Such a child may be completely destroyed in the future.
Too many facts and lessons tell us that the final result of free and indulgent family education is failure; the final result of coddling, accommodation, and connivance of family education is tragic.
After all, the child is still a child, the necessary discipline, strict requirements must not be less.
Relying on the child's self-consciousness and autonomy, that is the ideal, not the reality. In reality, how many children can have self-awareness and self-discipline?
Facts have proved that 100% of children are greedy by nature, there is no strict requirements and discipline, by the child's nature, the final result is to completely destroy the child.
Excellent children are "managed" out, not "released".
You can do a survey at will, look at the children who can get into the 985 211 key universities, which are not influenced and influenced by a good family education environment, and which children are not behind the parents who stand strict requirements?
You then investigate those elites and celebrities, such as: Dong Qing, Lang Lang, Li Zekai, Yu Minhong, Ma Yun, etc., to see behind these people, which one does not have a strict family education environment?
Free-range homeschooling is ultimately a failure.
Some children themselves have good conditions themselves, smart and clever, high IQ, and a good foundation, as long as they are strictly disciplined and cultivated with heart, they will certainly be able to become talents in the future.
However, due to the free and scattered education of parents, these children are completely in a state of self-indulgence, not seeking progress, not thinking of making progress, eating lazily, playing the Internet, not studying, watching TV, playing games, sleeping lazily, and eventually degenerating negatively, achieving nothing.
Educating children is like driving a car, and the brakes and accelerators should be used rationally.
The principles of education and managing children and driving are the same.
It is necessary and necessary to give the child the appropriate freedom and space, and it is also necessary to support the child's interests and hobbies, but it must not be brought by the child's nature.
It's like driving, you can't move forward without refueling during the driving process, but when necessary and critical, you must step on the brakes, otherwise you may not be able to control the car.
Educating and managing children is like pruning trees.
Even the best seedlings need to be carefully cultivated, the necessary loose soil, fertilization, watering, weeding, insecticide can not be less, the most important thing is the necessary pruning can not be less.
If the management of children is compared to pruning trees, it is that in the process of tree growth, it is necessary to cut down and cut off those excess branches in time, so as to ensure the healthy growth of trees and eventually grow into real wood.
In summary, children's education is a process of intention, affection and wisdom, and it is inseparable from the necessary discipline and strict requirements at any time. If you don't push your child, you simply don't know how good your child is.