When we face the pressure and difficulties of work, life, emotions and other aspects, we often sigh: how good it would be if we could go back to our childhood!
Especially looking at the current children, how good the material conditions of life are! Yi Lai stretched out his hands and opened his mouth, responding to every need, almost all of them were the little ancestors of the family.
So we think that today's children, especially preschoolers, should be carefree all day, play freely, and live a fairy-like life.
But in fact, it may not be true, this is not, our kindergarten children have a lot of worries!
01 The age is not big, the temper is not small, and the heart is not low
We washed up a little earlier that night than usual, so I simply shaved ahead of time so I could save time the next morning.
After I finished washing, I prepared the washing utensils for my son, took the water, and went to wash my feet.
Usually when I finish soaking my feet, he almost finishes brushing his teeth and washing his face. Then I washed his ass and dried it, and he washed his feet himself and he was done.
As a result, when I came out that day after washing my feet, he hadn't even finished brushing his teeth. I was about to urge him to hurry up, and at the same time I glanced at the washstand, which made me angry.
He opened all the mirrors that had folded from both sides, and the mirrors were all foamed droplets of water, and the water droplets were constantly dripping from the smooth mirror surface. On the large mirror surface, there were spots of foam and water droplets, a white and dirty mess.
"How did the mirror come to be like this?" How did you get it so dirty? When I saw it, I didn't get angry and scolded my son loudly.
My son was really angry when he saw me, and he didn't dare to say anything.
But at a glance, you can guess: he is spraying the mouthwash of brushing teeth into the mirror with his mouth.
It turned out that he was looking in the mirror when he was shaving, and he was also curiously looking in the mirror to brush his teeth, and then he had a sudden idea and spit the brushing water on the mirror.
Seeing that the mirror was spit dirty and messy, I didn't bat an eyelid, directly drove him away, and began to carefully clean the mirror surface.
He slipped into his room (he had been sleeping with us and had never used his room).
When I finished cleaning up and went to call him, I found that he had washed his feet and changed into sandals barefoot.
"Have you washed your ass and washed your feet yourself?" I asked a little surprised.
"Hmmm!" Although my son only answered one word, he could tell that he was gambling and seemed to be fighting back at the reprimand I had just given him.
"So what do you use to wipe your ass and feet?" Because I hadn't gone to the bathroom to help him get his ass and foot towel, I hadn't seen him go in and get it.
Just now, he was still a little reasonable, and suddenly did not dare to say a word. And no matter how much I asked, he didn't answer anymore.
I glanced at the wiping tablecloth next to the stool and I understood everything.
"How can you wipe your butt and feet with a tablecloth?" Do you know clean? At this time, I was angry and annoyed, and I was made to cry and laugh by his operation.
He saw that I was so angry that he wanted to laugh, but he snorted and went directly to the master bedroom to sleep.
Even the convention of reading stories that night was broken, because he had refused, and it seemed that he was really angry and angry.
I thought to myself: you have done something wrong, your temper is still so big, but it is still a bit of a mentality of doing things yourself.
Children get angry, and they don't play with you.
02 Troubles from classmates and friends
One day after receiving his son from school, he repeatedly mentioned to me a classmate and one thing:
When he was queuing up at school to do a nucleic acid test, he obviously did not cut in line, but his classmate said that he did.
At first, I responded with my lips, but I didn't take it seriously, and told him that I didn't cut in line.
But he just looked for an opportunity to talk to me and said it, and he looked innocent and depressed, and it was really a little pitiful to look at.
I didn't think it was perfunctory, so I promised him to contact the teacher to help him deal with the matter after dinner.
Looking at his persistence and loss, I know he has been wronged. But the little friend may just be playing with him, and there is no malice.
So what can I do with it? Wouldn't it be better to really contact the teacher and confront the parents of the child because of such a small matter?
I racked my brains and finally came up with a good way: temporarily change my WeChat avatar to be similar to my son's teacher's WeChat avatar, and then make up a text that is beneficial to my son, pretending to be the teacher's "judgment" to comfort him.
Because he was expecting the teacher's just ruling, his son did not eat well at dinner, and he said that he was full after eating a little. After eating, I didn't watch the cartoon or TV, and my eyes stared at me to eat, hoping that I would contact the teacher as soon as possible.
After eating, I took advantage of the time to send dishes and chopsticks to the kitchen, and quickly wrote a few words on the WeChat of my mobile phone and sent them to myself.
Then I took out my mobile phone in front of my son and read "The Fair Judgment Sent by the Teacher" in a serious and word-by-word manner.
The son listened, and his tightly locked brow finally relaxed, and he smiled happily, laughing out of tears.
He also had to send a voice to thank the teacher, and seeing that he was about to reveal the stuffing, I quickly stopped him from making a voice on the grounds of disturbing the teacher's rest.
After this, the son would still say this, but because of the teacher's judgment and affirmation of him, he seemed much calmer and more relaxed.
It is really not an easy task to solve the troubles of a small child.
03 broken hearts for parents
I have less hair, and frankly the middle and front are basically out of the way, so as long as the weather is not too hot, I wear a hat.
Cold protection is secondary, and the main thing is to cover up the embarrassment of hair loss.
Every time I have close contact with my son, he will sincerely worry for me: "Dad, you have so little hair, do you feel that you have become not very good-looking, afraid of being ridiculed by others?" ”
I thought in my heart: They all say that they are not afraid of being ugly and dogs, and they are not poor, and your boy is Lao Tzu's heart and hating his father.
But on second thought: I am a father, not a mother, and my son can be disgusted. Besides, hair loss is also a fact, my son is right, not to mention that the little guy is also sincerely considering for me.
I replied seriously and frankly: "I can't do anything about my hair less, at first I was afraid of being laughed at by others, but after a long time, I got used to it." ”
Later, he probably got used to it and stopped talking about my hair.
But when I went out two days ago, he looked at me preparing to put my hat on, and suddenly said to me: "It's a little hot, are you not afraid of being laughed at by others when you wear a hat?" ”
"I feel ok, it's not too hot, wearing a hat is my own business, I'm not afraid of being laughed at." I responded to him with my hat anyway.
"But I feel so strange, can you not wear a hat today, it feels really hot today." He insisted.
"How? Did your classmate or teacher say anything? Why don't you insist you don't want me to wear a hat today? "I feel like he's a little bit wrong.
"No, in fact, I wanted to talk about you a few days ago, but I couldn't help but say it, I feel that today is very hot, and you will be uncomfortable wearing a hat." He looked at me very calmly and said, still with a sad look.
"Oh, since you're thinking about me, I won't wear a hat today, save myself a while it's hot, and there's no place to put the hat." I happily compromised.
Since he is not influenced by others, nor is it for his own face, but sincerely considers for me, I am willing to give in and cooperate.
One is to eliminate his anxiety, and the most important thing is to meet his emotional needs.
Let him realize from an early age that we do not ignore his views and feelings because of his young age.
But he started worrying about his parents at such a young age, and I was drunk.
04
The Buddhists say: One flower is one world, one tree is one bodhi.
Everyone who comes into this world is an independent being and an individual, regardless of age, should be treated and respected equally!
