Because people are selfish, you should never expect the other person to love you as much as you love yourself.
You must accept the fact that boys love themselves more than they love you. It's a manifestation of human nature, including yourself.
Go along with this human characteristic to fall in love, the other person will be more relaxed, and you will be more likely to achieve happiness.
If you ask the boy to put you first as soon as you are in love, you will be disappointed. Whether your mood is good or bad depends entirely on the other person's attitude towards you.
Others determine your joys and sorrows and future, what freedom and respect is there in such a relationship?
The best thing to do is to see men and love as icing on the cake, not as a lifesaver. The former is indispensable to him, the latter is not without him, and the two cognitions determine what kind of love you will talk about.
There is no 100% love at all, don't ask the other party to fully meet your needs, people have inertia, you let the boys change tricks to play romance for you, unconditionally coax you, care for you, boys will also be tired.
After the initial excitement period, most of the boys can not put it down, should expose the shortcomings of the shortcomings, should be busy with their own busy, many girls can not stand it, said that boys have changed their minds.
It's not that the boy has changed his mind, it's that a person can't take care of your emotions 100%, and you want your other half to be good to you, which is a normal need, but if your definition of "good to you" is 365 days of meticulousness, then you are against human nature.
Love is a sexy little game between people, everyone has a dark side, for boys, there must be a "almost on the line" thinking.
You yourself are excellent, that is, you bring your own resources to fall in love, and there is a market everywhere you go.
For example, if you are beautiful, have a good personality, and have high emotional value, the boy will be more likely to fall in love with you, because he is good to you in exchange for these resources.
If you are good to him and exchange your own efforts for his resources, the boy will not take you seriously, and even think that you are taking advantage of him and climbing high on him.
Therefore, the strong person is concerned with "how good I am" in the relationship, and the weak person is concerned with "how good the other party is, how inseparable I am".
In the relationship, we must be strong, respect the realistic side of human nature, become better and better, improve our appearance, figure, knowledge, and connotation, and do not focus on "how to be good to him".
The more you love yourself, the more the boys will love you. The more you love this boy, the more the boy loves himself.
You must not have the idea that "if you love me, you should love all my shortcomings", this is all poisonous chicken soup, and it is against human nature to let others like bad things.
Human nature tends to benefit and avoid harm, you are good to him he will be good to you, you lose your temper with him every day, output negative emotions, his instinct is to want to escape.
There is a kind of girl I call her a "parasitic partner", that is, to put all their joys and sorrows on the boy, like a parasite, just absorb the emotional nutrients of the boy, in case one day the boy's own mood is not good, there is no nutrient for you, the girl continues to ask, the boy will not be able to stand to propose a breakup.
Parasitism is always difficult to consume love, symbiosis can nourish love.
Girls who know how to live together can exude an independent and beautiful temperament, provide emotional nourishment for boys, and boys will unconsciously chase you, afraid that your good girl will be chased away by others.
When you supply energy, it is attractive, and when you ask for too much, everyone wants to stay away from you when they see it, after all, people tend to benefit and avoid harm, and they all like more benefits.
I hope that all the girls, prophets of human nature, will talk about feelings again! Remember, anti-human love is never advisable, and conforming to the law can better grasp men's hearts, understand?
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C