Everyone longs for freedom, but when adults pursue freedom, they ignore the freedom of their children. In the recent TV series "Dear Child", Zhu Zhu is such a typical example.
In "Dear Child", Zhu Zhu, played by Zhu Yanman, was originally a well-behaved woman, but what people did not expect was that she slowly became a third party and fell in love with a man who was married and had children.
Why did the original well-behaved girl become such a rebellious girl? In fact, from the interaction between Zhu Zhu and her mother, it is not difficult to find that Zhu Zhu is like a marionette in her mother's hand, which is also the root cause of the tragedy.
Zhu Zhu's mother is a very strong woman, and her discipline of her daughter is extremely strict. Zhu Zhu was young and in the most beautiful age of her life, Xiao Lu gave her a lipstick, and like most girls who love beauty, she couldn't help but apply lipstick, but her mother didn't allow it.
Zhu Zhu's mother believes that she is not thinking of making progress, not doing the right thing, and has to let Zhu Zhu wipe off the lipstick. In front of the strong mother, although Zhu Zhu was unwilling, she could only choose to obey and wipe off the lipstick.
In the play, Zhu Zhu is a marionette in the hands of her mother, the most obvious thing is that Zhu Zhu even needs to listen to her mother's arrangement to eat, let him drink milk, Zhu Zhu does not dare to refuse, can only execute.
Although Zhu Zhu's mother, it seems that for Zhu Zhu's good, arranged everything for Zhu Zhu, in Zhu Zhu's mother's heart is the best path. This is also what many parents do for their children, and they may arrange everything for their children, hoping that their children can walk more smoothly and smoothly on the road of life.
However, for the sake of the child's good, the parents ignore the child's feelings, so that the child loses himself and has no freedom. This led to the root cause of Zhu Zhu's final transformation from a well-behaved girl into a rebellious girl. From the moment Zhu Zhu and Xiao crossed the road and chose to climb over the railing, Zhu Zhu began to regard going against his mother's wishes as the beginning of his pursuit of freedom.
This is also like most rebellious children, in order not to become a marionette in the hands of their parents, for freedom, in order to be able to make their own decisions in their own lives, they began the rebellious road against their parents.
The mother's education of Zhu Zhu is very strong, and zhu zhu is not allowed to have any behavior against herself, only allowing Zhu Zhu to obey, in order to get rid of her mother's control. Even if Zhu Zhu was a little third, he deserved it for granted, which also became a reasonable thing.
Because Zhu Zhu saw this as the beginning of his pursuit of freedom and autonomy. Zhu Zhu's distorted personality and life are not closely related to her mother's failure in education?
Know that there are not many people in the world who succeed under the arrangement of their parents. Those who tend to have successful careers are not likely to be marionettes in the hands of their parents, but people with strong independence.
They have their own pursuits, for their own pursuit and continuous efforts, rather than under the urging of others' arrangements, to take the road planned by others, so that the children who grow up in education can only become a copy of their parents, and can not achieve transcendence and breakthroughs, I believe this is what any parents do not want to see.
The future belongs to the child, we can protect the child for a while, but we can't protect the child for a lifetime. In the end, the future needs to let the children go on their own and soar freely. If we want our children to become eagles soaring in the sky, then we should learn to let go and give children the opportunity to choose independently, which is also a kind of tempering for children.
In addition, we also need to give children the opportunity to bear their own mistakes, from small children may continue to make mistakes, children will also grow up in the continuous mistakes, we need to give children the opportunity to pay for their own mistakes, because these mistakes for children are not much harm, but also children can bear.
If parents deprive their children of the opportunity to pay for their mistakes from an early age, then children always grow up under the wings of their parents, and how can they face greater difficulties, greater mistakes, and more pain when they grow up in the future?
Rome is not built in a day, children are not able to grow up in a day, children can not grow to a certain age, can grow up, bear all the pain, failure and setbacks, if you want children to become strong, independent, brave, then you need to exercise from a young age, let children from again and again small failures, mistakes and pain to get tempered and promoted, so that in the future children face greater setbacks and difficulties, in order to have the courage to face, to solve problems independently.
Without their parents, they will be useless and will not be able to withstand any wind and rain. Other children may, in order to get rid of their parents' control, constantly oppose their parents, sing against each other, and go to the path that their parents least want.
I guess neither of these situations is what parents want to see. On the road of your child's growth, do you also unconsciously regard your child as a marionette in your own hand?