrough, create a topic where the two can continue to chat, and give their own suggestions or methods to solve the problem. Many people are willing to act as a life mentor for girls, eager to solve her problems, but forget the root of solving the problem, is to find emotional resonance and understand her true thoughts.
summary
You may not be rich and handsome, or you may not earn millions a year, but you must be able to talk and look for topics. As long as the chatting skills are achieved, it is not difficult to chase girls.
Of course, whether it is a chat skill or a topic, the fundamental thing is to let both parties fully understand and be more willing to chat. Instead of just looking for a topic, blindly copying and justifying itself.