Yesterday I read a book and saw this sentence of Mr. Yang Dai, and I liked it very much.
Yang Said:
"I never regret being good to anyone, even if I look at the wrong person, even if I am disappointed, even if I hit the south wall,
Because I'm good to you, it doesn't mean how good you are, just because I'm good."
Deeply.
Many times, we pay, not completely disregard the gains and losses,
Just because I like the pure beauty of the process, in order to make myself leave no regrets.
So I am good to anyone, not because I want anything, but because I am willing to do it for my liking.
Even if you don't get anything, you don't regret it.
As this saying goes:
"If you give something and immediately want to be rewarded, you're just causing trouble for yourself."
The best attitude towards giving is to treat what is given as water to spill, to stop thinking about it, and not to leave the slightest concern in your heart."
Feelings require consensuality, and each other is willing to take the initiative to give, so that it is valuable.
The person who really has you in his heart never needs you to take the initiative, he will consciously give it to you.
But if you need to take the initiative to reach out, it is not what the other party is willing to give, and there is no point in demanding things.
There is no debt in life, others pay you because others like it, and you pay to others because you are willing.
Feelings are voluntary, and there is no regret in the past.
May you have the indifference of not owing to others, and also the sobriety of not wronging yourself, and be the master of your own mentality.
Teenage love, fragile and vulnerable. In the long life situation, it seems that it is not worth mentioning.
Therefore, few people will show their determination to treat teenage love, and few people are willing to let go of their self-esteem to retain.
We all feel that the future is long, we have a lot to offer, as long as we become better, there will be better people waiting for you.
And the truth, no one can guarantee that there will be better people waiting for you behind.
Bet on love and fate, and the odds of winning will never be predicted.
It's like going to the mall to buy clothes, just entering the door and seeing a good one, but thinking about shopping again, there must be something better to shop around again.
So later, I met a boy with very good material conditions, generous and gentle, spending money is not painful or stingy;
I've also met smart and interesting souls who will talk to you about quantum mechanics and parallel worlds.
In the collision with them, you draw the shape of ideal love, and then suddenly find that the person who is the most ideal is the person you first met.
After walking around the mall, I thought it was the best one to see at the beginning, so I turned back and bought it satisfactorily.
But the desperate part of love is that it crosses thousands of sails, and we can't turn back.
When I was in middle school, I participated in sports meetings, I didn't know how to apply sunscreen, and I was exposed to the sun for several days, which caused ultraviolet allergies, and my face was red and swollen, which was not good for a while.
But only once, I never had an allergy again, so much so that I forgot about my allergy to ultraviolet rays.
He came to my city this spring, and we made an appointment to meet, the first time we've had a good time since the breakup, at an open-air coffee shop.
I specially picked a quiet and comfortable position by the river, and before sitting down, he said can you sit in such a sunny place, are you not afraid of allergies.
I was suddenly stunned, and he remembered things that even I had forgotten.
At that moment, an indescribable taste poured out of my heart, an irreparable regret, and a helplessness to regret the beginning.
When you are young, it is very cruel to meet the love of life, and when you know nothing about the world, you always feel that you have a long time to come to Japan, and there are still a lot of time in life to meet and experience, so you easily choose to give up.
But time has passed, and after going around, I found that in fact, fate has already given you the best as early as earlier, but you don't want to believe it, go around a big circle, and love many people wrongly, only to suddenly realize that the best has long been easily missed when you are young and ignorant.
But I was thinking that the so-called "favorite" may be to use missed proof, in the love sample experiment, accumulated several different types, in order to compare who is the best one, but often when this is realized, there is no chance of remedy.
Even if you comfort yourself that the next one will be better and better, it is only comfort.
Yang Said:
"If people want to grow, there must be a reason, and the effort and accumulation behind it must be several times that of ordinary people."
Different degrees of indulgence will accumulate different degrees of stubbornness; different degrees of exercise will achieve different degrees of achievements. ”
Deeply,
Life is a big game of chess, and if you take a detour here, you may have accumulated energy there.
One day it will pack up every effort you put in and give it back to you.
Today's fruit, yesterday's cause, life will have its own echoes, all the efforts, will not be disappointed.
I like what Haruki Murakami said:
"Everyone's talents and encounters are different, and when you choose to start doing something you like, it's not always a smooth road.
There are encouragements and blows, but since you like it and enjoy it, you must stick to it. ”
Life will make you understand in countless falls that all the roads you have scribbled or tried to travel have traces to follow.
What attitude you look at the world, the world will respond to you.
The meaning of our efforts is to be able to do what we like in the days to come, and we also have the courage to refuse things we don't like.
When you pay peace of mind, what you reap will be reasonable.
May you, in the days to come, look up and whisper to the people you love, and bow your head to be busy with the things you like,
At any time, believe in your own likes, and be a person who has love in your heart and light in your eyes.
Jelly said: Don't believe that the coming to Japan is long, don't think that the unknown is a surprise, the paradox of life is that it always likes to see you disappointed.
The coolest thing in love is not to find the best choice after the big wave, but after you identify a person, do not give up, hold each other together, and spend the rest of your life hand in hand.