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There was a case in the Obstetrics and Gynecology Department of Xi'an: a girl under the age of eighteen, accompanied by her boyfriend, went to the hospital to check for dysmenorrhea.
At that time, her whole person was in pain, the expression was very sad, the doctor asked her what was wrong, she said dysmenorrhea, the doctor found that this is simply dysmenorrhea, but the baby is about to be born, the reason why she is in unbearable pain is because she has "opened her fingers", and the baby is about to be born.
The obstetrics and gynecology midwife said: She did not believe it at all, told her that she was about to give birth, she still did not believe it, the doctor said that the stomach is so big, can hear the fetal heart, must be pregnant.
The two children originally only brought 300 yuan of money for physical examination, and when they heard that they were going to have a baby, they quickly called their families to raise money.
Because the girl's situation is very special, the hospital opened a green channel for her, entered the delivery room for 20 minutes, and the mother gave birth to a baby boy weighing 6 pounds.
A girl who has never been exposed to relevant knowledge, ignorance is inevitable
Some people don't believe that there are such stupid children in this era, they are already pregnant, they don't know, how stupid is this?
If a girl has never been popularized with such knowledge, ignorance is certain, and nothing seems inconceivable.
When we were in college, there was a girl in the major who was about as ignorant as this girl, and she didn't even know how the child came to be.
It wasn't until after the unexpected pregnancy that she was overwhelmed and, with the help of her classmates, she underwent surgery.
At that time, I thought it was incredible, because there was relevant knowledge in the middle school biology class, and even if my mother refused to talk about it, the biology class would learn it.
Later she told us that the teacher did not talk at all, she did not go to see, her mother never provided relevant things, she asked her mother how she came when she was a child, and her mother said that she had picked it up, and she decided that she had been picked up, and that all the children were picked up.
No one gave her the relevant knowledge, she went to college entirely by her own efforts, she did not have the Internet, she did not have a smartphone, and the ignorance she presented was completely understandable.
Mothers must be guided in place so that ignorant children are more vulnerable
Parents abroad do a better job than parents at home in this regard.
Recently watching Sophie Marceau's "First Kiss", the 13-year-old child has a very good understanding of the sexes, there is a scene in the movie where the classmates are partying at a boy's house, the parents are driving to pick up the child, they will wait outside the door, rather than taking the initiative to take the child out and give the child enough respect.
This is unlikely to happen domestically.
Naturally, it is not that everything is good abroad, and such an educational method has advantages and disadvantages, but one thing is certain, parents will not shy away from talking to their children about "gender", and children will not be so ignorant.
In the play, Sophie's grandmother said a word in the process of talking to Sophie: Girls should not dedicate themselves, but she still respects her granddaughter in the end, although she is very worried, but not too interfering.
This is a good attitude, give the child enough education and guidance, tell the child what is right, and then let the child choose what to do.
We may be able to interfere more, after all, our domestic customs are different from foreign customs, but we must not talk about "sexual" discoloration, thinking that it is a loss of identity to talk about this topic with children.
Parents do not instill this knowledge with their children, and in the future, children will understand this matter through hands-on practice, and then the child will be hurt by both mental and physical aspects.
We don't have to imitate foreign countries, foreign countries are too open to work, not suitable for us, but there are some aspects that are still worth learning.
There are girls in the family, and these educations cannot be less
The child has a gender consciousness after the age of 3, and in the process of taking the baby, he has a deep understanding of this.
After the child is 3 years old, the mother can tell the child about the difference between boys and girls, and after the child has gender awareness, after seeing a person, the first thing to distinguish is whether it is a boy or a girl.
Although there is gender awareness, children have no other ideas about gender, for example, when making friends, they will not use gender as a boundary, and friends will still play together.
However, after the child is around the age of 5, if the guidance is in place, but also affected by the environment, the children will have an obvious behavior: girls are not willing to play with boys, and boys do not care to play with girls.
This is a good sign that the child has a strong sense of gender.
But gender education does not stop there, there is a deeper level of guidance, parents should be patient to wait for the child to grow up, and then give the child a deeper level of guidance and education.
After the child enters puberty, he should have a very good understanding of "how the child came into this world", and if the child still thinks that he was picked up from the side of the road, parents should reflect on their own education problems.
Parents can use a euphemistic way to let the child know the truth of this matter, I saw a way from a picture book, it is very suitable for parents to tell their children about "how the child came to this world", the picture book is described as follows: first of all, a man or any woman, the two of them love each other, and then live together, the child is the crystallization of their love.
As the child grows up and enters puberty, the mother will be responsible for the guidance and education of the daughter, and the father will be responsible for the guidance and education of the son.
Parents should seriously tell their children about the sexes, cultivate a sense of responsibility and responsibility for boys, and let girls know how to protect themselves.
As the daughter grows up, it is necessary for the mother to be like the grandmother in the play, directly tell the child about the boundaries of two people in love, tell the girl "don't dedicate yourself, to protect yourself", I personally feel that although the concept is open, but as a parent, it is necessary to tell the daughter that she cannot have a relationship with the opposite sex before marriage, which is a kind of protection for girls.
Taking a step back, even if you can't do this, you must protect yourself, you can't let yourself be hurt before you get married, and you can't ruin your life because of an unexpected pregnancy.