01
Some people have said that in their later years, everyone has the risk of "dancing on a tightrope".
In the stratification of society, we usually summarize it in terms of the "law of two and eight". Twenty percent of the elite owns eighty percent of the wealth of society. Eighty percent of ordinary people can only struggle with twenty percent of their resources.
In fact, people's happiness in their old age is also closely related to the "law of two and eight".
In short, 20% of the elderly can live a particularly moist life, while 80% of the elderly are likely to suffer when they are old, and suffer when they are old.
Ordinary people will only encounter more unfortunate things as they get older. Pain and contradiction will eventually come unexpectedly at the moment when people are old.
In this regard, some people have put forward a concept, is it true that if a person has money, he will be able to be happy in his old age? This, in fact, is not necessarily true. Because the conditions of happiness in old age are not only related to material things, but also related to many factors.
You know, there are too many people who live "pitifully" in their later years, even if he is particularly rich, he can afford to eat the taste of mountains and seas, he can wear splendid costumes, and he can afford to live in mansions and villas...
When people are old, especially after the age of 60, they force themselves to avoid suffering from these kinds of "sins" again.
02
People over sixty to avoid being tormented by "desire" again.
Why does a person live unhappily? I think it is closely related to the desire of a person's heart.
People who have too strong desires are like opening a black hole, anything can be swallowed, and nothing can fill the black hole. In the end, people who desire too much will suffer.
You see that your pension is only more than two thousand, while other people's pensions are five or six thousand, so you envy others and feel that life is unfair. Isn't this the beginning of suffering?
When you see that your own children have no money, and other people's children make a lot of money, then you feel more and more unwilling inside. Doesn't this make yourself "more and more unfortunate" the more you compare?
The so-called "greed is like the sea, and desire is like a deep abyss." ”
A person's greed, like the sea, is surging underneath, and he does not know what is hidden. The slightest carelessness will also leave us buried in the sea of desire.
A person's desire is simply an abyss that is difficult to see the end, as long as we fall, we can't come back.
Therefore, when people are old, they should stop being greedy, just plain and simple.
03
When a person passes sixty, he avoids suffering the sin of being "bottomless" again.
There are many elderly people who always feel that when they are old, they can rely on their families and children. But what they don't know is that their families and children have a day when they can't be trusted.
Man, at all times, must adhere to one principle – self-reliance. If you can, you can rely on yourself for everything, have your own confidence, and the more you live, the more independent you are.
However, modern people always like "wishful thinking", and before they retire, they give money to their children, and even spend it completely. In the end, without money, what confidence do they have to live the second half of their lives?
The source of a person's confidence is not the verbal vows of others, but the money and money in their own hands.
Perhaps, some people will feel that talking about money is too vulgar, and talking about money is too hurtful. But all elegance, all beauty, is piled up with money.
So no matter how old we live, we have to leave ourselves a fortune. Even if we can't spend it, it must have. Because it is the key to resisting the risks of life.
04
When one is over sixty, avoid the sin of "interpersonal relationships" again.
In your opinion, when people are old, is it better to be enthusiastic or a little more affectionate?
In fact, in the matter of dealing with people, we must be enthusiastic when we should be enthusiastic, and we must be thin when we should be thin, anyway, we must "watch the dishes and eat", do not say that we are kind to everyone and warm to everyone.
In the face of those relatives who are generally related, is it really necessary for us to have too much contact with them? Not only is it unnecessary, but it is also necessary to stay away appropriately to avoid contradictions.
Do we need to be so enthusiastic in the face of those emotionless friends or passers-by? In fact, it is better to be indifferent. Avoid your wishful thinking and feed the unfamiliar white-eyed wolf.
There is a saying that in the face of the wear and tear of the years, it is not that we have become emotionless, but that life lets us know that casually waste feelings, which is disrespect for the self.
Therefore, when a person is over sixty, it is better to place his true heart on those who love us. Other passers-by, goodbye on the river.
05
When a person passes sixty, he avoids the sin of "physical and mental torture" again.
Su Shi had a saying: "The boat has since passed away, and Jiang Hai has lived the rest of his life." ”
Being a person, in fact, a dashing point, a positive point, a free point, that is the pursuit we should have. And being too negative is an act that must not be done.
No matter how bitter life is, once we are blinded by a leaf, our hearts become dark, and there is not even a trace of light in our eyes, then the second half of our lives will not be "bleak"?
Moreover, the heart is dark, and the body will become worse and worse. Physically and mentally exhausted, physically and mentally damaged, the more you live, the more miserable you are, that is the greatest misfortune of a person's later years.
Life may be a night, but we must light a lamp for ourselves, even if the day is still not coming, we must keep the "bright light always on", so that the second half of our lives, more warm, less cold.
A good mentality, a good body. That's all.
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